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Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for October 10, 2016
« on: October 11, 2016 at 03:07 PM »
Hi ladies!!! Just checking in to see how you are all doing - I miss you guys and this forum. Am so glad you are doing well and that your precious babies are still cooking. I can't believe how far along you are too. I remember when some of you joined how early in your pregnancies you were and I'm thrilled to see you get to this point.

Karen - so amazing that you are back at home. How exciting to start buying stuff for the baby.
Mimisid - congrats on reaching term!!! I was terrified about labour too when I got this close but you're going to be fine! What a great 'normal pregnancy' problem to have. :)
Blossom in Spring - what a lovely birthday celebration and reaching 30 weeks is a great present. Happy bday!! The mocassin socks are super cute!
Soblessed - hope to hear from you too this week.

Everyone else - you are in great company with these ladies and Angela and her website. I was on bedrest for 16 weeks before I had my daughter at 36/5.

Rebecca is doing great. She turned 1 month yesterday!! I was really tired the first month and I spent a lot of time on the couch with her in my arms or resting on my belly. It wasn't much different than being on bed rest to be honest, LOL, apart from the noise and the mess and getting to see her sweet little face!!

I'll keep checking back to see how you are doing until your little bundles arrive. Still thinking of my bedrest friends and sending positive energy your way.


Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for September 12, 2016
« on: September 13, 2016 at 07:26 PM »
Hi Ladies,

Rebecca Rose is here!!! She was born on Saturday at 9:45pm after my water broke in the morning around 6:30am at 36w5d. 7.5lbs and 20 inches. She is doing great, especially for being slightly pre-term. I had the baby at home and she was born only 1 hour after my first contraction. One small benefit of a short cervix. Incidentally the placenta was showing signs of calcification which meant that was likely the cause of the water breaking, not my cervix. My midwife actually had me induce the labour with castor oil since there was infection risks with my water breaking and they didn't have the results back from the lab yet.

I hemorrhaged after the birth so am extremely tired. Just brushing my teeth is exhausting. I just wanted to post a quick update since I have shared in this journey with so many of you. I will catch up properly once I start to feel better. Hope to see you all still here then!

Hugs, Christine

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for September 5, 2016
« on: September 06, 2016 at 12:42 PM »
Hi Ladies,

Nice to hear from all of my old friends and new mommas! I don't have time for a long update as I am just on a quick break from work. I have been having lots of Braxton Hicks contractions but nothing yet. I am preparing mentally to go at least another 2-3 weeks. Otherwise I'd just go crazy with anticipation. Though hopefully some of you can take some comfort that it is possible to walk around with an almost full term baby (36 weeks as of yesterday) and be 3cm dilated and not go into labour. A short cervix is a risk factor not a guarantee of PTL!!

Congrats on the milestones reached, or being reached, this week. Karen and Soblessed at 28 weeks and Blossom in Spring at 24!! It's so great to see you here week after week. I'm really glad too Soblessed that you took our advice to vent here.

Reema - are they inducing you because of the GD? Induction won't even come up in the conversation with my midwife until I go past my due date so for the moment it's not on the table.

Mimisid - don't worry about disappointing your family. Have the shower when you are comfortable.

Cheers ladies!! Hugs

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 29, 2016
« on: September 02, 2016 at 09:26 AM »
Wow! Welcome to the two new freshly baked babies. I'm so glad both mums and babes are doing great and am so happy you both were able to get as far as you did!! Congratulations to you and your families.

Mimisid - I am SO glad you were able to go the wedding. Your mood seems lifted just from reading your post.
KayRuss - welcome to the forum. It's a great place. I had my rescue cerclage at 19 weeks too and am now almost 36 weeks.
Soblessed - please don't keep those feelings to yourself and suffer. This is what the forum is for. Please vent all you want. We've all felt them and at least someone here is experiencing the same situation as you, even if we haven't posted it. Not feeling alone is so important to coping.
Karen - you are an inspiration to us all. 4 weeks on hospital bedrest!! Though I do hope you are able to go home soon where you can be more comfortable. 28 weeks will be a great milestone to reach.
Reema - I hope your body is feeling better with a bit more movement and that you have been able to get some stuff ready for the baby. It's probably going to be me or you that goes next!!!

