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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: SCH and on pelvic rest
« on: March 14, 2018 at 02:50 PM »
Hi TR!

I have been on BR for 4 weeks tomorrow after they saw funneling, diagnosed me with an IC and gave me a rescue cerclage. There are still lots of tough days (yesterday was one of them for me), but it does get easier. I was really bitter at the beginning and felt robbed of a "normal" pregnancy - this is the first time I have made it to the second trimester. So your feelings are completely normal. I am also thousands of miles away from family and live on an army base with no friends close. I try to make time each day to FaceTime with someone, or at least chat to them on the phone. I have taken up crochet and given myself a (simple) project to work on. I read, watch Netflix shows that I have been meaning to watch for ages, and write in my journal. I also sent out a plea on Facebook to my friends and they have been sending me things - magazines, letters, books etc. People want to help, especially when they are too far away to visit. Positive thoughts are a must and resisting the temptation to Google everything!

Sending good thoughts your way.

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Pregnant again after early loss
« on: March 13, 2018 at 04:27 PM »
I'm gatecrashing your conversation! Hope you don't mind! EnglishRose and I have "met" and share the fact that we are both English expats! But I was excited to read that we three almost share a due date as well. I'm due August 19! Quick intro: I've been on BR since week 13, after my doc saw funneling and gave me an emergency cerclage. I live on an army base which stinks, because friends have to travel and get a pass to get on base and my family all live 3,000 miles away! I am a "Billy-no-mates" right now!

I'm excited to read that you both have been feeling kicks and movement. I haven't been feeling anything, but I am told (and hope) that is normal since I have no other children. My 20 week scan is in two weeks and cannot come soon enough!

Sending out good thoughts to you both! :)

Hi all!

17w1d here. No appointments until the last week of March - the longest time between cervical length checks since the emergency cerclage. I am trying not to stress too much about that, especially since last week's appointment went well.

Staying motivated is all down to the people around me: my mum back in England wishing me a "Happy First Mother's Day" (their Mother's Day was this past weekend), words of encouragement from my friends, my husband bringing home little treats (just because), and my gym friends sending a video of themselves in our normal Saturday morning class.

EnglishRose23 - I'm rooting for my fellow Brit over here. I'm sorry you have had a few scares this week and I'm sad to hear about your fur baby. The constant snuggles from my dachshund has made this bed rest time so much more bearable, so I know how precious they are to us. Sending good thoughts to you all and hoping the news from the vet is better than what you currently expect.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for March 5, 2018
« on: March 06, 2018 at 08:16 PM »
Have missed all the live chats because my weekly check-ups have been Tuesday afternoons!

I'm 16w2d and have been on bed rest for almost three weeks after a threatened miscarriage/funneling and emergency cerclage. Update today was positive: cervix is 3.95cm and no sign of funneling. We also got to see the little stinker in 4D! We still have a long road ahead but the positive stories on here keep me going!


Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for February 26, 2018
« on: February 26, 2018 at 04:23 PM »
15 weeks here, too. And my first Monday roll call!

I feel a lot like EnglishRose23, that the joy of a pregnancy has been taken away from us and replaced with worry and anxiety. What I really wish I could change would be my jealousy. My good friend has just announced her pregnancy to me, a day after my ER visit. And whilst I should be a really good friend and feel nothing but happy for her, I feel really guilty because I am jealous. She came to visit me last week (which is really sweet and I love her for that), but she is already planning baby registries and showers, and her husband and her have decided on baby names and the paint color of the nursery. I watched her talk about it all with this huge beaming smile and I felt jealous. And then I felt bad for feeling jealous! I wish I could make all of those plans without having to wonder, 'What if it doesn't work out?' I hid it, of course, and waited until she left before I had a little cry.

So now I sound like the worst friend ever! I really am a nice person and I am not usually this self-absorbed! It's all still very new and raw, so I'm in that adjustment phase.

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: New to this
« on: February 23, 2018 at 10:15 PM »
Yay for finding another English expat in this group! :)

I have many friends who live in the same city as the hospital with the NICU, so would have plenty of places to stay should the need arise. That's a good idea to start going there after 22 weeks.

Ugh - even the thought of that makes my heart hurt. 22 weeks seems so far away. I'll reach 15 weeks this weekend. I find I am more negative in the evenings; I guess being tired from the day - not that I am doing much!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: New to this
« on: February 23, 2018 at 04:05 PM »
Thank you everyone!

That is reassuring to hear that 3.5cm seems to be a good length at this point. My doctor said it in an "it's ok, least of our worries" kind of way. But she also knows that I am super anxious and desperate to hear that everything is going to be fine from now on, which she obviously cannot say.

@reasontohope Thank you for your advice. I am being seen off-base because my husband didn't want me to deliver in an army hospital and I was hoping to use a birthing center. Being "high risk" now, probably stops that from happening. My OBGYN was excellent last week in the emergency and has been great since, but I am worried because we are an hour away from the closest (and best) NICU in our state. Going home is not an option - Being on bed rest probably means I cannot fly for 7+ hours, and I have been out of England so long that I would have to pay for treatment over there. I really do wish I could be home with my mum! I also think the hubby would hate being so far away from me, especially if something happened.

@EnglishRose23  I completely understand. Staying positive is so hard when the chances are stacked and you have so many weeks still to go. But I have read many, many stories where women defy the odds. I think you should definitely advocate for yourself if you think the cerclage would help. We went to the ER when I was bleeding, not because I thought there was anything they could do to help (I was prepared to miscarry fully that night) but to just check on the ultrasound before I went home to grieve. So if nothing else, a visit every time you bleed can actually offer you some reassurance.

I think (and hope) I am going to be on here for a while so will definitely be keeping myself updated on your stories. Stay strong, everyone!

Last question: Having some sharp fleeting pains in my lower right abdomen. I am hoping it is just round ligament pain and nothing else. Should I be concerned? Call doc?

What's Your Story? Tell us. / New to this
« on: February 22, 2018 at 06:28 PM »
Hi all,

Thank you for sharing your stories, especially your success stories- they are giving me some hope during this time.

I am 37 years old and in my second pregnancy. I lost a baby last year at just 8 weeks, so when I got to 12 weeks this time around, I naively thought we were in the clear. Last week, at 13w3d, I started bleeding and went to the ER. They saw funneling and within two hours, I was in the OR. Emergency cerclage and strict bed rest until at least week 20. I had my check-up this week and they saw no sign of funneling, but my cervical length was still only 3.5cm.

I am just in a constant state of sadness and worry. I am weeks away from any kind of reassuring point in the baby's development and the thought of losing her or him makes me sick to the stomach. But I also know that I have to rest and stay positive. To add to this, I live on a military base with no friends, and my family live 3,000+ miles away in England. My husband and stepchildren are being great, but I just feel very alone.

Did anyone else experience an emergency so early on in the second trimester? What advice can you give me? How did you stay positive when you still had so far to go?

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