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Hi Deeda

I’m so very for your losses.

I had an emergency cerclage placed when I was 20weeks pregnant. I also had a pregnancy loss at the same time a year before -our first born Ella Grace she was born at 20weeks.

My cervix literally opened up on my 20wk scan and it was measuring 3.5cm the week before.

Once that happened my OBGYN was able to put an emergency stitch in. I was placed on hospital bedrest where I was only allowed to move from my bed to my bathroom for showers or bathroom breaks. I was monitored and had weekly scans to check on my baby.

I was allowed to go out on a wheelchair for an hour only for sunshine and fresh air.

I understand the fear, constant worry about every niggle, risk of infection etc. it is good that you placed yourself on bedrest. Don’t be afraid to ask your OBGYN questions regarding concerns about infections etc it better to seek help sooner rather than later. And with your history I’m sure they are looking at you closely.

At 30 weeks I was discharged to continue modified bedrest at home.

I had a recliner which I was allowed to sit on in a recliner 45 degree position for most of the day and then transferred to bed by wheelchair

We made it to 36.5 weeks. Our daughter is now one years old. She is a very determined and fiesta little girl. When I look at her all the worry, the time I’m hospital on bedrest is worth it.

I practiced a lot of meditation, did things I loved like tapping on my creative side by knitting items like a jumpsuit and beanie which she wore.

It also helped that so had a lot of support from family and friends. I also continued seeing my counsellor to help me deal with my anxiety. Pregnancy after loss is hard and you are doing so well Mama.

This is a great group who helped me during my time in hospital bedrest.

An update...

Just wanted to let everyone know that on Saturday 2 March 2019 at 11.44pm AEST I gave birth via emergency c-section to our baby girl Cara Elizabeth. We got to 36 weeks + 3 days which to me was such an achievement considering where we were at 20 weeks.

She has been an absolute joy, she weighed 2.65kg and 50cms long 😊

Though our hearts will always have a missing piece that is up in heaven with her big sister Ella, Cara has given our hearts light and hope.

To all the Mamas who are out there doing their best whether you are on bedrest, restricted activity due to complications in your pregnancy...YOU CAN DO THIS! Know that you are doing all that you can for your baby and know that your baby is also fighting with you ?? God Bless everyone! Xoxo

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Hi
« on: February 26, 2019 at 03:44 PM »
Hi there I’m so sorry that you’re hoing through this. Though my experience is a little different from yours I was also placed in hospital bedrest when they discovered my cervix had shortened at 20wks. My OB did manage to put a stitch in and admitted me in hospital for bedrest but I was allowed toilet privileges.

I was in hospital until I reached 30wks. This is my second pregnancy having lost my first born daughter in 2017. I understand the fear of the unknown and the anxiety. I tried to do fill my day with activities so it felt like I had routine. I began knitting and I surprised myself that I learned how to so lying down. I did meditate first thing in the morning and right before I slept. I also planned my visitors visiting times. I read a book called Pregnancy Brain written by a Psychologist who went through a high risk pregnancy and had a micro-premmie that helped me understand and to what my body needed from me or what it was telling me.
Her instagram profile is below healthy.highriskpregnancy is her username and she also has podcasts on itunes.

There were times I wished I coupd fast forward to know what my outcome would be during those weeks of bedrest. Its scary knowing I had to let go of things I couldn’t control especially when it involved my baby. But I had to trust that I was in the right place, that my OB and midwives were doing all they can to give me the best care for the best possible outcome.

I’m now 36wks.

I wish you all the very best, know you are doing all you can and its ok to feel not ok sweet mama. Xoxo

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Emergency cerclage
« on: February 23, 2019 at 11:15 AM »
Hi Gracie we watched my cervix literally change from being closed at 2.5cm to open in 4mins during our scan.

I know the fear of uncertainty of whether my high risk OB could put a stitch in, whether it will be a success or whether we would would suffer again another loss.

I was admitted that very day im hospital for an emergency cerclage then placed on hospital bedrest with being able to go to shower and bathroom. I had no progestrone pessary support as I was on it from 6wks of being pregnant and my OB had stated it obviously did not work for me.

Everyday in hospital was a struggle but I knew in my heart I was in the best place with a very attentive OB who visited me everyday. I also have other complications to contend with that made me a high risk paregnancy which also played in my mind.

I kept myself busy with my arts and crafts determined to make gifts for my unborn child.

I was discharged at 30wks to go home and continue my bedrest. At 34wks it was lifted to restricted activity allowing me more freedom to walk around my home.

I’m now at 36wks and with a plan tonremove my stitch at 37wks and hopefully deliver at 38wks.

I know it is hard and some days are better than others...but YOU can do this...you have gotten this far.

I prayed everyday for positively ineventful days...a boeing day was a good day because it meant we were still here. I pray the same for you sweet Mama.


Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for February 11, 2019
« on: February 11, 2019 at 08:15 PM »
Hi I’m now 34wks as of today which feels so good after being on bedrest from
20wks to 30wks.

Nothing special on Valentines Day as it is already special that we’ve gotten this far and hoping to get to 37wks.

I’m now on restricted activity which is great since I can walk around more.

Thinking of all the Mamas out there...its not an easy road but you’ve got this!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Not my first rodeo
« on: February 08, 2019 at 06:44 PM »
I’m so sorry for your losses and for what you’re going through. My first born daughter was stillborn at 20wks due to undetected IC in what they thought was caused bu infection. I had funnelled and dilated to 4cm and couldn’t put a stitch.

