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Title: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Angela on February 07, 2011 at 07:21 AM
Hello, dear bedrest mamas!

I'm not sure we can top last week's Roll Call, with the delivery of so many healthy babies! What an inspiration! I wanted to point out to Reaganh3 that she's the most pregnant mom we have on the Forum. Way to go! I also noticed several new members who joined last week and posted messages. Let's make them feel welcome!

How's everyone else? How many weeks are you? Any appointments to look forward to this week?
Keep 'em cookin', mamas!
Angela

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Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 07, 2011 at 08:38 AM
I'm still cooking!  35W+4d today.  I will get my LAST 17p injection on Wednesday.  I'm getting very excited as the big day approaches.  At the same time, I worry if I will have the energy to deliver a baby.  Just taking a shower and doing a half-ass job of drying my hair is enough to get me winded! 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 07, 2011 at 12:38 PM
Will be 28 weeks tomorrow and have another appointment on Wednesday. I think that will be my norm until Loran comes. All is well from the weekend...not very many contractions and just finding different ways to keep me occupied and different locations in the house to do my bed rest :) I find that change of scenery helps me a lot. Although my bed is most comfortable because I have the most room.

I'm enjoying my house a lot right now because after moving in mid December, we have finally had the inside of the house painted and hung all the pictures, which makes this house feel more complete. Now we just need to finish the baby's room and it will officially be complete! We were married last January, I had surgery at the start of June, then we moved at the end of June to a townhouse that turned out to be a disaster area. After getting pregnant in August and starting my 2nd year of teaching at a school I was miserable at, and my husband taking over a business, we moved again in December because we just couldn't take it anymore at the other house. The lease would have been up when our son was a month old, and we figured we'd rather break the lease and move at 4 months pregnant than move at the end of the lease with an infant. There has been a lot going on in our lives during this pregnancy (and in the last year period), so it doesn't suprise me that I've been put on bed rest. It must be God's way of telling me to slow down and let people take care of me for a change. I'm the type that needs to do everything for myself and I just don't stop - ever!! Now I have to stop and let everyone do everything for me, which has been hard. But hopefully I will get the hang of it.

Just shared an eye-full, but as we all know, venting and sharing helps! Hope all is well with everyone else!

Made an edit to this post because I originally said I was 27 weeks tomorrow...jeeze, I'm losing my mind. I'll be 28 weeks tomorrow. Does anyone else lose track of what week you're on?!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: MrsBatman on February 07, 2011 at 12:39 PM
I am new to this .. so not sure I will do it correct..
I was put in the hosp at 28 weeks pregnant for pre term labor. In 1.5 - 2 hours I dilated to 3cm and 50% effaced. I was kept in the hospital from Saturday to Monday when my doctor was finally on duty and I begged her to send me home to my at the time 7 month old ( she is now 8 months ) She agree and put me on home bed rest. I am trying my best but having a hard time sticking to the rules... but I am still cooking the twins. I go back to the doctor on Wednesday and will be 31 weeks that day!
Twitter: ashleyssouth
mommy to Destiny (7) Ross (my angel in heaven born at 22 weeks) Helena (8months) and B/G twins on the way!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: arenee22 on February 07, 2011 at 12:54 PM
Hello ladies

woo hoo, one more week in

I am 28 weeks and no drs visits this week. 

I will post more later
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 07, 2011 at 01:00 PM
Yes, congrats everyone! Another week down.  I'm 23 weeks 2 days, no appointments this week.  Very excited to know that in the event of pre-term labor, that there is now a slight chance that my little one can make it and that it only gets better with each day! 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: AWMama on February 07, 2011 at 01:06 PM
Hello!
    I'm new here (unfortunatley) but thankful to have you ladies to help me through this!  Here's my story:

27w 2d pregnant with b/g twins.  Cervical legnth scans went like this:
18w: 3.5cm
20w: 3.4cm
22w: 2.8cm (modified br)
24w:2.6cm (continued modified br)
26w: 1.4cm, .5cm dilated, having ctx.  Admitted to hopsital, started on Mag gtt and given sterioids.  Spent 48hrs on mag and when checked again had dilated to 1cm, so they kept me for another night while they started me on Procardia.  I tolerated the 10mg Q6hrs and had no more cervical changes so here I am at home on strict br and taking my procardia.

I have another appt tomorrow, so hopefully there will be no changes!  Our first goal is to keep these babes cooking until we can get the second round of steroids, which will be not this Friday, but next Friday.  That will also get us to 29+ weeks, so we're hopeful!  Hope everyone has a great Monday!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Yvonne on February 07, 2011 at 01:16 PM
hey mamas!

Well we've hit another goal this week- 32 weeks!  That puts us at 4 weeks resting:)

Just got back from our ultrasound and the boys are weighing in at 3lb7oz each :).
My cervix is thinned out from 1.4cm 2 weeks ago to 4mm this week...pretty sure we lost at least part of the mucus plug this week so I'm really working hard at resting, not wanting to tempt fate.
Next goal is 34 weeks!
 All you momas keep up the good work!

