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That is so scary, thoughts and prayers to you! I dont know a lot about cerculage, but I have been on some degree of bed rest since December and I know not knowing what is going on in there is the hardest thing. Make a list of your questions and ask your Dr/Midwife, call if you have a lot of questions between visits because your mental state is important too!      Fyreflye

Hooray! 34 weeks today!  I know my Dr's dream goal is a scheduled c section at 39weeks, but right now we are taking things week by week.  She suggested that we find a way for someone to be home with me and my 4 yr old during the day and I do as strict bedrest as we can manage to keep baby in there as long as possible.  I will be having an ultrasound probably next week to check things out.  I had my daughter at 37 weeks and have felt the whole time that this baby would come around then, we will see how it goes.  Baby is fine and active, and my cervix is thick and closed, but having a lot of discomfort and intense pain. If I go into labor, will be rushed to surgery for c section.  Today is a big goal day!     Fyreflye

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Surviving bed rest
« on: April 27, 2009 at 03:39 PM »
I have also had a problem with people understanding what bedrest really is, I think mostly because I have been on modified, light bedrest before and now am on strict bedrest.  They think I am supposed to just still be taking it easy. I have had offers to help, but no one is following up on it and I feel like an ass calling to "remind" them they were gonna come by and do some housework or whatever. My husband has been awesome, but he is a truck driver and is gone most of the week. I over did some this weekend out of frustration, and now am having contrax again. I have been mostly a SAHM for the past 2 years, with some part time jobs here and there, and so am used to going, going, going all day with homeschool, housework, errands, and cooking/baking.  Sitting in my house and not doing is super hard for me when all I have to do is look at my messy house, eating microwave meals, and telling my daughter I can't take her to the library today. I am my own worst enemy in this situation, because I feel useless, but I have to remember I am doing the important job of helping my baby be born safely. I have found a lot of strenth from this forum and all the Twitter posts, it makes me have some perspective that this sweet baby is so much more important than my cluttered house, the growing pile of laundry, and the dishes in the sink.  Fyreflye

I am going between the back bedroom and the couch in the living room. I have made a few ventures outside to lay on a yoga matt with some comfy pillows, which has been nice! Fyreflye

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: hey ladies lets talk about SEX!
« on: April 22, 2009 at 10:04 PM »
I know when I was put on "vaginal rest" I was specifically told no orgasm either because that causes spasms in the uterus and can cause contractions and, before we were sure I did not have previa, could cause the placenta to bleed or tear away from the cervix, so I would guess that any "release" for you is bad for baby. I am not sure if the act of anal would disrupt anything, but you enjoying it would and so u might as well just take care of him another way, because u r gonna get left out in the cold, so to speak. I wanted to know about orgasm specifically so I asked, but I can see why u would not want to get THAT personal with ur dr! lol   Fyreflye

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: everything is ok no changes
« on: April 22, 2009 at 07:56 AM »
Staying grateful is the hardest part! We all need to be thankful for those good moments to get through the scary ones.  I am so glad that you seem to have a good Dr who reassured you when you went in, that helps a lot, I know. Take it day by day and take care of yourself and that sweet baby.     Fyreflye

Welcome! I am 32 wks, and have been on bed rest on and off since December. I learned to knit, continued my study of Reiki, and got a lot more writing done than I would have. I also play an online game and have gotten more done on there than I did last year! It's good to search out postiive things to do, because we all have moments of despair but if we can shift focus we can come out of it quicker.  BTW, "Bumblebee" is one knickname we have for the baby too, because my older daughter is a "Ladybug"! Best of luck to you, I know you have a long road ahead, but you are in good company here.     Fyreflye

I hope u called ur doctor! When in doubt, call, thats why they have an on-call for.  I know it can be intimidating, and you hate to be a 'bother' but any medical professional who didn't want you to be better safe than sorry should get a new profession! I am on my second problem pregnancy and I have been lucky to have drs and teams that were great and caring, but I know thats not always the case, and sometimes it's up to the mom to push a little to get answers and help. I hope u called/saw ur dr and I hope you and that baby r ok!   Fyreflye

I have a great, very supportive medical team that welcomes questions and never makes me feel like I am being paranoid or silly.  One of the first things the nurses said in L&D was they were glad I came in to get checked.  I know I am lucky for that, a lot of women don't feel comfortable 'being a nuisence' by calling or going to the Dr or Hospital because of the rush-rush system.  I have a different Dr than the first time because she stopped delivering babies, but the same hospital and my new Dr is great, with a fantastic staff. I have family and friends nearby, but I am a worrier and, as I mentioned in another post a little OCD and since I can't see how it will just work out perfectly, I worry it will be a disaster. I have to keep a strong faith that the Universe will provide, and we will worry about details as they come. I am glad to be here getting and giving support to all the Moms in a similar situation, and happy to report no ctrx yet today!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / 31 weeks and the other shoe dropped!
« on: April 19, 2009 at 08:16 AM »
This is my 2nd pregnancy, and I was on modified bed rest for most of both.  With my daughter I bled the whole time, and was always rushing into get an ultrasound to check her.  I got I think 7 or 8 with her, but she came out fine by emergency c section after I was induced at 37 weeks. After a day of labor her heart rate dropped to 60 and we were rushed to surgery. We thought we would not have any more, because the pregnancy was so physicaly and emotionaly hard for me, but over the last 2 years both my husband and I were more and more drawn to the feeling there was another child for us.  We finally went to get checked out, got the ok to try to get pregnant and literally 2 weeks later conceived! I bled again in the beginning, and was on modified bed rest again, then the bleeding stopped at about 6 months and all was well. Then this Friday, at 31 weeks, 4 days I passed my mucus plug, then some blood clots, and had contractions all afternoon.  I was told by the Dr I was now on strict bed rest and if the contractions continued, got worse or closer together go to L&D, which we did about 10:30 that night after 4 contractions in an hour. We were monitored for a few hours and they took a test, cannot remember name, to see if I would deliver in the next 2 weeks , which was negative.  They examined me and said my cervix was soft and slightly open, but that can be common in a second pregnancy. We were set loose about 1am and headed home to a restless night.  I has Braxton Hicks most of the day Saturday as well, but they stayed irratic. I see my Dr Monday for my regular appointment and to see if I will stay on strict rest.  My husband is a truck driver and is gone at work days at a time, and I don't know what we will do if I am kept on strict rest. I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it.

     Hi Ladies, I am new here, just joined so I could share in this topic.  I have been on modified bed rest on and off with both pregnancies, and this Friday was put on strict bedrest after passing blood clots and having some contractions.  My husband is a truck driver and not home a lot, but he has been home the last 4 days and has been taking care of me and our daughter. I am a little *cough* OCD and it is hard for me to see things not being done how and when I would do them, but he is trying hard, and when he saw me getting really upset last night made me an amazing super-chocolate sundae to cheer me up, which I ate while he cleaned the kitchen! Later today is my baby shower, and since I have to be laying down, he is taking a small couch to the meeting room where the shower will be so I can lay on it during the party because we invited too many people to have it at our house and I would be too stressed about 20 people coming over and not being able to clean. I know if I am kept on rest that he will find a way to take care of me and our daughter, even if he has to stay of the road and beg on the corner to feed us. I, like us all, get caught up in details of life and forget the little things.  Life always seems to come by and remind me that I have a lot to be grateful for, mostly my amazing husband and my daughter, stepdaughter, and this blessed baby I am trying so hard to keep inside, under my heart, for a while longer.

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