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Making the Best of Bed Rest / Finally =D
« on: June 09, 2012 at 11:08 PM »
Would just like to announce the birth of our beautiful baby girl, Holly Marie! She was born last Wednesday, June 6th. My water broke at home and she was here within four hours. Things were moving quite slowly until my OB moved a separate water pouch and things got rolling right after that. I wanted and epidural but as soon as the guy came in to give it Holly was on her way out! She was born at 37 weeks and 4 days at 8:20pm. She weighed 6 lbs and 11 ounces and 19 1/2 inches long =D She is absolutely perfect and I would just like to thank God and all of you ladies who put up with me this whole time =) I hope to remain here every now and then to help support others but I will not have to deal with this again! I got my tubal yesterday and have no regrets ;) At least until I have no newborns anymore and my baby itch comes back, but I'll be okay! Haha! Thank you all again, you are all soooo amazing! We are home and resting now!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Accomplished
« on: June 02, 2012 at 02:50 PM »
Today I hit the 37 week mark =) WOW!

My first two were born at 34 and 35 weeks and here I sit wondering what in the heck I am still doing pregnant. I went to see my OB (who I would recommend to the world) and she walks in and was like "How in the world are you still pregnant???" I told her I had been wondering the same thing. This pregnancy has been by far the worst with the short cervix and starting to dilate at 23 weeks. I have been dilated to 5 for over 7 weeks and when my OB check me on Thursday I was dilated to 6! I am about 15 minutes away from the hospital so I thought it was a little risky sending me home as I would have to pack up my two kids which would make for about a 25-30 minute trip to the hospital, not including time it would take to drop them off at my mother in law's. Anyway... I'm just having a great day and feel amazing... 7 weeks in the hospital, so much stress, and now I am okay.... it's a huge weight off of my shoulders! I have been out of the hospital for 3 weeks and basically off of bedrest for 2 weeks and have only went into the hospital once for contractions and that was the day my husband's grandpa passed! I have a great feeling of accomplishment even though I have been feeling like I have been doing absolutely NOTHING since February! Thanks for all of the support and listening to any rants I might have went on and reading my relentless posting over the last several weeks! You women are amazing ;)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Time Magazine
« on: May 11, 2012 at 03:57 PM »
I realize this topic is going to get exhausted but it is very interesting to me and I'm not completely sure where I stand on the whole thing. I think breastfeeding is absolutely awesome and when I look back I am kind of sad that my experience with breastfeeding is discouraging me from even giving this baby a shot. My first two never wanted to latch... I tried all the time but could only pump and give it in bottles, which was okay because at least they still got the milk. Unfortunately it's SO much work with all the dishes it makes and then as soon as you're done pumping you have to feed the baby and then as soon as that's done you don't have very long before you have to pump again so I never lasted more than a couple of months =( I know I could have done it but I always felt like I was never getting a break. Anyway, my opinion is that breastfeeding should be the first option but personal choice comes before all and all lifestyles differ. However, I do not believe that you really need to have your baby on your boob until he/she is 3. I feel like it's more of the mother not wanting to let go of their child rather than the child getting much out of it besides being way to attached to their Mom. I don't know much about the attachment style of parenting but I would actually like to read this article in Time. I have slept with my children while they were babies many a time! A lot of times it was the only way I could get them to fall asleep, but I don't think my son has slept with us since he was 6 months (he's only 9 months but I doubt now that he sleeps alone and is comfortable he would fall asleep with us) and the same with my daughter. Anyone know more about attachment style parenting? Has anyone read the article? I don't mean to start a heated debate.... Just wanted to see what other people were thinking on the whole thing!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Seriously =O
« on: May 05, 2012 at 01:33 PM »
I am just bored and not feeling too hot today so I just thought I would type up something =P Yesterday I was very crampy and had moderate lower back pain all day. I understand this could be from lack of movement and lying in a bed all day but I think things should be taken a bit more seriously. I told my nurse last night because the cramping got worse and then I was getting really nauseous and she's leaves the room and is like "I hope your tummy feels better". What?? I just told you I was in pain and have been for most of the day and she's treating me like I'm a child who hasn't already (and recently) had two children. Not to mention we should take it a little seriously because I'm already dilated to 5! I feel like any time I've even mentioned anything about a contraction or pain it's brushed off as absolutely nothing and that I just need to go pee! Ugh... I know what is normal and what is okay, I don't complain about much but if it's enough for me to say something, it's probably more than your other patients would tolerate! I don't like making big deals of nothing! Does anyone else who has been on hospital bedrest feel the same way?