Yvonne
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 07, 2011 at 01:22 PM
Good luck Yvonne - and all the other mamas.  Every day we keep cooking is better and better for our babies. 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: cheyman on February 07, 2011 at 02:20 PM
Hi everyone, I am also new to the board, so I am not sure exactly waht to say.
My name is Cheyenne and I am currently 22 weeks and 1 day pregnant with a cerclage baby.  I have been on bed rest for almost 3 weeks now and will continue to be on some form of bedrest until the baby is born.  My cervix is measuring at 3.59cm and is closed (it was funneled last week).  I am on bedrest because I have a Incompetent Cervix.  I delivered my last daughter at 24 weeks and she lived for 4 days, so I am thankful for every day that I have with this pregnancy and am soing my very best to stay down.
Thanks for allowing me to be part of the board. 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: kristinenicolle on February 07, 2011 at 02:42 PM
hi ladies! made it to another week and todays my birthday :) im 24!!!!

im 19 weeks. almost to the 20 week mark where i lost my babies before. crossing fingers that everything goes well and my cerclage holds up :)

other than that nothing new. just catching up on tv shows. im in need of a how i met your mother marathon lol

hope you ladies have a good week!

-kristine
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 07, 2011 at 02:44 PM
Happy Birthday Kristine!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: ML2011 on February 07, 2011 at 02:54 PM
Hello-

28 weeks!   On hospital bedrest 5 weeks now.

Cervix is staying the same (yea!) and contractions are the same (meds are keeping them under control)  I'm a little anxious because my daughter was born at 29 weeks and we are getting closer to that time.  I have hospital BR and medicine this time (plus docs and nurse right here) so staying confident we can make it many, many more weeks.

Great job everyone!  A warm welcome to those of you that are new  :)
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: MrsBatman on February 07, 2011 at 03:36 PM
Happy Birthday!!!!!
Are any of you ladies on BabyCenter.com?
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 07, 2011 at 03:57 PM
Hello! I'm new here too & this is my first roll call! Yay!

I'm 24 weeks pregnant & heading into week 3 of HBR..after my first week on complete bed rest spent at the hospital I begged my Drs to let me leave & rest at home...I am much happier here & home with my hubby & 2 boys :)

I have a dr appt & the first of bi-weekly ultrasounds this Thursday. So far my cervical length has not changed from 1.1cms since being on bed rest for which I am grateful for. The idea of being admitted in the hospital for the duration of my pregnancy is too much to handle right now..As it was, I was monitored last week for preterm labour when I went in for my betamethasone injections, that was scary :( Just a question, at 24 weeks is there anyone else with a quiet baby some days? It totally freaks me out but i try to not stress
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 07, 2011 at 05:23 PM
Hello ladies,
 Happy Birthday Kristine!
I joined Saturday of last week I believe. I am 18weeks, four days pregnant with twins, we aren't finding out what they are.  :D
I've been on bedrest for a week today for preterm contractions and a shortening cervix. My cervix last Monday was 3.68cm, Friday it was 2.7cm. I don't like reading up on what that means because I believe ultimately God knows what's going to happen, not the multiple articles indicating how early I may deliver.
 It is so encouraging to read all of your stories about your success and how far along many of you have made it!
I had a doctor's appointment today with my regular OB and seem to be holding stable. My external os (the outside of my cervix) has opened slightly, but it is still closed internally and I haven't thinned anymore. The contractions are better since they've started me on brethine and indocin as well.
I've never in my life (since I was 13yrs old, 31 now) stayed home, I've always worked 30-50 hrs a week, so these four walls can close in really fast!
I have a 5yr old daughter at home who is the light of my life, and my husband is anxiously awaiting the little ones (his first kids). My hubby travels a lot, so I'm at home alone with her more then I'd like to be on bedrest! Thank heavens for families living close by!
Good luck everyone, please keep us posted!


Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 07, 2011 at 06:48 PM
@mckoygirl...
Going from working your butt off to sitting on your butt all day is a huge adjustment!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 07, 2011 at 09:06 PM
Loransmommy,
It sure is! I work 12 hr days, 3-4 days a week, and was pulling clinical time 8hr days 2-3days a week in an urgent care center. I literally had one day off a week. I have been staring off into space a lot, I think I'm at a loss of who and where I am right now. Still in shock, but it's only been a week of bedrest, so I'm sure I'll adjust and find something to occupy my time. Any suggestions? :-\
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 08, 2011 at 02:08 PM
mckoygirl,
I have dvr so I just record lots of tv! Also, my mom comes over a lot and I have two dogs that keep me company. I do online shopping too! I'm also going to start cross stitching...I ordered a baby blanket that I'm waiting on to arrive. I play computer games and games on my iPad too. I like to rotate locations to lay down in also, so that I have different areas of my house to look at. I am 28 weeks now and started bed rest at 26 weeks. Technically 25 weeks, but my dr allowed me to go to work still...when I came home and on the weekends I had to lay down. I feel ok now, but I may change my tune after it's been longer. It also helps to have a weekly meltdown! I've had 2, each once a week, and I feel much better afterwards lol! My husband does a really good job making me laugh :) Talk on the phone and look into services that will come to your house. Like I have a groomer coming on Monday to bathe my dogs and give them a much needed haircut, and I'm trying to find someone to come and do my nails. I'm also going to have weekly pre-natal massages! My neck and back are killing me from having to stay in a certain position all the time. Anyway, I try to do lots of different things so that I don't go crazy all the time (just every once in a while).
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 08, 2011 at 02:27 PM
LoransMommy you sound like me! I'm attached to my iPad & surf & YouTube all day long..I just managed to do my nails over the weekend lol...I rotate from my bedroom to my couch for change of scenery hehe!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 08, 2011 at 02:35 PM
So funny... weekly meltdowns help, huh? I've had two this week, but seeing as it was my first week on bedrest, maybe that will get better!
I would love to have someone come do my nails, what a great idea! My husband has an Xbox, and funny as this may seem, it's nice to do something mindless like that.
I'm still taking one online graduate course so that's serving as a little distraction for me. Getting on this forum and following each other is helping me too. What are you all doing about getting your hair done? I have mine colored and cut and I'm not sure how I'm going to manage that, being on bedrest. (So silly to stress over that I know... it was just a thought.)
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 08, 2011 at 03:42 PM
I don't think it's silly one bit! It's things like maintaining your appearance that help! You have to keep your sanity somehow! I'm not sure what I'm going to do about my hair. I get mine highlighted as well, and I have bangs that need regular trimming. The guy that does my hair color lives out of state. He has a client list here in Houston and only comes every 3 months, so I don't care what my doctor says, I am getting my hair colored!!! He comes March 5th, so I'm hoping that my doctor will allow me to have a slightly more modified bed rest by then. She said she'd modify it slightly if things remained the same through week 30, and that will be exactly then. My baby shower is that weekend too, so I'm hoping for the best. I am due for a haircut soon so I better find out...
If your interested in online games, I have been playing on this website called gamershood online paradise for YEARS! it's www.gamershood.com You don't have to download anything, unless you don't have the most up to date flash player or something like that, and it's free. I love the room escape games and point and click games.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 08, 2011 at 03:51 PM
My hairstylist was nice enough to come to my house and do my hair.  A friend of mine also found someone nice enough to give me a pedicure/manicure at home too.  Now what I really need is my eyebrows waxed!  I'm starting to look like a werewolf (imo)!!!  LOL.


I just got my LAST 17p injection!!!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 08, 2011 at 03:59 PM
Talk about eyebrows and manicure and pedicure!!  That's what I need done!  When I go to the doc on Tuesday I was going to ask about sitting for an hour to get my hair done. 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 08, 2011 at 04:10 PM
Yeah...I was wondering about haircuts too ugh! I'm desperately needing a haircut but thinking sitting is defeating bed rest cuz it's still weight applied down there right? Sigh..luckily I don't dye or highlight my hair but it is long though!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 08, 2011 at 08:04 PM
Good news about mani/pedi...I found 2 different people that will come to me! I just will pick the cheaper one lol! One is going to charge an extra $30 to do a house call, which seems steep to me! I'll have to see if the other is cheaper when she calls me. This bed rest is expensive! Not only am I taking a pay cut, but everything becomes so expensive with all the online shopping (being charged for shipping) and services having to come to me! However, I did get free shipping from A Pea in the Pod when I called the store to order clothes I needed...I just told them I was on bed rest and couldn't come to the store. They had called me yesterday to notify me of a special savings offer that the store was doing. I needed a dress for my shower (that I'm going to have to lay down on the couch at the whole time) and was about to order online. I decided to call the store today to see if the offer was valid online. When they said no, I told them that I was on bed rest and not allowed to leave my house to shop. The sales woman immediately asked me which items I needed and she said she'd have them over nighted to me for free! I might use this bed rest to my advantage for other free things lol!

And yes, the sitting would defeat the purpose of bed rest. Wash your hair and lay down for 30 minutes, and then maybe if the cut only took 15 minutes or 20, then you layed down for a while and blow dried later??
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 08, 2011 at 10:11 PM
Ok, I washed my hair, went to her and she cut it and put the foils in it, then let me go home to wash it out myself.  So I was only sitting for around twenty minutes. We set the timer so I would know when to wash it out. Is that bad?! She lives two miles from here so I wasn't riding for long either. I feel better now!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 08, 2011 at 11:29 PM
That's not so bad! I'm sure it was fine to do that. My doctor specifically told me I was grounded...not allowed to leave the house. Although I left last week because we were having our house painted and the fumes made me sick. My mom picked me and took me to her house. I just hope that things will stay the same and my dr modifies my bed rest at 31 weeks! Maybe she will let me do stuff like hair and nails. That's all I care about leaving the house to do!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 09, 2011 at 08:10 AM
Good for you mckoy.  I would worry about driving 2 miles and sitting 20 minutes.  I bet that is closer than your doctor's office.  Think of the time you spending sitting in the car and waiting room and the exam room when you have to go to a doctor's appointment.....

Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 09, 2011 at 10:26 AM
I was put on bedrest at 25 weeks b/c my cervix was 1.6.  I am 27 weeks 1 day today, and the last 2 weeks have gone by soooooo slow.  I keep waiting for this to get easier, but so far it is still miserable.  I have exhausted myself in online gaming, research etc....and I hate to read.  I had a major meltdown at my doctors appointment on Monday, I was crying uncontrollably and sooooo depressed.  If I stop to think for a second about my frustration in not being able to do anything, the tears instantly come.  I go for weekly checkups and just started the 17p injections.  I just want this time to pass quickly, as this is the WORST and most challenging thing I've ever had to do.  I live by myself so it is extremely difficult to be totally immobile, I do have to cook for myself and I can tell you that my diet has suffered tremendously - lots of takeout and lots of junk food binges b/c of the misery.  My family all live up North except for an Aunt I have locally who does my grocery shopping for me, without her I don't know what'd I'd do.  I too, worked a lot prior and have a type A personality which makes this that much more difficult.  I miss my job, I miss my co-workers, I miss my daily routines.....I also do not get paid to be on bedrest, so that is additionally stressful b/c I am my only source of income.  And yes, my hair looks like crap b/c I get it highlighted as well, and my roots are about 2 inches long.  I don't even bother with makeup anymore or my nails.  I have no desire to have visitors so they can just sit there and watch me watch TV.  Tried it, and it just stresses me out more.  I know this all sounds soooo selfish, and I know I'm lucky I'm not on HBR, but I really wanted to enjoy this pregnancy, it was the happiest day of my life finding out I was pregnant as the doctors told me I couldn't have children and now I am on strict bedrest till the end.  Although one doctor (I see a high risk specialist every other week) said this week once I get to 34 weeks she will ease up SLIGHTLY on my bedrest so that is my new goal - to just get through the next 6 weeks which doesn't seem like very long until I think of it as it's a whole month and a half left to go...ugh.  I am 41 years old and it is my first pregnancy making it all that much harder and less enjoyable.

This site has helped reading everyone's stories, but it has also been harder b/c I see how lucky you all are to have husbands to help, freedom to online shop etc.... and for me it's just me and my baby and wondering how I am going to pay my rent or for food in the next coming weeks.  I try not to stress about anything for my little Gia's sake and I also remind myself that I was told I couldn't have children which devastated me and now here she is, my beautiful baby girl cooking away.  Prior to becoming pregnant, I was so depressed looking at everyone around me with children and being told that I could not have any.  I come from a large family and at one point dreamed of having 6 of them.  I never found my knight in shining armour to make that dream come true, so God had made that dream come true himself.   What little sanity I have left on bedrest is saved by reminding myself that I can honestly say that finding out I was pregnant with Gia when I was told I couldn't have children saved me from a life of constant depression and resentment due to my infertility.  I am truly grateful, God has blessed me with this pregnancy - Gia saved my life, and I know that now it's time for me to save hers..........

Good luck to you all, you're all in my prayers and I thank you all for being here the last 2 weeks since my baby house arrest started :).

Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 09, 2011 at 10:48 AM
Oh Lanespoli,  I'm so sorry that you are all alone and frustrated and not getting paid either.   
I wish I could think of some encouraging words for you.  I hope venting on the board will help you get through the next 6 weeks.  I have been getting the 17p injections - yesterday was the last one - I truly believe they work (at least they have in my case). 
Good luck. 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 09, 2011 at 10:51 AM
I'm so sorry Lanespoli :( I can't begin to imagine how difficult this has been for you. Stay strong & hold on, you're truly doing your absolute best for you & lil Gia (((hugs)))
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 09, 2011 at 04:46 PM
Thank you girls.... the one positive thing out of all this will hopefully be that labor and delivery will be a welcomed breeze compared to 3 months on bedrest.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 09, 2011 at 04:49 PM
I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now. I don't know what I would do without my support system. Thank goodness for your aunt. I understand about the junk food and takeout...I've gained 10 lbs in the last 2.5 weeks! All I can say is keep your eyes on the prize and thank God everyday for your little miracle. How lucky that you were able to conceive despite what the doctors told you! What a special thing. Focus on that and the excitement of meeting your little girl for the first time.
As far as income goes, have you thought about applying for short term disability? Surely there must be something you can do. Are you close with your parents? Maybe your mom could come and stay with you for a while. I wish there was more I could suggest.
I was miserable at my job so I'm super happy to not be there anymore. I was so unhappy that I started taking zoloft again. I had stopped taking all medications before I became pregnant and did pretty well for about 6 months. But then 4 months or so into the pregnancy, things at my job had me miserable.  I was crying everyday and wanted so badly to quit. And the pregnancy hormones turned me into a monster! My husband was very supportive, but he reached a point where he couldn't take it anymore either! The only thing keeping me there was my medical insurance. I talked to my doctor about it and she said it was safe for me to take zoloft at this stage in the pregnancy. I was also having sleep problems and she prescribed me ambien. I don't even take the ambien every night. I've taken it maybe 4 times total. And I noticed a difference in my mood almost immediately with the zoloft. Maybe it would help you too. Think about it and mention it to your doctor at your next appointment. Sometimes we just can't do it alone, ya know? Hope some of this helps. Good luck and we're all here for you!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 09, 2011 at 07:30 PM
Thank you Loran....unfortunately, I live in Florida and my family are all up in Connecticut.  They all work so it is hard for them to leave work to come down.  I am currently trying for short term and numerous state programs so hopefully one of them will come through.  The problem with the short term is it would be considered a pre-existing condition.  Furthermore, my employer will only hold my job for 90 days (darn corporate world) and I won't even have her by then so I am PRAYING that I'll even be able to return to work after I do have her.  I'm just more frustrated than depressed or anything else and because she truly is my little miracle I am petrified to take any over the counter or prescription drugs, except my 17p shot.  I even stopped the procardia (with my doctors permission) b/c of some things I read on the internet.  I used to take Ambien prior to be being pregnant b/c I could never wind down (strong type A personality) and I stopped taking it the moment I found out I was pregnant.  I'm too scared to take it now b/c I know I would end up taking it every nite.