I got my stitch out this morning. Easy peasy. I didn't even feel it. Just the speculum going in but I am used to those. Once the stitch came out I dilated to 3cm and baby's head is at 1 station. So anyone who doubts that the cerclage helps, it does! I am a bit nervous that baby could come any day now but my last pregnancy I seem to remember that I was in about the same situation at 36 weeks and still went to 41 weeks. That said I am still going to finish packing my bags for the hospital this weekend, just in case. I will keep you posted.

Hugs to you all.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 29, 2016
« on: August 29, 2016 at 01:47 PM »
Hi ladies,

Just checking in quickly. I am 35 weeks today and just finished my first week off of bed rest after having been on it for 15 weeks. I was so exhausted after my first week back to work I pretty much spent Saturday and Sunday back in bed rest mode. I only left the house twice!! I had planned to get some stuff done like pack a hospital bag etc. but none of that happened. Also we are having a lot of heat where I am and by Friday my legs and feet were so swollen they looked like tree trunks. I  am hoping that this week is a bit easier. I am surprised though that I did have more energy than I expected after being inactive for so long. I was totally expecting having to take Thursday and or maybe Friday off of work. I am also hoping that this week is easier though I know that the more pregnant I get the more general pregnancy tiredness will take over.

I get my stitch out this Friday!! I am so curious to see what my cervix is doing before and after the visit. They haven't checked me since 28 weeks and my cervix was closed but funneling down to the stitch and 1.5cm in length. I know some women go into labour right after they have the stitch removed but I don't feel like that will be the case for me. Maybe is still flipping around in there and is not engaged at all. I'm getting lots more BH contractions but nothing 'feels' like labour is imminent. We'll see. I will keep you posted. I do hope that when they remove the stitch I will have lost some length and possibly even dilate a little. I don't want to go overdue this time.

Reema - 34 weeks can you believe it!! I hope you are finding confidence with a bit more activity now that you have come so far. Rosebud - you too! It has been so fabulous having you girls with me on this journey. It's not much longer now.

Everyone else it's so great to see you with another week completed. I remember when I first joined being so jealous of the ladies in my position now but I promise you that you will get here too and will be posting your own success stories.

BlossominSpring - I am so excited for you to reach your first milestone in a few days. It is such an incredible feeling and I am so excited for you. It will really start to feel like you are over the hump and before you know it you'll be coasting downhill in no time. Enjoy the time with your hubby and the lovely weather you are getting. I watched Orange is the New Black and started Pretty Little Liars. Stranger Things is excellent but it may be a bit too tense sometimes. I could only watch it with my partner, never alone. Towards the end of my bed rest I watched a lot of reality TV I have to admit. I'm not sure what you get in the UK but here there is a channel called TLC and I basically binge watched all that crap! LOL It's a bit like ITV4.

Karen - hope to hear from you this week. Am thinking of you in the hospital. Mimisid- congrats on 30 weeks - you must be close to 31 weeks now.

Sorry if I have missed anyone else. I probably have - there have been some new mums here lately. Hope you are all doing well. Keep cooking ladies!!!!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 22, 2016
« on: August 22, 2016 at 07:22 PM »
Hi Ladies,

34 weeks today exactly and my first official day off of bed rest after 15 weeks since my emergency cerclage at 19 weeks. Also started my first day back to work and I am exhausted!!! I'm going to bed when my 5yo goes down at 8pm! I hope you ladies don't mind if I still check in each week just to keep you updated on my progress and see how you are all doing and offer encouragement.

Rosebud - I have my fingers and toes crossed for you that you make it to Thursday (which I am sure you will). How great that will feel to make it farther than your last pregnancy. Thanks too for the kind thoughts on my first day back to work.

Blossom in Spring - another week down, not much farther to go before you hit 24 weeks. Things will start feeling much better after that point. It will be nice to have your hubby at home too next week. I had BH contractions too starting from 22 weeks and now here I am 10 weeks later. I think you just notice them more when you are on bed rest cause you as not distracted by the usual activities and day to day stuff. Make sure to drink lots of water. That also seemed to help.