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Need a bit of advice =)
« on: May 03, 2012 at 10:12 PM »
My daughter... who is 21 months has spent the last few months being introduce to the potty chair. Whether she sits on it voluntarily or while being coerced with her favorite show or whatever. She has yet to use the potty even though she will sit on it for an hour at a time! My husband so wittingly taught her to say "psssst" while sitting on the potty chair =) It is quite hysterical but I hope she doesn't continue to make this potty noise as she grows! Anyway... I have no idea where to start with this potty training stuff! Do any of you moms have any advice??? She's been taking her diaper off for a quite a while but is really starting to make it a habit lately. Yesterday made two times where my husband went in and she had taken off her diaper and wiped poop all over herself and EVERYTHING (luckily I've been in the hospital both times so I didn't have to clean it or her... hahahaha). She does take off her diaper in the night quite frequently... probably about 4 times a week! You used to be able to just keep pant on her and it'd be alright, but obviously it's time to buckle down on the potty training and buy some pull ups ;)

I'm also worried that me being here is messing her up... like just making her life a little weirder and that she might not be able to focus on this. Also bringing home a new baby isn't going to help even though she already had her brother. She will be very distracted as she LOVES babies, so do you guys think that we should just deal with the diaper bandit and wait to buckle down for a little while or what??? So confused =P

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Buried in lemons...
« on: April 29, 2012 at 05:57 PM »
I realize I just posted a rant YESTERDAY... But I've had enough as of today! I haven't seen my husband and kids since Thursday and my heart is broken because they couldn't make it today either ='( There's something wrong with my car... I just want a ride home, right now... I can't take anymore!!! ='(

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Just frustrated today...
« on: April 28, 2012 at 03:42 PM »
Today hasn't turned out to be as bad as I might have thought it was going to.... I woke up and of course while I'm sitting here in the hospital the only thing I have to look forward to is if I might have ordered something new for lunch (because they finally let me start ordering from the cafe), which is usually at let down being hospital food and all, or if visitors are coming, especially my babies!!! So I'm on the phone with my husband and his Mom is beeping in which annoys me even before I know what she's going to say or whatever! See, my mother-in-law is like... I can't even describe it without sounds like a horrible person but if you guys knew her, you'd know what I'm talking about! She had my husband when she was 15 and hasn't stopped having babies, she just had her last one in January! That boy was born an uncle =) She has had 6 total pregnancies and has been an avid smoker throughout every single one of them and even smokes while holding her newborns (second baby she's had since I've known my husband). I totally don't agree with smoking while you're pregnant and really think anyone should be able to quit for the health of their children, but to each their own and I don't like to judge! Anyway, I could really go on alllllll day about her but if you're still reading this, I will spare you! So she beeps in and asks my husband if he can take HER son because her FIVE kids are driving HER nuts because her husband (or lack there of) who sits on his a** all day and YELLS at all of those kids is in the hospital FOR THE WEEKEND. She insists my husband take him INSTEAD of coming here to let me see my kids. I don't mean to sound selfish but I am now working on my 5th week in this hospital and I'm sorry for not feeling bad for someone who really deserves to be in the hospital because he's a rotten person and doesn't take care of himself whatsoever! She KNEW he was coming here today and that's what makes me angry... The last thing I want to look forward to seeing my kids and having it all changed by some selfish mother-in-law who can't control her own army of children.