I know this will all seem like a horrible dream come May, it's just finding that ounce of strength everyday to get me to that magical month..:).
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 09, 2011 at 08:16 PM
In regards to the Ambien, If you need to take it I'm pretty sure it safe while pregnant.  With my last pregnancy I was on HBR and the nurses were actually giving it to me every night to make sure that I was resting.  I would still ask your doctor of course, but I'm hoping that if they were giving it to me in the hospital that it was safe for both me and the baby. 

I'm really sorry that things are so tough.  Good luck and just so that you know, I'll be here hopefully until the end of May (due date June 4th) So I'll be here for a while along with some of these other wonderful ladies to keep you company and listen when you need an ear to listen to.

Kiah
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 09, 2011 at 08:32 PM
I understand about not wanting to take any meds! I know I need it though, and my doctor has said that ambien and zoloft are both safe to take, so I take them.
I am also due in May, so I will be around!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 09, 2011 at 08:53 PM
@Lanespoli,
I cannot imagine what I would do without my support system. Comparatively speaking, I would much rather go through HBR for 4+months (as I am now) WITH my support system, then go through 6 weeks alone. So I totally sympathize with you.
Through my company I pay for short & long term disability insurance, one of those freaky things you never think you're going to use. I just filed for it today because I have 6 weeks sick time and that's it. You may want to see if you have something like that through work.
Another thing... my employer told me after the 90days or 12 weeks FMLA, I could reapply for an additional 12weeks FMLA and have my physician fill out the paperwork so you may want to look into that.
As many patients as I see that don't work and have babies on welfare, there's GOT to be a government program out there that can assist you financially. Also, if you get "let go" at work for this,would you qualify for unemployment?
As far as the junk food goes... I understand. I've eaten more takeout lately when I'm home alone then I'd care to mention. My husband travels a lot, so I'm home quite a bit by myself (with my five- year old), so junk food is simply going to have to stay on the menu. My doctor on Monday commented about how next visit if everything is still stable, he will have to have a "chat" with me about my weight (I've gained 25lbs at 19weeks). I almost hit him. WHO CARES?!?!?! If my babies are staying healthy inside, WHO GIVES A FLIP about my weight?! I'll worry about that after they're born healthy! I'd recommend you do the same!
You made an awesome statement when you said God Himself has made your dream come true and allowed you to conceive. That means He'll get you through it as well. Don't doubt Him now! What you do now, staying strong and adhering to the bedrest, you're doing for little Gia. And let me tell you, coming from someone who has a little girl. I cannot tell you the joy she will bring you. My daughter is the light of my life. I still cry when I look at her sometimes. I had MULTIPLE miscarriages so she was a little miracle. I can see God all over her.
As far as the ambien goes.... it won't hurt you or her. I am a labor & delivery nurse and we give it all the time. And we don't give medicines that will hurt the babies. A lot of what you read online isn't necessarily founded. The only articles I would put ANY stock in are "evidenced based practice" articles published by medical journals.
Procardia and brethine are two drugs which haven't been approved by the FDA for preterm labor, but they still help a lot with the "background" contractions and braxton hicks contractions which may/may not be part of why your cervix is thinning. That's why they are so commonly used in preterm labor. I'm in a similar situation with mine. At 18weeks with twins I started having mild contractions, just tightening, really. I went on a Monday and my cervix was 3.68cm, on that following Friday it was 2.7cm. I was admitted, started on injections of brethine, then sent home on brethine. Procardia would have been the best medicine to put me on, but I have a heart condition and really low blood pressure and it is contraindicated in those conditions.
 Not telling you what to do, and by all means, read online, especially medical journals. But the last thing your doctor wants to do is hurt you or your baby. I hate to say this as well, but the last thing they want to have is a lawsuit. They won't prescribe anything that would hurt you or the baby. Always ask them too exactly what effects the medicine has, and what are the side effects and adverse reactions, and how common are they.
Keep on praying and hang in there. Know God is in control, and nothing you do can change that. Think of what a miracle story you have to tell! You're 41 and pregnant. If she was born now, she'd live. Little Gia needs more time, and no matter what the cost to you, it's worth it. Something I've learned since I had my daughter is NOTHING is about ME anymore! Part of motherhood 101. You learn it pretty quick after they're born. Unfortunately, you're having to learn this a little earlier.
 This is my second week of bedrest, and I've already have 3 emotional breakdowns (all in one weekend). I've heard they get better, and about one a week is actually therapeutic.  ;) You're grieving many things right now, one being the beautiful, stress-free pregnancy some mothers get to have. I understand that and I grieve with you for you and for myself. It'll get better. It will. I'm already finding strength in encouraging other mothers on this forum.
Please forgive my ramblings.... my heart goes out to you.
Melody
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: tntmom on February 09, 2011 at 09:49 PM
It's been busy in here this week. Welcome to the new members - it sucks to be in our situation but hopefully you will gain a lot of support through this board. It's one of the few places I've found where other people really get what it's like to be on bed rest. It's not a vacation by any means and it is sooo hard physically and mentally that I don't think unless you've lived it you could possibly understand it.

