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Title: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on January 31, 2011 at 10:23 PM
Hello Everyone,

I just got put on official bedrest for the rest of my pregnancy :(.  I am 26 weeks today.  It all started last week when my ultrasound indicated my cervix had shortened to 1.6.  I also had contractions last week and received 2 shots to stop them, plus the steroid for my little girl's lungs.  I spoke to the doctor today and they will be starting me on progesterone injections next week.  I am a type A personality who is used to nonstop running around and I don't know how I am going to do this bedrest thing for the next 14 weeks.  I also live alone with very little family around.  I don't like to read, except when online - love TV, but how much of it can I actually watch?  How are you all doing it??  It's only been  days and I am absolutely going crazy!  I know it's what I need to do for my baby, but how do I keep my sanity while doing it? :(.

Anyway, nice to meet you all, it's nice to know there is a support system out there to count down the days with me!

Lori
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: arenee22 on February 01, 2011 at 01:02 PM
HI Lori

I don't have a lot of experience with bedrest, just started it myself last week. The ladies on here have been very helpful to me though.
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Angela on February 01, 2011 at 02:17 PM
Why does bedrest seem to happen only to Type-A people? Seriously!  :D It's great to hear that you will be getting the progesterone injections. They have proven VERY effective in prolonging pregnancy. There's more info on that here: http://www.keepemcookin.com/prevention.aspx Please check it out!

I know it's daunting when you think of the weeks you have ahead. Soon though, you'll get into a routine and it'll seem a bit more manageable. Don't hesitate to call friends and family to visit you often. They can bring your favorite restaurant meals, and movies, and you can be the best friend ever because you'll be so excited to listen to somebody else's drama!   ;)

I know you can get your baby to term. My cervix was 1.5 cm at 24 weeks, but with progesterone injections, nifedipine, and bedrest, I made it to 39 weeks with my son. SO worth it! Keep us posted!

And keep that baby cookin',
Angela

P.S. You may want to print out this list of preterm labor symptoms and keep it on the fridge or somewhere you will see it regularly: http://www.keepemcookin.com/symptoms.aspx
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on February 01, 2011 at 11:02 PM
Thank you for all your advice...I found your article on preterm labor the most informing article I have come across.  It answered all of my questions, especially about cervix length, what it meant and the various treatments available.  Did your cervix elongate at all during the time you were on the bedrest with the shots?  I would just like to be able to enjoy a dinner out once or twice a week, it would really make a world of difference in keeping my sanity lol.  I also started that daily medication for contractions today, I am hoping it will make me so lethargic that I'll be in a state of hibernation until my daughter gets here!

Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Aylw88 on February 07, 2011 at 04:05 PM
I just left my house for a car ride yesterday! Just to get some air & change of scenery..we ran errands as a family so it was kinda nice to have some normalcy again, even if I didn't get outta the car :)
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: LoransMommy on February 08, 2011 at 11:31 PM
I used to dred errands, now I would give an arm and a leg to do them!
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on February 09, 2011 at 09:35 AM
Me too.... :(
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: tntmom on February 09, 2011 at 10:03 PM
Lori:

I just wanted to you to know it's completely normal to feel like you're losing your sanity. I think all of us have been there and will probably be there again at some point until we have our babies safe in our arms. It's so hard to go from being able to do everything to barely doing anything. I've been told that some people learn how to knit or sew because then they have an end product to look forward to. I however am not that talented!

I tend to try to schedule my days somewhat. Even if it's just that I'm going to call a certain person at a specified time or whatever. I try to make sure I have contact with the outside world as much as possible just to feel "normal". I also tend to research things forever just because I have the time. I do a lot of online "shopping".....I love looking at baby stuff and household stuff although I can't afford to buy anything....but I'm also the type that loves to look through catalogs as well, maybe it's just me though? I also tend to get sucked into news websites. There's also a lot of places that have games online for free that are worth checking out.

I know a lot of what there is to do is somewhat mindless....but it'll be worth it if it gets you through. I also learned through some other really wise momma's on this site to set up small goals. Even if it's just to make it another day...or week....

Good luck to you!!!!
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Angela on February 09, 2011 at 10:40 PM
Hi, Lori!

SO glad the article was helpful to you! I wanted to tell you that my cervix did indeed lengthen while I was on the 17P injections and bedrest. At 24 weeks I was at 1.5 cm in length. Later in the pregnancy, an ultrasound tech who I had seen before asked me if I was on 17P because my cervix was longer than last time. I don't know by how much though. I wish I had asked; I just was too happy to ask I guess. I've talked to a few OBs since then about the change, and I have been informed that the cervix can be dynamic, gaining and losing length.

Which anti-contraction medication are you taking?

