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my update: my beautifull baby girl was born at exactly 37 weeks :) i was going to get up at 5pm on friday, at t end of week 36, but my waters started leaking at 4pm so i called my partner and waited for him to get home and drive me to hospital. I onlu started having mild contractions on t way there. Long story short: labour progressed slowly, i was only 5cm dilated at 6pm and by 1am i was screaming for an epidural. Wish i had asked for it before, but i had been promised a short 'painless' labour. Turned out her head was in a weird position even though she was head down, t doctor had to twist her around... In t end her heart rate started slowing down and t doctor had to cut me a bit and take her out with forceps. She also had her umbilical cord around her neck!
She didn't need any special care at all and as she was officially  born at 37 weeks (she as born at 3.43am!) they weren't worried. They noticed she was yellow 2 days later and tested for jaundice, test was positive so we had to stay extra time in hospital while she had light therapy and i had to express to top up. Not sure if she was slow to eat because of t jaundice, but only 1 week later she seems to have learnt to open her mouth properly to latch.

Anyway, another sucessfull bed-rest story! And t midwife told me as z matter of fact,  while i was in labour,that bed rest is proven not to work! Haha... Really???

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for May 21
« on: May 22, 2012 at 10:30 PM »
36w3d :) but only 35w if you go by my lmp ??? I'm taking myself off strict bedrest this weekend. I don't know how anyone can hold a book and turn pages for very long while lying on their side, (i only read 1 book since on bedrest, it was boring and wish i hadn't bothered haha)  i spend most time reading t news and stuff on t internet and replying to emails on my mobile phone. Maybe i've been too strict... But for people and doctors who are still debating if bedrest works, i have to say i got this far on bedrest and progesterone pessaries only - if anything i wonder how much difference t progesterone made, since i was doing t treatment for about a month before i went on strict bedrest and t progesterone didn't seem to make any difference. It's been interesting to read about all t different bedrest approaches (sounds like a lot of people spend a lot of time on their feet!) and t different treatments everyone has been offered.

I've need some advice/reassurance from those who went into labour and had IC and/or were already dilated for a while... Basically i've been reading some 'horror' stories of women who had very short labours and didn't really feel any contractions, even women whose labour went so fast they delivered at home :( short and painless labour would sound wonderfull if it wasn't for t fact that i'm at least half an hours' drive ro t hospital and my partner will be at work all day! So i'm really getting worried about not worrying enough? I just hit 36w and now am getting really anxious... I've been having a lot of pelvic pressure but think this is probably normal. My belly keeps getting hard on and off, but no real pain. I'm just waiting for it to get painfull, but is it going to get painfull? If at least my waters broke i would phone t hospital and get going...

Anyway, i'd just like to know if anyone had a fast labour with no warning, if you don't feel contractions how are you supposed to know? Do i have time to call a cab? I'm guessing t baby won't come out till i push but i read some stories of women who just didn't realise what was happening untill t baby's head started popping out :O should i stop reading nonsense on t internet or what???

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Finally back home
« on: May 20, 2012 at 04:10 AM »
there's no guarantee of how long bedrest will work and everyone's case is slightly different... But doctors might as well say 'do what you like, in t end of t day it's not my problem!'. I was released from hospital when i got to week 28, cervix at 1cm, with no clear instructions regarding how strict to take t bedrest. I didn't bother asking coz in t end i do what i thougt is best: keep it strict! I was on modified bedrest initially and it didn't seem to make any difference, but when i was kept in hospital my cervix lenght stayed stable. I've just got to week 36, i was 2cm dilated 5days ago, and have t feeling i'm going any minute, getting more cramps, loooooads of discharge, lots of pressure... But i'm still staying in bed (standing and sitting up just don't feel confortable anyway!), one more day, and then one more, hopefully another one after that. My peri had mentioned letting me go out for lunch if i reached week 34 but by week 32 she wasn't bothering measure my cervix anymore. Like i give a flyin fig about going out for lunch after all this! It's just good to b out of t hospital, but i would recomend keeping it as strict as you can for as long as you can. There's no proof that bedrest works but for IC i believe it makes a hell of a difference. Don't beat yourself if for whatever reason you can't keep it strict though, coz your mental health is just as important! :)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for May 14
« on: May 15, 2012 at 01:14 AM »
35w2d and still on very strict bedrest. Had hospital apt today and cervix is 2cm dilated. She said it will b very quick once I go into labour, so get ready. Not expecting to make bed rest work much longer now. Got back in bed and still being strict. Felt a lot of pain and cramps for about 2hrs after t internal exam so wonder if it made t cervix dilate even more :o