I had an appt today. 31+4 weeks today. Will officially have made it two more weeks than I did with my son as of tomorrow! Had my last FFN test and it came back negative. Since I also have gestational diabetes I will start to have NST twice weekly in a couple of weeks...however, my blood glucose levels have been within normal limits since I started testing so my OB isn't horribly concerned about that. My OB has changed her mind a bit about allowing me off of bed rest before baby is born so I'm going to be applying for short term disability tomorrow and praying that it goes through otherwise I'm not sure what's going to happen.

Someone had mentioned having meltdowns. I totally can relate. In fact I have at least one meltdown a week if not more depending on what has happened. Then I have days like today where I'm pretty content....I'm excited that my appt went well and I'm so relieved to have made it this far.

To all of our new members: Keep your eye on the prize. You can do this.....we all can! In the next few months we will be able to hold our babes and realize that every moment was well worth it! 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 06:38 AM
Thank you all for all your support, I really appreciate it.  And thank you too Melody, feel free to ramble anytime, I enjoyed reading everything you and everyone else had to say, it's nice to hear everyone's stories.  I really thought I had cleared all the big hurdles once I made it past the 12 weeks, then after the CVS test, then the spina bifida etc..etc....  I never saw this obstacle coming that's for sure.  I guess it's a good lesson and a reality check in becoming a mother now - that there will ALWAYS be unexpected hurdles and obstacles and all you can do is say your prayers and hope for the best.  I hope for a long and healthy life for my little Gia, and for myself so I can enjoy our time on this earth together.  I hope the same for all of you as well......
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 10, 2011 at 06:56 AM
Thats a good way to look at bed rest - its preparing us for motherhood with this extra-long exercise in patience.  :)

My bed rest is almost over now ladies.  I am 36 weeks today.  No more 17p injections - my baby girl is more than welcome to make her appearance any time now.  If I can do it, you can do it too.  Finding this board made my 11 week bed rest sentence easier.  Its nice to be able to vent after those meltdowns to people who completely understand the rollercoaster of emotions.  The women on this board have been very gracious and kind, and no one has ever written one bad word or any negative comment in response to one of my posts - I've never found another place online like that!!!!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 10, 2011 at 09:01 AM
@Reagan - How exciting! So happy for you.  :D You have definitely come a long way. We tell patients every day they keep the premature baby inside is 5-7 days less they'll have to be in a NICU. Think of how much time you've bought her with your bedrest! You'll probably leave the hospital with her within 2 days of having her! That's something every mother on here yearns for! Congratulations!
Keep us posted of when you have her and how much she weighs, etc.
Melody
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 01:14 PM
Wow, congrats Reagan!  I totally envy you right now and I can't wait for the day that I am writing your exact same post!  Congratulations!!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 10, 2011 at 01:18 PM
What a great achievement Reagan.  Can't wait to make it there...so happy for you!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 10, 2011 at 01:26 PM
I was on bed rest a full month before I found this website.  If only I had found it sooner....it has really kept me sane. 


Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 10, 2011 at 01:28 PM
I'm in my 3rd month now...I found it sooner but it was a little slow.  I'm glad it's picking up because its definitely keeping me occupied.  Being home alone is driving me insane.....
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 10, 2011 at 03:32 PM
I love this forum! My sister-in-law found it for me. My mom thinks it would be depressing but I keep telling her how positive it is. She has yet to look at it. It's a wonderful support system....you can be there for others and others can be there for you. 