Happy cooking everyone for another week!!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Baby positioning
« on: August 20, 2016 at 10:24 AM »
I totally agree with Rosebud about seeing if you can get a NICU pediatrician to come and visit you to go over stats. We did that at 23 weeks and it was strangely more reassuring to have facts than worries and fears. Even at 26 weeks babies do extremely well compared to 24 weekers and you're almost there! Every day longer counts so don't dismiss any of them! :)

One of the things that I struggled with having had nothing but high risk pregnancies is mourning the loss of a normal pregnancy. It sounds like your docs are focused on your 'condition' and not you as a person. That part is hard. Like you I had lots of normal questions about my pregnancy - body changes, baby position, BH contractions, breastfeeding etc. I felt like there wasn't time to discuss that kind of stuff, plus I felt like I should be grateful for just being pregnant and that focusing on things not related to the high-risk stuff was silly. I had a midwife that I could ask those questions to, maybe there is a nurse or someone else at the hospital that you could talk to and discuss regular pregnancy stuff?? It's nice to have moments to celebrate and enjoy your pregnancy by obsessing about normal things instead of worrying all the time.

And lastly eff the brave face! You are going through an incredibly tough time right now. No one else in your family has to give up their life and freedom. No one else feels singlehandedly responsible for giving your baby the best outcome possible. No one else is going through the physical trauma of spending 24-7 lying in a hospital bed. No one else is as immersed in the fear and anxiety you are without distractions. They are the ones who should be putting on a brave face for you!!!!

I hope you are having a better day today. Hugs

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Baby positioning
« on: August 18, 2016 at 08:39 PM »
Baby is going to flip all around until about 34 weeks when they settle head down. All my cervical scans showed baby alternating between feet and head, I was always funneling. Once during a scan it looked like baby was doing Riverdance on my cervix - no issues. I think the sac cushions things a bit.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 8, 2016
« on: August 15, 2016 at 03:19 PM »
Karen: I must have misunderstood your post but I am glad to hear that they are only giving you one course of the steroids. If it makes you feel any better they gave me the steroids at 24 weeks in my first bedrest pregnancy and I went all the way to 41 weeks before I delivered!!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 15, 2016
« on: August 15, 2016 at 03:15 PM »
Happy Monday Ladies!

Today I am 33 weeks and this is my last week on bed rest before starting back at work next Monday. I almost can't believe I have gotten this far. I can still remember how it felt to find out that my cervix had shortened and then the rescue cerclage and everything at 19 weeks. I don't think anyone can underestimate how trying it is to be on bed rest before 24 weeks. For all of you mamas who haven't reached your 24 week milestone yet keep your faith and hope. So many of us mamas here and women before us on earlier posts have been where you are and made it through.

Mimisid: I hope you can make the wedding, whether they can set up a special chair for you and/or arrange for a wheelchair. Being able to celebrate an event like that with your family will give you such a boost to your emotional health. It's so sweet of your hubby to offer to stay with you though if you can't. Maybe someone can Facetime you so you can participate and watch the ceremony???

Rosebud: I love how each week you prove the doctors more and more wrong! I can't believe you're about to start your MBA!! I also started a blanket back at the beginning of my bed rest that I have kind of abandoned. It's just been to hot to crochet a blanket, at least that's what I tell myself. :) Perhaps I'll start back up once I start commuting. Though I feel like I will still be working on it when the baby gets here.

Aesthetik: That is great that you have no changes. They stopped measuring my cervical length at 28 weeks so I have no idea what is happening down there. It would be so nice to have that reassurance. I also had regular massages this pregnancy and didn't get the same aches and pains as I did my first pregnancy on bed rest. Hopefully you can get someone to help with that.

BlossominSpring: I wish I could fast forward time for you. The next 2.5 weeks will be the hardest but I know you can do it. It sounds like you have a great support system which is amazing. I cried a lot too but it's good to let the stress out with tears. It's totally normal and healthy. I found reading all the success stories on this website helped me on my worst days.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 8, 2016
« on: August 12, 2016 at 05:19 PM »
Hi to all you amazing ladies!! So nice to have so many new mamas join the group. We are even more international now with BlossominSpring. We've got the UK, Germany, Australia, Canada and the US. Any other mamas abroad?? I like hearing how our conditions are managed all over the world. So many treatments are the same and that is reassuring.

I totally agree that any stress is not good - work, family etc. If you can afford to not work I would recommend it. It is definitely a source of too much stress. There is evidence of more babies being born during hurricanes, power outs and other emergency situations - all caused by stress. I know that some of these are extreme but it shows you how stress affects our bodies. I notice I contract more if I am stressed about something so I do my best to be Zen. Mindfulness meditation is really good and is easily done on bed rest (thankfully!!). There are lots of resources online.

