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Making the Best of Bed Rest / unsolicited advice
« on: April 06, 2011 at 08:00 PM »
how do you ladies deal with the unsolicited advice that you get from family members/strangers? usually i dont have an issue with it. some are quirky, some common sense, some actually help but some in particular i just can not stand. maybe im hormonal but i just cant deal with some people anymore.

Background: my aunt is a NICU nurse. she had my cousin at 32 weeks. my aunt was put on bed rest due to heavy bleeding around her 16th week. my cousin was measuring behind schedule so although she was born at 8 months, she was born blind in one eye, without a nose, without a proper bowel system plus much more. she spent 3 years in the hospital and has had over 30 surgeries. my cousin is now 26 but is a slow mentally & needs daily medicines to regulate things. Although she can't drive since shes considered legally blind, she's independent, works & has graduated college.

So, my aunt knows I'm pregnant & that at 36 weeks i will have my cerclage taken out and can resume regular activities. She constantly tells me that if i dont make it to 40 weeks baby jacob will be premature and his brain wont function correctly. That if i go into labor before 40 weeks, ill have many problems & baby jacob wont be 'normal'. Full term as we know is anything after 37 weeks. I highly doubt that doctors would be taking out cerclages at 36 weeks if they thought it would affect the baby. Im definitely not the first person with IC/cerclage nor will i be the last. 

I don't want to sound rude, nor do i want to argue with her especially since she's family. I understand that her work & past experience has led her to be more cautious but there is a way she could go about talking to me. Every time she speaks to me, it's so abrasive. I've asked my doctor every question about my pregnancy that I could think of yet she still insists that she's correct & that my doctor is a quack. (I see a high risk OB who doubles as a professor at the UCLA medical school, is chief of the OB board & is world renowned). It just seems like she feels the need to repeat what she has said to me every other day & it just gets me so upset & my pulse gets higher. She always has an opinion regarding what i'm doing or how baby jacob is developing (he's developing a week a head) & its never positive. It's as if shes the only person not excited about the pregnancy & always wants to remind me that something bad could happen. I've had 3 miscarriages (2 at 20 weeks) & have never made it this far. LET ME BE EXCITED! LET ME DREAM ABOUT MY NURSERY & WHAT BABY JACOB WILL COME HOME IN!! I'm trying to be very zen right now & don't need added stress or drama. I just want to focus on my hubby & keeping my baby cooking.

I have no idea how to go about the situation. She wont shut up. It's more annoying than anything especially since everything in my pregnancy is going great & she says it in that "i'm right, you're wrong" tone. Maybe im being hormonal/dramatic/irritable whatever. ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY and im about to go off on her.

Sorry for the rant lol

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Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Cerclage and IC
« on: December 27, 2010 at 06:46 PM »
hi everyone! my doctor has officially diagnosed me with having an incompetent cervix. so within the next 2 weeks im going to have a cerclage. has anyone had one in the past? what does it feel like and what will the days following be like? will it be difficult to have a bowel movement? im very nervous when i go into new situations so im trying to get the most information. thanks!

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / my story :) 4 time....
« on: November 25, 2010 at 03:25 PM »
hi ladies! some of you may remember me some of you may not...

anyways my name is kristine. im 23 (almost 24) and i live in california. my husband is currently in Afghanistan and should come home in May. I recently found out Im pregnant and this is our 4th pregnancy. Im around 10 weeks and HAVENT been to an OB yet. My insurance is lagging real bad especially during the holiday season. (its making me nervous!) ok...our first pregnancy resulted in PTL @ 20 weeks. I had no idea what had happend and what caused it. My doctor pretty much brushed it off, said with it being my first pregnancy there was no way to tell that it would happen. She said i might have in incompetant cervix. our second pregnancy resulted in a MC at 6 weeks. not much we could have done there. recently (May 2010) i went into PTL at 19 weeks. I was seeing a high risk OB every 2 weeks getting my cervix measured & getting the P17 shots. Everything was going good! One day, I woke up to pee and noticed my plug had passed. I had felt NOTHING. it wasnt until i became more dilated that i started feeling contractions. unlike my first pregnancy were i had no idea which came first my contractions or dilation. this time i knew for sure which came first but i also knew that it wasnt going to end well. Sadly we lost our 3rd baby :(