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Time Magazine
« on: May 14, 2012 at 06:01 AM »
i know what you mean. It's just that while there is freedom of speach i will speak my mind. Too many women don't because they fear being called judgemental. I find that even though everyone screms 'choice', t reality is that women are being put under pressure to breastfeed, and now to breatfeed for longer for 'benefits' theories of MDs and 'research'. I sadly witness a friend struggling to feed her premature baby for months, and everyone kept telling her she must persist coz it's better for baby and child. I watched her and her baby suffer because if t benefits of breastfeeding. She finally gave up and started using formula only. 2 months later both baby and mother were 100% healthier and happier. If she hadn't been so brainwased by all t breastfeeding propaganda/information, she would have given herself and t baby a much better start. Just something to think about, instead of going by what you read in t news. Good night, and good luck :)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Time Magazine
« on: May 14, 2012 at 04:46 AM »
i appreciate that. But it's a bit misleading to call a blog 'information'. A blog is one person's opinion (sadly most blogs are just me me me me listen to me). I also try not to be judgemental, but find that more often it is me who's being judged because i don't conform to what everyone else is doing. So you can imagine i'm a bit concerned with t possibility that in  Y years time will b told that i'm not 'mom enough' coz i chose not to breastfeed?

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Time Magazine
« on: May 14, 2012 at 03:56 AM »
sure, bottle or breast, it's an individual choice... Assuming t individual has t choice! But i still think breastfeeding till t age of 3 is unnecessay and sick. Why not carry on till t boy goes to college? T health benefits for mother and 'baby' would b t same!... Still on t personal choices subject, i did not get my boobs out in public before i got pregnant so why do i have to start now coz others are happy to do it?

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Time Magazine
« on: May 12, 2012 at 12:43 AM »
i think t article is there to expose t excessive 'parenting' that some people go to and get people talking. It's like putting even more pressure on women to just to become milking cows as society will expect them to do that. I agree that breast is best for t first 6 months, as babaies aren't really ready do eat any other food, but if t mother happens not to have enough milk (or if like in my friend's case she needs to be on medication that makes her milk dangerous for t baby) there's nothing wrong with formula. My mum had 9 kids and if i remember it well she often used formula as 'top-up', and none of us turned out seriously demented or anything. She also had better things to do with her life than sitting around breastfeeding when we were capable of eating at t table like normal people! I'll b lucky if i can breastfeed at all for 6 months and then i plan on stop breastfeeding by t time t baby is one year old. I seriously think women are being put under too much pressure to even breastfeed, it should b your choice. Sometimes there is no choice, like in my friend's case, and t whole breastfeeding pressure just added to her post-natal depression and stress. If human milk is sooooooo important and so beneficial, why aren't we buying it in t supermarket? There's women out there who have to much milk and could make a buck out of this!? Maybe women should just spend t rest of their live pumping milk like cows, for t benefit of t rest of society? I think it's absolutely ridiculous (and sick!) that anyone suggests it's OK to breastfeed a kid untill their 3yrs old, and i am quite happy to get into a heated debate about it. A 3 year old should b able to eat with knife and fork, not suck from a tit!? That woman just wants her kid to be dependent/attached to her for as long as possible. Wonder if she's still going to wipe his arse when he's 10yrs old!?

