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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 28 weeks and feeling hopeless
« on: May 30, 2018 at 10:14 AM »
Welcome to the group.

Sorry to hear the troubles you’re going through, but know that you’ve found a place where you will receive a ton of support.

You and I have the exact same due date! I will also be 28 weeks tomorrow.

You’ve probably already heard this, but 28 weeks is a huge milestone. When my cervix dwindled to approximately 1cm at 18 weeks, despite a preventative cerclage, I never thought I’d make it this far.

Like you, I am also on progesterone suppositories. My OB was part of a research team about the product and speaks highly of this method. I’ve asked several times about the shot, but he continues to advocate for suppositories instead. The running thought is that you are placing the medication exactly where it’s needed.

I have also been on bedrest since 16 weeks. I am allowed to get up to use the bathroom, grab some ready made food, and can sit as long as tolerated. I am not allowed to drive or to get into a car, unless it is for an essential appointment. In addition to this, I am on pelvic rest and cannot lift anything. My doctors do not want me to lie all day as it puts me at high risk of blood clots. So, I make sure to move my feet l, arms, and legs as often as I can.

One intervention that I have in addition to the progesterone and cerclage is a pessary ring. I insisted that it was placed at 18 weeks despite the fact that this is very rarely done in Canada. It took some convincing, but finally my OBs agreed to do it. Basically, a pessary ring is a river device that they insert vaginally. It goes around the cervix to help disperse the weight of your uterus on your cervix. It can easily be inserted and removed in less than a minute, and can be placed at any time during pregnancy (as long as you don’t have bulging membranes).  At first my doctors were skeptical that it would help, but they admitted it wouldn’t hurt. However, now that I’ve remained stable since 18 weeks (the best possible outcome), both my OVs and I truly believe that I wouldn’t have made it this far without it. Obviously, I am a huge advocate of the pessary ring now!

If this is a method that interests you, but your doctors are not comfortable doing it themselves, most hospitals have a pessary clinic. I would investigate that :)

If you haven’t already joined the incompetent cervix Facebook group, I would also highly recommend that as a support. There are so many success stories of women who have undergone the same experience as you.

Best of luck as you continue your pregnancy, I wish you nothing but the best!

And, if you’re bored and have nothing else to do at 2pm EST on Tuesdays, this forum has a live chat. Would be great to hat with you there!

I’m at home again as they felt labour was not imminent. I have been stable all day with no more concerning discharge. My OB called today and went over everything. She said that she’s not concerned about mucus, especially now that we know things are stable, and reviewed signs that I need to go to L&D (bright red blood, watery discharge that fills a pad, smelly or green discharge, painful contractions...).
Feeling much better after talking to her, but this is quite the ride.
On the plus side, we are getting closer and closer to full term. Only 10 weeks to go! Lol

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 28 weeks - 2nd Pregnancy
« on: May 25, 2018 at 08:00 PM »
Congratulations!!! So exciting to hear that you got to take home a full term baby. Wishing you and your family all the best!!!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Pregnant again after early loss
« on: May 25, 2018 at 07:59 PM »
So great to hear about your cervical length!! Such good news to hear that it’s gained some length at this stage. Wishing you more good news as you progress in this pregnancy!


We had an ultrasound yesterday and were able to see so many details.

The tech was able to show us that baby already has visible eyelashes. She said that normally she only sees this with cultures that are known to have long eyelashes and that this baby must have gorgeous eyes. How cute is that???

We also saw baby open it’s eyes, saw its lungs expanding as it practiced breathing, and saw the corpus colossum and evidence of neurological activity. In a proud mom moment, the tech took a picture of the brain activity to use for educational purposes as she said she rarely gets to see such great evidence of this (I’m beaming).

Immediately after the ultrasound I went to the bathroom. When I wiped, I noticed a small amount of mucusy discharge which looks alarmingly similar to the discharge I had when we lost our first child and was diagnosed with incompetent cervix.

We rushed to L&D where I began to have pretty intense BH contractions that were picked up on the monitor.

They removed my pessary and I was given a speculum exam to ensure waters hadn’t broken. Luckily, the test came back negative.

When they removed the speculum there was a lot of mucus streaked with some blood.

I freaked out, thinking it was bloody show, but was reassured that my cervix was closed and was stable, measuring the same length as it has been since 18 weeks. They repeated the digital test several hours later with no change.

I’m still feeling quite anxious. The digital exams were very rough. My regular OBs have been cautious about vaginal exams due to the precariousness of my situation.
When they reinserted my pessary, it was also not very gentle (my hospital doesn’t usually do pessaries for OB/IC patients, and my regular OB wasn’t available).

Since the ordeal, I have been feeling sharp tweaks in my cerclage and it feels irritated or dry down there. So worried that we aggravated the situation.

Baby is oblivious to all the trauma and is moving around like crazy.

27 weeks is so much better than with our first loss. I know we should feel lucky to have made it this far.

Still hoping for a healthy, happy, thriving, full-term baby!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Back for round 3
« on: May 22, 2018 at 09:47 AM »
These pregnancies are so hard. Sorry to hear about the mixed results on your ultrasound and the positive GD test. As if any of us need more anxiety added onto this experience.

Luckily, your cervix sounds like it still has some decent length and your in the hands of experienced, caring, and competent medical professionals.

Anyways, just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking of you and wishing you all the best.