I really sound like a horrible rotten person but we're talking about a women who encourages her daughter to drop out of high school when she turns 16 and doesn't encourage her to do well and doesn't help her. She has a great heart and there's no denying that but this is a woman who... It's not even worth it... I am just so hurt and frustrated by this woman today more than ever before, and she has done some unmentionable things to me and my family. Luckily I haven't let it completely ruined my day and enjoyed my own Mother's company for a while, so that was nice =) I'm sorry, I just had to vent... Maybe I should start my own blog like a lot of you guys so that I'm not always complaining on here =P

Oh and by the way it is almost 4pm and if her son was driving her so up the wall at 9AM this morning when she called and suggested my husband neglect his wife and take her child she would have dropped him off to him by now, which she has not... What an idiot.... UGH!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / What are the chances?
« on: April 23, 2012 at 11:26 AM »
I have been in the hospital for 3 weeks and the main reason they're not sending me home is the fact that I dilated to 5 and had 2 bouts of preterm labor... So my doctor says she's going to check me later this week (I'm guessing she wants to get another week out of me to make it to 32 weeks) to see if my cervix is the same or whatever. She says that if it's less than 5 or something she will consider sending me home?!?! I'm confused... Can a woman "undilate"? I will be ecstatic if that is the case!!! I am just kind of mad at her because what are the chances that my cervix really could have gotten better??? I don't want to get my hopes up but she just cut my "sentence" down from another 3 weeks to a possible only 1 more week!!! Ugh... What a rollercoaster! Hahaha... What do you guys think?

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Just For Laughs
« on: April 19, 2012 at 11:09 PM »
This article made me laugh out loud... by myself... in the hospital =) This woman is pretty vulgar about the new things a baby brings. I think it's funny because I'm on my 3rd child and have been through all of this so I can remember everything on this list happening to me which of course is NOW very comical but may have not been at the time ;) Good read!

A video might pop up when you get to the site but in the top right corner it says "Continue to sight" or you might have to wait a few seconds for one to play out!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Super Dad
« on: April 17, 2012 at 02:04 PM »
I just wanted to type up something about my amazing husband =) He is being so great through all this and I couldn't ask for better! He has been unemployed for a little while so he's kind of used to taking care of the kids for 8 hours a day, but he says this is totally different for him. Me being in the hospital makes his job 100x harder because I don't come home and make dinner and help with the kids and provide him with company (I stayed home with our daughter while he worked for a long time and I figured out that an adult needs another adult's company every once in a while when you spend all day with a baby). Regardless, he does a great job and I don't tell him how much I appreciate it enough. He's the sweetest guy... I loved the name Emma for our little girl, but he didn't like it and liked Emily better but one day he came home when I was on bedrest at home with a card and had written in it that since I had to go through all of this I could name the baby Emma! How sweet!!!

Needless to say he is a man and has A LOT on his plate so some things slip his mind or don't register as important. There isn't much I can do about this so I just sit back and laugh at him and let him know it isn't a big deal and I just wanted to share some of it with you guys if you needed something to do!

Bills/Mail- My husband was told by someone that they had sent him something in the mail (which was for something relatively important) and he discussed this with me the other day. I asked him if he had looked at it and he simply said no. I asked him if he had been looking at out mail and he says no and that he had just been getting it out of the mailbox!!! WHAT? I do most important bills electronically (thank God or they wouldn't have electricity over there!) so not MANY important things come in the mail but I had to express to him that important things do come and the mail needs to be sorted through and if he couldn't do it then he could just bring it to me in the hospital and I would do it!

Clothes- With not much to do on bedrest at home, I folded laundry and made sure matching clothes were on hangers and together in dressers. My husband has gone through all those clothes so I bet there isn't much left on the hangers or in dressers. He does wash the clothes but I don't dare ask where they are at the moment! My daughter came in, in clothes from three different outfits most recently! It was hilarious. Oh, and her poor hair! She has beautiful blonde hair and I love to put it in pig tails do it all up. My husband is clueless of course so her hair is often straggly and I just have to laugh at it because I can't sweat ALL the small things!

Food- Two words for this category... HOT DOGS.

There are a lot of other little things that he does that I just laugh at =) I can't wait to get out of here and bring a happy, healthy little girl home and things get back to normal. Right now my husband and I have the same goal which is to keep our children's lives as stable and similar as possible. I can tell my daughter is beginning to notice I'm never at home and my son almost seems like he's forgetting who I am. Of course my husband reassures me that this is NOT the case but the guilt I feel for not being there for them pretty much always wins out. My husband deserves a metal for all his work and I know he does the best he can and I thank God for it =)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Slap in the face =(
« on: April 14, 2012 at 01:48 PM »
My husband was just here with my two babies and this was the only thing I could think of that would distract me well enough even though all I'm doing is typing about what I'm trying to distract myself from!