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for May 7
« on: May 07, 2012 at 10:15 PM »
34w3d and getting more and more paranoid about every little pain or discomfort. Stopped t progesterone pessaries 4 days ago and think i'm finally feeling t braxton hicks contractions, or at least i'm telling myself that's what they are. Never felt any of this before. Had some 'period pain' for a few hours a couple of days ago and felt pressure and like i wanted to push - but didn't push obviously! A friend told me it soundes like real contractions, but i've had worse period pain and this was constant pain for a few hours. Am so sick of bedrest and wonder if being so strict is going to make any difference. Trying to stay positive... My partner is going to have a nervous breakdown soon! I'll give myself till week 36 before i get up, if i can make it to week 36. One day at a time. Every day counts right?!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Childbirth Prep
« on: May 02, 2012 at 10:26 PM »
i used to worry about that too (my main worry now is that i have no strenght in my legs or energy to walk let alone deal with pain and push)and read as much as possible on t internet... That made me realise that everyone is different and really you just have to turn up and 'put on a show' and try your best, you might have t quickest hassle free labour in history, or you may have t most complex birth-plan and nothing goes to plan...  :o  sorry, no script, no rehearsal, no second take, just get on stage and deal with it ;D good luck!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Lay in bed, sofa or recliner?
« on: May 01, 2012 at 09:33 PM »
ps: sorry i went on a bit... Meant to say: i lie in bed all day, it's more confortable. Also, realised while waiting 1hr for my appointment, that i am getting big now and it's not very confortable sitting up - even t baby was complaining about being squashed! ;)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Lay in bed, sofa or recliner?
« on: May 01, 2012 at 09:28 PM »
everyone is different and there's no way to find out if you're doing too much or too little. I think it all comes down to how paranoid and worried you are. I wasn't being too strict during my first 2 weeks of bedrest at home, i was having showers every day and sitting up to have breakfast, lunch and dinner... I was even doing a bit of washing up now and again... So 2 weeks later my cervix was half t size, down to 8mm and i was put on hospital bedrest - only toilet privileges and even lie down while eating (eat everything with a spoon). My cervix stays stable since. I only shower 3 times a week and haven't washed my hair in ages (too long to dry). Shaving??? I got so hairy during this pregnancy hahaha... I feel like shaving my belly too! But shaving can wait :) maybe i'm being too obcessive but i rather b safe than sorry. To me strict bedrest means strict. Lying down all day and only get up so i don't pee in bed. Myperi had mentioned before that she'd let me go out for lunch and start getting up a bit if i get to week 34. I'm on week 33, saw her yesterday and she said to stay on bedrest and if i make it till t next appointmet, in 2 weeks... Everytime i see her she's really surprised i'm still cookin. I don't think she realises how strict i've been. Being so strict is driving me mad (i started giggling uncontrolably in t waiting room, twice, for no good reason! I'm really losing my marbles!) but i'm just so paranoid i rather b safe than sorry. It sounds stupid but i rather have stinking greasy hair one more day than have a baby in NICU one extra day.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / vertigo
« on: April 29, 2012 at 11:00 PM »
hi! Not sure where to post this... Anyone else suffered from vertigo since on bedrest? I had it for t first time 2 weeks ago, didn't know what was wrong with me, went all t way to emergency only to b told that 'it's just vertigo', try not to do sudden movements (like i'm doing anything vaguely active in bed!) bla bla bla... Anyway, i felt dizzy for a couple of days and it went away. Yesterday afternoon it came back with a vengeance! I wasn't able to move, felt like i was under anaesthetic or some drug, my partener had to pick me up and take me for toilet trips. Today he's gone to work and i'm feeling a lot better but still holding on to t walls on my way to t toilet. Nearly fell off t toilet seat, i just can't keep my balance... My peri just shrugged her shoulders and said she didn't know what to say, probably to do with pregnacy and will go away... Am i supposed to be on bed rest stuck at home all day on my own and just put up with this? Should i see an ear-specialist or is there anything i can take to stop t dizziness? I'm not just on bedrest now, i'm completely frozen, can't even move my head...if anyone has suffered from vertigo, please help! (I'm not talking about pregnancy dizziness and nausea and low blood pressure, i'm talking about falling off a 10 storey building and not being able to lift your head, falling like a log if i try to sit or stand up - dangerous!). Thanks.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Just frustrated today...
« on: April 28, 2012 at 09:40 PM »
thanks for putting things into perspective! I thought my MIL was annoying, but she's really harmless!... I hope that everyone, including your husband, relise what she's like and just laugh it off, coz she's really not worth stressing about. As long as your husband always puts you first, you really needn't worry about her.

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