26+4 today. Officially made it past the two week mark of the end of our last pregnancy. I’ve been feeling fantastic because we keep reaching milestones that I never thought we’d reach. We have another growth scan this week, and I’ve graduated from weekly to bi-weekly OB appointments.

I’m still on bedrest with some pretty intense restrictions, but am whittling away the time by watching our garden transform and visiting with friends. Now that we’ve revealed that we’re pregnant, we have a revolving front door. I’m a lucky gal to have so many supportive and loving people in my life.

I’m an avid reader, but have found that my tastes have changed somewhat during bedrest. I need books that don’t require me to think too much, a story that keeps the pages turning.

Here’s a list of some of the books I’ve read over the past 10 weeks that I would recommend to others:

A couple other good books I’ve recently read:
- homegoing (historical fiction/drama)
- wonder (teen lit)
- adrift: 76 days lost at sea (non fiction/adventure)
- and the mountains echoed (historical fiction/drama)
- the couple next door (thriller)
- the nightingale (ww2 historical fiction)
- the husbands secret (drama/thriller)
- all the missing girls (thriller)

Sorry for the lack of punctuation - typing from my phone :)

See y’all on the chat tomorrow (hopefully).  Will think about a topic and reply if I come up with anything good.

Congratulations!!!!! I’m so happy for you and your family!
Thank you for all of the advice and support that you have provided me over the past few months.

I have learned that so much that I worried about before is small beans.

I must have lived a pretty charmed life prior to this year, prior to the loss of our first child and the challenges of this pregnancy. Before all of this, I have never faced real adversity. This process has taught me resilience. It has taught me that I’m stronger and braver than what I could ever have thought possible.

It has strengthened my idea of love. I have become closer to my husband and my sister. And of course, it has taught me about unconditional love for the life that grows inside of me.

This has undoubtedly been the hardest time in my life, but it’s theough life’s challenges that we grow and become better versions of ourselves.

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation.

Last September I was admitted to hospital under similar circumstances. Due to dilation and bulging membranes we weren’t candidates for a cerclage.

Unfortunately, my doctors did not prescribe to be in the Trendelenburg position like the doctors at your hospital did. We lost our little guy 5 days later. Hopefully this is the step it takes to get you to viability!

I’ve also heard of a “balloon” that they can insert while in the T. position to help coax the baby back into the uterus, allowing doctors to be able to perform a cerclage. I wonder if this a possibility for your wife?

I’ve compiled a list of items that I would like at the hospital should I end up on HBR again.  Maybe this can help your wife?

small snacks
phone + charger
Laptop + charger
Extension cord
Dry shampoo
Portable shelving/ hangers
Eye mask
Platypus/Camelback for water
Laptop tray
Flip flops
Fuzzy socks

Wishing you the best of luck in this hard time!

Congratulations!!! So glad to hear you’re doing well :)

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for May 7, 2018
« on: May 07, 2018 at 01:16 PM »
24+4 today!  This is officially the longest we have ever been pregnant!
Feeling hopeful and optimistic, and baby is celebrating by being ridiculously active.
This week I was hooked up with an antenatal community care program and will have weekly visits with a nurse who comes to my house to monitor, educate, and provide support.
We also have a growth scan and an OB visit on Thursday, so it'll be a busy week!
I'll be there for the live chat tomorrow... like I always am. Hope to see you there!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Pregnant again after early loss
« on: May 07, 2018 at 10:03 AM »
So glad to hear your good news! What a miracle about the disappearance of the fluid in the brain!

Wishing you a much easier time for the rest of your pregnancy!!!

Today we are 24+4 and this means that this is officially the longest that I’ve ever been pregnant! Didn’t think we’d make it this far!

I have also found that taking cranberry pills each day helps with UTIs.  I haven't had any since beginning that regimen.
My doctors also advised that I take some probiotics to help balance bacteria.  There are some safe options for pregnancy, but run it by your doctor or pharmacist first.
I have arranged my couch in the Trendelenburg position by propping pillows underneath the couch cushion.  If I lie on my back and prop my laptop between my bent legs and chest, I generally find it OK to use my laptop.
I think the point of the bedrest is to reduce your movement, but I don't know that it's necessary to be super strict about it in your situation and with at TAC.
I still get up to go to the bathroom, have a shower, get food, etc... and have been stable since receiving a pessary on top of my cerclage at 18 weeks.

I’m so sorry to hear about what you are going through.

I was also diagnosed with IC after a second trimester loss in September.

I was given a preventative cerclage (TVC) at 13+5. I advocated for a TAC, but where I live, they only do it after 2 losses :(

Anyways, I’ve been funnelled to the stitch since 16 weeks and am currently 24+2. Apparently it is expected that you will funnel if you have true IC. Unfortunately there is a higher risk of rupturing membranes when you are funnelled although there are different outlooks in the need for bedrest. My doctor doesn’t believe in it, but has given me a note to be off work and I have put myself on modified bed rest. I wanted to know that I did everything possible to keep this little one in.

Anyways, I can totally relate to your situation and the stress that you are going through. Dealing with this is not an easy task and makes it so hard to enjoy your pregnancy!

Bedrest is not a walk in the part. I rely heavily on my husband for everything. He’s been absolutely incredible. I also have a great support group and have visitors throughout the week.

However, the days are long and there are periods of time in the afternoon where I feel very alone.

Wishing you all the best in your journey! Keep us posted on your progress <3

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