now, im pregnant again and im nervous as all hell. my husband isnt around and my family doesnt seem to understand what im going thru & why im reluctant to do much of anything. im around 10 weeks and i KNOW for a fact that i NEED a cerclage im stressing out that i wont be able to get an appointment for a cerclage before the 16 week prophylactic mark. :( im hoping and praying that everything goes well and that nothing bad happens this time around. i just dont know how much more heartache i can take.

well thats my story. thanks for letting me vent. :)

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Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / lower back pain
« on: April 29, 2010 at 11:58 PM »
Hi! I have a question!

Im 15 weeks pregnant and for the past 2 days Ive been having lower back pain. I just saw my OB today and he said that it could be a sign of preterm labor but as he was doing my transvaginal and abdominal ultrasound said everything looked good. Im not on full bedrest yet. Hejust told me sit and lay and take it easy. My back pain is strictly in the lower back and in the center (my spine). It usually happens if I sit up (in the car or on a recliner) as opposed to laying down completely in the supine position.

Is this something to be concerned about or is it just my bad posture?

Everything during this pregnancy has me very nervous.  :-\

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / new here & happy to have found the site
« on: April 29, 2010 at 11:51 PM »
Hello everyone!!

My name is Kristine and i am so excited to have found this forum. A little about me. Im 23 years old. Married to my DH (3 years) who is in the military currently training for his 3rd deployment. Anyways, I had gastric bypass surgery in 2008 and have been very irregular with my cycles, had PCOS and honestly thought i'd have to to do IVF. I lost 100lbs and my periods became regular.

In january 2009 became pregnant with our first child. I didnt find out until March and by then my husband was already in Iraq. Things were good. I was happy, excited to be a mommy. One day, May 27th, at exactly 20 weeks I woke up as usually to pee. When i was finished something wasn't right. I felt a pop but didnt think much of it. I continued my day, went to target where i used the restroom and my plug had passed. I was feeling contractions but at the time i didnt know what was going on. I guess it was ignorance/denial. I went to the ER around 5. They sent me to L&D where i was there for hours before I had any sort of ultrasound. By then, the baby was already down in the birth canal. I was in shock and pain and more than anything wanted my husband there. My OB had informed me that there was nothing she could do. I was so far into the labor process that if she couldnt do much of anything. The following day, I was induced and went into labor. Our little son was born and passed away half an hour later. It was the most painful and emotional thing of my life. Luckily, my husband was able to come home on emergency leave and consol me for a few weeks. To this day, my OB has no idea why i went into preterm labor. It is still very hard to speak about and has affected my life in many ways both physically and psychologically. Im so glad to have found this site. It gives me so much hope.

Later in the year October, i became pregnant again and sadly lost that one at 6 weeks. At this point Im losing hope in my ability to become a mother. Im feeling guilty and i became depressed. I begain to see a therapist, and she helped me cope with what had happend. In January of this year, I found out that I was pregnant for the third time. I immediately told me general doctor to told me i must see a high risk OB and thats where Im at. Im currently 15 weeks pregnant. Nervous beyond belief. I see my OB every 2 weeks to have my cervix measured. My OB had found ureaplasma and Ive been treated with 2 rounds of antibiotics and so far it hasn't gone away. I just had cultures done today so im crossing my fingers that the bacteria is gone for good. Next week I start my 17p shots and im hoping that goes well. Its 5 weeks until Im at the 20 week mark where i lost my son and im so anxious. I have no idea what to expect. Im crossing my fingers, praying every night. I just want this baby healthy and full term.

Anyways, thats my (long) story and Ive said it before but im very glad I came upon this site. I hope to get to know some of you ladies  ;DThis forum is just what i needed.

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