We are blessed to be pregnant again bit on our 20wk scan I saw my cervix change from being closed to open in the space of 4mins. I was admitted to hospital for a cerclage and then on bedrest with no progestrone as they said it didn’t work. I had no contractions but was monitored closely. I was discharged at 30wks and I am now 33wks + 4days on restricted activities at home.

I know how nerve wrecking it is, I tried to fill my days with activities I enjoyed doing journalling, arts and crafts and meditation.

I felt safer being at the hospital (as a private patient) with my midwives at a press of a button and my OB who was really attentive visiting me everyday to check in on me - it was reassuring.

You’re so close to 25wks and everyday counts, stay positive Mama I know its hard but you have come this far. All the best xoxo

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for February 5, 2019
« on: February 04, 2019 at 09:59 PM »
Being pregnant after loss is such a difficult and ever evolving rollercoaster of emotions. Top that with a complicated and high risk pregnancy, I felt it is better for me to celebrate once my little one is finally in my arms. I’ve been on bedrest since 20wks and I’m now 33wks...I have not even started to shop or buy anything for the nursery. Both my husband and I figured that since we don’t live in the sticks in the middle of no where things can be easily purchased. The only thing we are thinking of buying is our car seat when we get closer to 35wks.

Its different for everyone, for me this was my choice...

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for January 28, 2019
« on: January 28, 2019 at 09:05 AM »
Hi its been a while I’m now currently 32weeks which is great and here’s to making it to our next milestone of 35weeks.

I have an appointment with my OB this Thursday, he’s a bit more positive now that we’ve made it to our third trimester (stitch placed at 20wks) and though my cervix has shortened a little it is still closed and stitch is holding.

Out little one has been active (has been throughout) and I have dared to purchase a few items for the nursery though I wouldn’t say I have dived in to purchase more waiting until we get to 34wks at least.

It has been pretty hot in Sydney Australia of late with 40 degree weather which makes it hard bit but I would rather be hot and heavily pregnant than face any other alternative.

Hope everyone else is doing ok 😊

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: New here-Rescue Cerclage 20 weeks
« on: January 07, 2019 at 04:32 PM »
That’s fantastic news!

Restricted activity as described by my OB is not to over do anything. I qas put on pelvic rest (no swimming, baths or sex), no housekeeping, no lifting above 5kgs and just to ‘potter’ around (I used to do a lot of waking and hiking so I haven’t done that since I was 18wks).

I suggest to ask your OB to clarify what restricted activity means for you as everyone is different depending on their needs.

I too believe in bedrest, its gotten me to 29wks today 😊

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: New here-Rescue Cerclage 20 weeks
« on: January 04, 2019 at 03:23 PM »
I had an emergency cerclage put in at 20wks we literally saw my cervix change from being closed at 2.8cm to opening within 4mins of a transvaginal ultrasound. I wasadmitted into hospital that afternoon for a stitch and placed on modified bedrest since. I’m now 28wks + 4days.

The pressure and niggling pain is normal as I had them for 2wks post the cerclage. I have weekly scans, only abdominal
as my OB doesn’t want to necessarily ‘disturb’ things but cervix has been stable and I have gained length back.

As long as you don’t have painful contractions, bleeding or signs of infection you’re fine.

I’d restrict your activities and rest as much as you can.

Hi Mamabear thank you and that’s great to hear that you are 28wks that’s my next milestone.

I have our scan today at 26wks to check in on our little girl. Whilst this is a good thing, there is always anxiousness that comes with it for me.

Like you this pregnancy hasn’t been smooth sailing.

I do like that mantra...😊

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for December 10, 2018
« on: December 14, 2018 at 04:50 PM »
Hi Everyone quick update from me I’m 25wks + 4days today and still in hospital on modified bedrest with my little girl. She’s been active and kicking away and our next milestone is to get to 28wks.

Its nearing Christmas and I will be here which is fine by me since I don’t have to worry this year as to which side of the family we will be spending Christmas with 😊

There are times when I look out of my window and look up at the sky and think of my little girl who was born still last year, Ella Grace, and miss her dearky. Pregnancy after loss is hard whilst my heart is ever grateful and blessed with our little miracle my heart will always yearn for our first born wishing she was here too.

But I know Ella would want us to look after us and focus on looking after her little sister.

So here’s to counting down the days to 28wks 😊

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for December 10, 2018
« on: December 11, 2018 at 03:40 PM »
Hi there I’m still cookin’ and we are now 25wks 😊 next milestone is to reach 28wks.

Still in hospital and will be here ovwr Christmas which is fine with me as I feel its the best place to

Had our scan yesterday which showed that my stitch is intact and cervix is stable.

Family are trying to organise a small Christmas picnic type spread as I’m in hospital. I’m allowed to gonout on a wheelchair on hospital grounds which I’m grateful for.

I’ve been told by the midwives that Christmas is quite a do as they do make a big fuss and quite a spread 😊

Pixiejan glad you had yourself checked.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for December 3, 2018
« on: December 03, 2018 at 02:49 PM »
Morning from Australia! I will be im hospital all throughout December as part of my bedrest activity I tapped into my creativity.

A highschool friend dropped by and bought me arts and crafts activities to so (back in highschool we did art class together) she told me Toni you’ll be making Christmas cards. So that’s what I’m doing. It gives me great joy doing this and it has proven to be such a great activity to fill up my day.

I’m currently 23wks + 5days and have been feeling relatively well rested at the hospital on bed rest (modified).

Baby has been active and I do love that when I touch my bump she kicks away or when I speak to her.

I bought a book of fairy tales which I read and record during the day and then play to her before going to bed. I do love that she kicks away hearing my voice. I’ve gotten my hisband to do the same and its a good activity to bond with our little girl.

I hope all the Mommies out there on bedrest are doing well xoxo

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