My husband was here for the first time when the doctor came in to check on my... Of course he had to ask how long I'll be here since I always seem to brush off the question and say "I don't know," when I really do know and just hate talking about it. It was like a slap in the face when the doc was like "Oh about another 4 and a half weeks." Yesterday was two consecutive weeks and the third total week =( I'm not such an emotion wreck as I was the first week but everyday I struggle to stay positive. Then I read all these articles about how most doctors don't even believe that bedrest works! I truly believe it does between my own situation and all of your stories, but still it seems so discouraging! Like, why am I even staying in the HOSPITAL if you don't think this is EFFECTIVE!?!?

I know being 5 cm dilated is cause for rest and why I shouldn't go home but it's terrible sometimes. Tomorrow will be better though, life will go on and I will break free of this hospital someday... I'll just try and keep reminding myself...  :-\

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Happy Easter =)
« on: April 08, 2012 at 08:22 PM »
Hoping spirits are higher today than they have been lately =) Just wanting to wish everyone a Happy Easter and hoping your families spent as much time together as possible!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Feeling Crappy...
« on: April 06, 2012 at 07:57 PM »
My husband and my daughter came to visit me today and they just left. She was actually awesome today and they got to stay for quite a while which I was really pleased with! I just hate when it comes time for them to leave... It just makes me so sad that I can't go with them. I just want to cry in a ball in the corner of the room!!! I try to be strong when my husband leaves because I know it upsets him to and he feels the need to be strong but as soon as the door closes I just bend over and ball!!! I feel like a big baby but it's almost uncontrollable!!! Being stuck here is breaking my spirits quick... Sorry to be so  negative, just so upset!  >:(

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Onto the third and taking it tough....
« on: April 03, 2012 at 06:49 PM »

My name is Stephanie and I am currently 28 weeks pregnant with my third child! My story is pretty simple... I got pregnant with a little girl in 2009 and carried her uneventfully until 35 weeks. Shortly thereafter, we got pregnant with my son who I also carried uneventfully until he was almost 35 weeks. I worked through both pregnancies and had pretty demanding jobs each time. Nothing went wrong or anything like that and I gave birth to two perfectly happy little preterm babies. I had my son July 31st, 2011 and then all of a sudden we found out in November we were pregnant yet again (much to my surprise). I knew this couldn't be good for my body, having babies this close together (since my daughter was born just one year and 10 days before my son) could not be good! Well I put off going to the doctor (which was stupid) because I was kind of embarrassed (which I'm married so it shouldn't matter to anyone whether or not I'm pregnant all the time). I had my first ultrasound at around 22 weeks and was immediately put on bed rest which was no big deal. Of course I became worried about our finances and a little upset that I wouldn't be able to help with my 20 month and 8 month old. Needless to say, I knew it could be worse so therefore I just did what I was told. They found that I had a short cervix and sent me to see doctors an hour away where they specialize in high risk pregnancies. After my second visit to the specialist they admitted me to the hospital because I was having contractions and became dilated to 2. I was here for what seemed like a long, long, long hard week. I got sent home and returned to the specialist a week and a half later or so and they said things were stable and to just remain on bed rest and didn't even want to follow up with me! Well, the Friday after that I started having contractions just laying on the couch. I headed into the hospital and was put back on MAG and dilated to 5! So here I sit.... In the hospital, away from my two beautiful children and my amazing husband! I am worried about this baby coming, but I know that I am in the best place if anything was to happen. I struggle being away from my kids, I can't even talk about it (or in this case type about it) without blubbering like a fool. I know what I have to do, but I can't help but to just want to go home. I want to lay on the couch at home but they're saying I will have to be here for a month with this being my second admission for preterm labor =( I'm at a serious loss as to how to deal with all this emotion and heartache. My house is about an hour away so my family can't come see me everyday and it puts an even greater strain on our bank account with gas being over $4. Of course my 20 month old gets a little crazy being stuck in this room for more than an hour so it's hard to have her here and it's hard on my husband to have both the kids here at the same time. I don't get to see them interact and every time they leave my heart just breaks even more. I try to be positive because I know how lucky I am to still be carrying my baby girl instead of visiting her in the NICU but it's so hard to remain positive cooped up in the hospital... Any advice??


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