I'm 32w4d today. I come off bed rest in 10 days!! That will make it officially 15 weeks of bed rest. I have tried to be a bit more active but I am so sore and exhausted I can't do much anyway. We are having a heat wave on top of everything so I'm inclined to stay in with the AC blasting. I had my midwife appointment yesterday and all was well. I have finally bought a few things for the baby - receiving blankets, washcloths, diapers (ordered online from Costco) and a baby monitor. Everything is staying in the original packaging though until much closer to.

Rosebud - like you I am starting to think more about labour. I have been reading Orgasmic Birth (I know wishing thinking LOL) and will start to read Ina May's guide to Childbirth. I read both books before but it has been almost 6 years since I had a live term birth so I feel like I have forgotten what it was like. I know I dilate to at least 5 cm painlessly so that is one small grace of having a short cervix. :) I hope you had a good dr's visit and got to see lots of babe.

Reema - almost at your next milestone!! I'm glad to see that you are easing up a bit on your bed rest now that you have made it so far. You have been a champ!!

Karen - I would ask the doctor more about the steroids. When I discussed with my MFM (who is based in a research hospital) she said the steroid shots were a one time only deal and were best given as late as possible. Repeated shots didn't improve lung maturity and caused a slight increase in smaller head circumferences. I appreciate that getting the timing right is a bit of a balancing act but I would definitely avoid repeated shots if I were you. Plus the steroid shots made me so jittery. I wouldn't want to do that more than once anyway. I'm glad your mom is able to come to the hospital with you. I was admitted in both pregnancies but only for a short time. It is definitely challenging, but worth it.

Several weeks ago I started using dry shampoo on my hair so I only have to wash it once a week. I use Lush brand dry powder since there are no chemicals compared to the sprays. It really has been a lifesaver in making me feel more 'fresh' when I can't shower and do my hair like I normally would. There is nothing worse about lying around all day and feeling gross on top of it, right???

Am so glad we are all hanging in there and hope to see you next Monday! Happy cooking.

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for August 1, 2016
« on: August 03, 2016 at 02:42 PM »
Hi Ladies,

Sorry I am late. I have been sick with a bad cold and feel besides feeling miserable I have been so exhausted!! The only good thing is that I don't mind the bed rest at the momemtn since I don't actually feel like doing anything else right now other than lying here!! LOL

I am 31w2d today and will have been on bed rest for 12 weeks! I saw the MFM last week and since everything is still stable I have been transferred back to my mid-wife and will no longer see the high risk doctors except to have my stitch out which is scheduled for Sept 2 which will make me 35w4d! I keep making the bad joke that it is just in time for Labour day! haha. Also I will come off bed rest and go back to work Aug 22 when I am 34 weeks. I am excited to be off bed rest, I am SO over it, but not to go back to work! My body (and my mind) are so de-conditioned after being off for so long. I can barely brush my teeth without getting out of breath. Over the next 2 and a half weeks I'm going try start doing a bit more each day to build up my stamina.

Welcome to the new mamas this week. This site is so helpful and actually posting makes such a huge difference as you get direct support. The first couple of weeks are the hardest but it does get easier. I promise. I always found the comments about how lucky I was to be able to lie around all day and do nothing. As if this was a vacation!! No one really knows what a high risk pregnancy plus bed rest is like unless they have actually experienced it, which is why this forum was so essential to me.

I'm sorry so many of you had a bad week last week with decreasing measurements. I remember with my first pregnancy every single millimeter was so important and was able to make or break me. This time the high risk clinic had screens installed in the US rooms so I could watch each measurement being taken and I realized how arbitrary it could be. It's definitely more of an art than a science and just depends on the tech who is measuring and the scans they are able to get. Each varies so much between them. I guess I am trying to say not to get hung up on the actual lengths and focus on the fact that your cervix is closed and that you aren't having labour contractions. I had an extremely short cervix in my last pregnancy and went 41 weeks. Easier said than done though - I know.  :)

Congrats Reema and Rosebud. How far we have come ladies!!! Not much longer to go!!