I went to the doctor yesterday, and she said everything was looking good and has stayed the same! Next week she will do a ffn test. If it's positive then I will get a steriod injection for the baby's lungs. And if negative, then obviously all is well!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: arenee22 on February 10, 2011 at 03:39 PM
I posted this someplace else but just a quick question

Do your drs continue to check your cervix once they find its shortened?
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 10, 2011 at 03:43 PM
Mine hasn't shortened yet, they just keep telling me that its still long and closed and the cerclage is doing what its supposed to.  I am scheduled to continue with cervical checks until 36weeks so I guess my doctor would still look at it even it is shortened.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 04:06 PM
I go for weekly cervical length checks since I've been put on bedrest.  So far it has remained unchanged.  At least I get to get out of the house for a short time each week...
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 10, 2011 at 04:10 PM
Mine was 'short' back in Decemeber.  It was checked twice more after that - once in Decemeber, once in January.  Didn't seem like there was any rhyme or reason to it.
I can tell you that today at my 36 week appointment, the doctor checked to see if I'm dialated.  She said she would do it once a week from now on. 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: arenee22 on February 10, 2011 at 04:14 PM
well my drs nurse said that my dr isnt planning on checking mine again unless i am experienceing more sxs. I go back on tuesday and will talk to the dr directly
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 05:59 PM
So all you mommy's out there that had the cerciage done are on bedrest as well?  And all who were diagnosed with shortened cervix's and put on bedrest don't go to the doctors weekly for checks?  I wonder why mine makes me go every week, not that I'm complaining...  maybe b/c it got down to 1.6?
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 10, 2011 at 06:04 PM
I was being seen once per week (I have a cerclage), but when I got to about 20 weeks (I think), my OB took over from the perinatologist who did the surgery and decided that since I wasn't having any change that I could be seen bi-weekly.  I miss my weekly appointments though because it was something to look forward to going out once a week. 

I'm on bed rest and have been since 14 weeks when I had my cerclage placed (12/7).  I'll be 24 weeks on Saturday (10 whole weeks of bed rest...seems like so much longer)
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 10, 2011 at 06:07 PM
I have had a cervical length of 1.1cms for the past 3 weeks & I'm told I need bi-weekly ultrasounds..it has stabilized for now & I honestly think it won't lengthen from 1.1cms sigh..I was too late for a cerclage & my drs are not interested in messing around down there which is fine by me!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 10, 2011 at 07:51 PM
Yea, by the time they found out my cervix was down to 1.6 it was too late for a cerciage too.  I was upset that they didn't do one sooner when it got down to 2.2, but I guess it doesn't matter b/c it still wouldn't have saved me from bedrest if all of you have the stitch and are still on bedrest.

Wow, you have 10 weeks of bedrest under your belt?  Good for you, I'm going crazy and it's only been 3 weeks.  I was put on at 25 weeks so 15 weeks will be my total.  I am counting down the days and weeks like I was wishing my life to go by superfast which totally stinks :(.  I guess I should be grateful that I at least got 25 weeks to enjoy my freedom, independence and pregnancy...
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: keewee0630 on February 10, 2011 at 09:22 PM
yeah, I feel the same way. My mother in law was saying the other day that it seems like time is flying by.  I told her that I beg to differ. Time has been dragging like I have weights in my shoes.  I probably could have gone back to work after my cerclage but since I do research and work in a lab, I do alot of walking around and lifting, sitting and standing so they decided to put me on bed rest for extra precautions.  I think what makes it so bad is that I feel perfectly fine to do all the things that I would normally do, but I have to just keep my butt put and act like I can't do anything.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Angela on February 11, 2011 at 12:15 AM
Reagan, You bring up a great point, and one of my biggest challenges: What can we do to help more people find KeepEmCookin? Could each of you tell me, either here or in an e-mail, how you discovered KeepEmCookin? Was there a certain search term you used? Did you hear about it from a friend? From another website? Or did you find it on Twitter?

If I can figure out what works best, I can do more of that! Many thanks!!!
Angela

P.S. Ladies: Has KeepEmCookin helped you? Consider mentioning it and adding a link on BabyCenter (http://bit.ly/aeXWvU) or The Bump (http://bit.ly/95FWAI)  :-*

Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: arenee22 on February 11, 2011 at 08:13 AM
Well its Friday everyone. How goes it today? I am ok, my contractions have been more noticable again in the late afternoon/evening. I am kind of ready for the weekend and kind of not. It's not like I can do much.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 11, 2011 at 08:15 AM
I know what you mean arenee - the weekends have no meaning anymore!  Everyday is the same.  :(
It's like Groundhog Day, without Bill Murray.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Aylw88 on February 11, 2011 at 08:23 AM
Happy friday all :)

Same old here..resting & hanging around my couch lol..weekends are less hectic but my kids are home so they help pass the time a bit :)
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 11, 2011 at 10:22 AM
@Lanespoli & arnee
I have the shortened cervical length and they've checked it three times total (I'm 19weeks yesterday). I started having contractions last night, every 2-3 minutes for 2 hours, then every 4-5 minutes for 5 more hours. I was kind of scared so I called this morning and they want me to come in for a cervical length today. I think it's one of those things they'll do a few times unless you're having symptoms (contractions, pressure, etc).
The power of suggestion never hurts either.  ;)
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 11, 2011 at 10:30 AM
So all you mommy's out there that had the cerciage done are on bedrest as well?  And all who were diagnosed with shortened cervix's and put on bedrest don't go to the doctors weekly for checks?  I wonder why mine makes me go every week, not that I'm complaining...  maybe b/c it got down to 1.6?

I go every week and do not have a cerclage because it was too late in pregnancy to do one.  My cervix is 2.6. She doesn't do an ultrasound, just checks with her hand.