Angela
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on February 09, 2011 at 11:07 PM
Well that's encouraging Angela...I am getting my 2nd 17p shot tomorrow.  The doctor gave me procardia as well, but said she didn't think I had to take both if I didn't want to.  I read some things about Procardia online and I'm a little skeptical so I will hold off on that medication for now and stick with the injections.  I just want to get past this bedrest :(
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Angela on February 09, 2011 at 11:20 PM
I understand not wanting to take anything more than what you have to! I started Procardia/nifedipene at 24 weeks, with increases in my dose and/or frequency every few weeks to keep the contractions under control. So, it's good to have that in your tool box if and when you need it! My little guy made it to 39 weeks! It was a constant struggle, but it really is doable. 

I was wondering, could you ask your doctor about going some place not that far away to do your bedresting on occasion? Maybe a friend's or family member's house? The change in scenery can make a difference in your mood, make it all a little more bearable. I was able to "bust out" of bedrest for my best friend's wedding at about 34 weeks and then a haircut at 36 weeks. As you get further along, ask your OB about outtings. Also, there's a wonderful group at BetterBedRest.org that offers weekly phone buddies. You might try that too, just to change things up. You can call them or sign up online.

I'm so glad you found us! Keep us posted!
Angela
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 06:52 AM
Thank you Angela,  yes my doctor said they will ease up around 34 weeks on the bedrest.  Honestly, I am more comfortable being at home, sitting at someone elses house would probably cause me more anxiety of feeling like a burden.  I love my house, and normally I am very comfortable being there and being alone.  I think it's more of the frustration of knowing that I am not "allowed" to do anything like work, shop, sit up, walk, lift etc...  I was a very independent person prior and was always busy doing things.  Drives me nuts that I can't even clean the house or push around a vacuum.  And when I do leave the house to go to doctors appointments, I actually feel very out of sorts, weak and once I'm out I am scared and can't wait to get back home?  It's kind of odd...and I fear what that's going to be like when they finally do let me get back to my routine, am I going to find it more difficult to get back to living amongst the outside world?  I feel like I am in some sort of "out of body" experience right now....bedrest plays numerous games on your mind and your body.  Well 27.5 weeks now, my target goal is 34 weeks, which helps me feel like it is closer.  The worst part too is I spend a lot of time worrying about anything else that can go wrong now.  I read of these awful stillbirth stories at 36 weeks etc....and I try to stay positive, but being on bedrest makes it hard b/c I'm already in a bummed out mode!
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: mckoygirl on February 10, 2011 at 09:15 AM
@ Lanespoli,
I've felt the weakness too! I think part of it is the inactivity and muscle weakness from being on bedrest, the other is probably nerves. I want to figure a way to bring some lightweight (3 or 5 lbs) dumbbells in my bedroom and do some upper body work while laying down so I don't go completely flaccid. Sounds silly, but I keep thinking how am I going to hold TWO babies in my arms if holding a jug of water now exhausts me?!
You know, its sort of sounds like prisoners that get so used to being in jail, they can't make it in the outside world after they're released. I hadn't even thought about that in my case, but I can see why it would worry you. I think part of motherhood comes naturally, along with the desire to provide. You'll get back into the swing of things, at a slightly different pace.  ;)
You ARE getting closer. Each and every day. Keep it up.
That's wonderful you are already 27/5 weeks. When I was in nursing school (years ago) the age of viability was 27-28 weeks. It's 22-23 weeks now, which amazes me. She would live now if she was born. You are now fighting for her to give her a normal life and to take her home with you from the hospital. Each day she's inside is a week less in the NICU. Just think of each day as a little conquest.
 This isn't forever. This is NOT your life. This is a blimp in time that you will be able to talk about later in reminiscence. 
Keep your chin up.
I'm thinking about taking up knitting... going to find someone to get me some yarn and needles and teach myself hopefully. ;D  Should be interesting seeing as I have NO crafting talent.
Melody
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Aylw88 on February 10, 2011 at 10:51 AM
Lanespoli,

OMG soo true! I feel too scared to go out now & breathe a sigh of relief when I'm back home!  :o I feel the weakened muscles instantly & it scares the crap outta me ugh..

Mckoygirl,

I keep hearing from drs here that a baby has no real chance before 28 wks  :-\ I think it's part of their scare tactic to get me to stay completely horizontal which I have anyways. I guess they knew I was the independant type lol..In any case it worked & its embedded in my brain to not get up because I refuse to not go full term!  ;D
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 01:11 PM
So true Melody and Mckoygirl....  do you really think though that we have to honestly make it to 40 weeks?  I keep thinking that every week I make it is a blessing, but I also worry that every week past a certain point opens up more risks for stillbirth, the cord getting wrapped etc....  I read so many sad stories about women who lose their babies  around 36 to 38 weeks.  It's happened to 2 of my sisters friends.  This is all so stressful :(....
Title: Re: Just Put on Bedrest - How to cope
Post by: LoransMommy on February 11, 2011 at 03:41 PM
I think 37 weeks would be ok, although full term is obviously best. I would be ok with delivering at 37 weeks, but ONLY if Loran was perfectly healthy. That would mean 3 less weeks of bed rest!