Hi. 30 weeks today and 11 weeks so far on bedrest. 4 more to go! This will be the longest I have ever been on bed rest. My previous pregnancy I was only on it for 12 weeks (from weeks 24-36). At first it seemed impossible, I couldn't even imagine getting this far, the long stretch of time and boredom just seemed so daunting. Now I feel like there is an end in sight. For so long I procrastinated everything cause the time seemed so endless but now I actually feel like I am running out of time! LOL Happy 30 weeks or almost 30 weeks to my other milestone mamas - Rosebud, Reema and Anish.

Welcome Soblessed to the roll call. The beginning is the hardest cause you have to adjust. I guarantee you will feel better once you get to 24 weeks - and you are almost there! I have been pretty irritable lately too. It's quite possibly just the nature of pregnancy but I think bed rest takes an extra toll. Also it has been sweltering where we live. Even with the A/C I am SO hot all the time and it just adds to my irritability. That is great that you can feel the baby move. Being able to have all day to bond with your baby is definitely one of the nice things about bedrest. When they finally get here you will already feel a connection so strong from this extra bonding time, plus all the sacrifices you are making to help this baby cook! It's the hardest too when people around you are annoying. Normally you could leave on an errand or something but unfortunately now you can't, you are stuck! Put you and baby first and ask people for your space and to leave you alone. Stress isn't good for either of you. I had to tell my dad he could no longer visit and I usually plan all day activities for my husband to take my daughter to on the weekends to get them out of my hair. I find bed rest so much easier if I am alone and just have small doses of company when I am welcome to it. Everyone is different. Just do what is right for you. And vent here!!! :)

I am starting to get the nesting urges which is hard cause there is so much I need to do but can't. I have been able to get some clothes for the first few weeks and have started lists and researched my options for the few baby items I need. I haven't been able to actually 'pull the trigger' so to speak and make any purchases though, they are still sitting in my various online carts. Sadly I still feel it is too early and I have this feeling of 'what-if'. I like to think that by 34 weeks I will feel ok to finally buy stuff. I am worried that when I will be able to get up and get things ready I won't have the energy. My bedroom still has work clothes that need putting away from when I was last at work in May!! I'd love to be able to ask my husband to help but he is already doing so much already. I'm just going to have to wait and hope for the best.

This week I have a pregnancy massage, midwife and MFM appointment to look forward to. I love having a 'busy' week cause it makes time feel like it is going by so much faster! I should be able to join the live chat tomorrow too.

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Baby news!
« on: July 23, 2016 at 04:44 PM »
Congrats!! Thanks for the update. Enjoy your new bundle!! ????

Happy Monday everyone!

I'm 29 weeks today and have completed 10 weeks of bed rest. 5 more to go! After everything I've been through to get it here it seems like the next 5 weeks will fly by. At least i am hoping it will!! :) With each gestational milestone I feel better and better about my baby's chances of survival and the odds that I might make it to term. or at least as close to it as possible.

Angela I am so glad that you started this website. It has helped me so much with each pregnancy and I'm sure so many other women feel the same way. I can really say that I have made real friends here that have provided me with so much support cause they know exactly how I am felling like no one else in my life does. I don't know if you all remember head2toe, who's son is doing amazing well and will go home from the NICU soon, but she lives literally down the street from me (about 4k!!) so we plan to meet up when both babies are here. I just think it is amazing that a website can make such a difference in my life! Also Happy Birthday to your son!

Reema - you made it to 28 weeks too, congrats!!We're going to do this. Rosebud and Anish, and everyone else who is at or almost at 29 weeks, we're getting there! Looking forward to everyone's updates. Dwade - it's good to hear from you. I was wondering where you were. You are so close now - that must feel great. Doesn't it seem funny to be talking about induction? LOL

This week since I have no appointments I have decided to use the time that I would have gone to see my MFM to have lunch with some coworkers/friends. I figure it's no different to my current bed rest regime than if I were going to the doctor's and since I no longer have to go every week to use that time to do something for myself. Given that they haven't seen me in more than 2 months it will be strange for them to see my belly!

The one thing I dealing with this week is when to buy baby stuff. I guess the nesting feeling is starting to kick in but I am hesitant to buy stuff for the baby yet. Just in case. Having had a loss in the second trimester. I think I will feel like it's safe to start getting just the essentials around weeks 32-34. What about you ladies? Have you started buying stuff yet?

Can't wait for next Monday as I will be 30 weeks!!! Hang in there ladies. :)

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