I think it depends on your personal situation and your personal doctor. Every pregnancy is different and so is every doctor. I'd rather be safe than sorry, so I'm happy to go once a week...I'd go twice a week if she told me too!


Oh and I have a question....I have always slept on my side or on my back. Obviously now that I'm pregnant, I stay away from flat on my back. But often I wake up during the night and I'm on my back. In fact, every time I wake up, I'm on my back. How dangerous is this really? I do roll over once I find that I'm on my back, but theres no telling how long I've been laying like that.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: tntmom on February 11, 2011 at 04:27 PM
Kind of frustrated. Woke up this morning....my water broke. So I got an ambulance ride up to a larger hospital with a NICU.

Currently 31 weeks 6 days. So every day I stay pregnant is a blessing at this point. I got one steriod shot already. Currently on continuous monitoring with some very mild contractions. Possibly one to three an hour. Drinking lots of water and also have an IV so I'm continuously getting the nurse to help me go to the bathroom.

My son is going to sort of be bouncing around between my mom, sister, and MIL. He is coming to see me tonight and I think I'm honestly more worried about him than I am about myself or our newest babe. I know we're in a good place for both of us.....and I just feel so bad for him cause he's such a momma's boy. Such is life though. He will survive and we will be home as a family as soon as we can be.

Outcomes look relatively good though, especially compared to my 29-weeker who is doing absolutely awesome. I hope we can continue our luck with healthy babies!
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Lanespoli on February 11, 2011 at 04:34 PM
Oh wow tnt I'm sorry to hear that.  Stay positive, you'll be fine and so will your baby!!  Remember it's only temporary and as you said, your son will be fine and you'll all be together soon enough.  You're almost 32 weeks, way to go!  Keep us posted :)...
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 11, 2011 at 04:43 PM
I've been where you are tntmom.  Luckily you are 31 weeks, your baby has great odds.
Seems like the hospital would be smart enough to put a catheter in, or at least give you a damn bed pan.  What are they thinking?  Getting up and down to go to the bathroom much more often is the opposite of what you need right now.  I had a catheter - it only hurts going in, after that its painless.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: tntmom on February 12, 2011 at 12:41 PM
Day 2 at the hospital and things are going well. They aren't planning on a catheter because of the increased risk of infection which is already so high. My bathroom is literally 3 feet away from my bed....I'm in a super tiny room this time. I actually take it as somewhat of a bleassing because this bed is hell! They did a sterile cervical check before I was sent by ambulance and my cervix was completely closed - go figure.

I feel like I'm reliving the same timeframe that I did with my DS. He was also born in February (Leap Day) and it's all so familiar at this point except that I'm more than two weeks further along. I'm officially 32 weeks today. I received the second steroid injection for baby's lungs this morning....which are all sorts of fun with blood sugars....my doctor here isn't concerned a whole lot about what my levels are. He said they should start to even back out within about 3 days. He didn't want to put me on insulin or anything other meds for the few days and risk any major low blood sugar levels either.

As long as baby is still cooking on Monday I will have a biophysical ultrasound. They seem really positive at this hospital which helps my anxiety levels immensely! It's still hard being away from my DS but we installed Skpe which helps cause then I can see that he's okay!

Keep cooking ladies!

Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: Reaganh3 on February 12, 2011 at 12:49 PM
tntmom,  Sounds like things are looking up.  I hope you stay 'completely closed' till Monday, if not much longer! 
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: mckoygirl on February 12, 2011 at 05:34 PM
@loransMommy,
The sleeping on your back isn't the end of the world, but when you do wake up roll over onto your side. I put a pillow behind my back, keeping me at a tilt and a wedge under my belly. Most of the time when I wake up on my back, because of the positioning of the pillows I am still at a "tilt". The problem with sleeping flat on your back is 1.) you'll have more contractions, and 2.) there's less blood supply going to the uterus and babies due to the weight of the uterus on one of your major blood vessels. It also increases your blood pressure due to the flattening of the blood vessel.

So it's not the end of the world if you end up on your back, just try to roll over when you find you've moved to your back. Lots and lots of pillows for positioning helps. I toss and turn a lot at night, so I always wedge a pillow behind one side of my back to keep me from rolling over. But, I am a back sleeper so I will occasionally wake up and find myself on my back as well.
Title: Re: Monday Roll Call for February 7
Post by: LoransMommy on February 12, 2011 at 07:49 PM
Thanks mckoygirl! I do have the tummy wedge but that's it (and obviously my pillow for my head). Its frustrating enough to roll from one side to the other while having to reposition the wedge pillow, so I just try to keep it simple. I'm constantly trying to get comfortable, as I'm sure the rest of the pregnant women in the world are, and throwing more pillows into the mix just makes it harder! I definitely roll over when I find myself on my back. I guess I'm just surprised at how often I find myself that way. I always tell my husband to wake me up if he finds me on my back, but he rarely wakes up during the night (unlike me - pregnant or not!).  Thanks for explaining the reasons for why back sleeping is not good. I always thought it was so that the umbilical cord doesn't get wrapped around the baby's neck.