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Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for November 18, 2019

« on: November 21, 2019 at 03:12 PM »

22 weeks!

Had my first post-cerclage visit and my cervix is 3.5cm!! So happy! Still taking it easy but feeling a bit braver now to do some little chores!

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Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Monday Roll Call for November 11, 2019

« on: November 18, 2019 at 05:31 PM »

We were going out of town this week to celebrate Thanksgiving with family but that had to be canceled. Instead what's on my wonderful family drove down to our house with Thanksgiving and we just had Thanksgiving today! That was really nice! They're planning to make a trip down in December for Christmas time so that our daughter doesn't miss out on family time.

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A Place for Spouses and Partners / Re: What WE can fo for our hubbies

« on: November 17, 2019 at 10:19 PM »

Right now my hubby will not let me rub his feet because he doesnt want me doing anything strenuous    but I do tell him I appreciate him as much as I can.

I do the grocery shopping online and he picks it up. I have started adding little treat in there for him like chocolate, wine, beer, jerkey and recently a bottle of warming KY lubricant. We both miss being intimate. But I also want him to know I am ok and supportive of his need to release tension in  a physical way.

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A Place for Spouses and Partners / Re: Ladies: Offer the "bed rest dads" your best piece of advice.

« on: November 17, 2019 at 10:09 PM »

My husband makes sure we go to bed at the same time and cuddles me and strokes my hair while I go to sleep. It may not sound like much, but it really helps me to know he's not resenting everything he has to do and that he is caring and sympathetic to how hard it is on me.

I love this! How do I ask my hubby to do this without sounding demanding lol?

Ive only been on bed rest for 3 days so far but the best thing my husband has done is keep telling me to lay down. I hate not being able to do things and I really need him to sometimes order me to go rest. He is taking this very seriously which I am begining to appreciate more than I thought I would.

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 19 weeks angry/worried/frustrated

« on: November 17, 2019 at 09:58 PM »

Im sorry youre feeling so out of control. It is frustrating not knowing what to do or what is the right thing to do. Can you get a second opinion or would you feel better trying a different doctor? Sometimes the physician makes all the difference. Even if they recomend the same things, how options are presented to you can make all the difference. I wish I would have switched OB doctors sooner than after my second miscarriage. I think my situation may have turned out differently had I had better communication, and more empathy.

I am at 22 weeks and on bed rest after a cerclage. Mine was 1.3cm, where my first child was 5cm at 24 weeks (looking at records). Needless to say, we were shocked. I was very active for my first pregnancy (kickboxing and martial arts) and this pregnancy has been so different. So much waiting and watching and being super careful. Its been a hard transition.

I hope you are doing better.

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 26 weeks, emergency cerclage, short cervix

« on: November 15, 2019 at 08:17 PM »

Hi Karla!

Hope you are doing well! I also had an early bleed which lasted a while. My doctors suggested maybe the early bleed and the short cervix could be related? I wonder if that could be the case?

It is nice to hear other stories. I feel not so alone. Thanks for sharing. Would love to hear how things progressed for you. Sending you love!

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Cerclage

« on: November 15, 2019 at 08:10 PM »

I was told the cervix will not get longer but that with the cerclage and progesterone it can be maintained, so it does not change.

Glad you have your Mom!

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Cerclage

« on: November 15, 2019 at 08:08 PM »

I am almost 22 weeks and just got my cerclage. We found a short cervix at 19w2days on the anatomy scan and waited for 2 weeks to see how it progressed which was not well (1.3cm) and I went in for the procedure a little over 24 hours later. I am on heparin therapy for a clotting disorder as well and needed to wait the 24 hours. We were so scared!

It has been such a rollercoaster for this baby! I finally feel like it is all hitting me suddenly because I have cried a bit here and there for no good reason and I do not normally cry. I have a super supportive husband and a perfect 4 year old! They are my world!! My daughter does not really understand what is going on but knows she needs to help more and be very careful. I am so nervous about how things will progress because it seems like this is going to take a while.

After my daughter we lost 6 pregnancies; 3 ectopics and 2 that were quite early. Each one was such a blow. After we were told we couldnt get pregnant we started IVF. Everything went so well and we got 8 embryos but all came back abnormal which was a huge blow. I had a hard time mentally recovering from that. Our Doc said he would try 1 embryo that was a mosaic (hit or miss) and we tried to implant but the massive amounts of estrogen were too much and we needed a break. I menstrated and ... became pregnant! No one could believe it! We were not happy however, and worried about another ectopic. It was not. Then I bled terribly and we couldnt find a reason. I had had knee surgery earlier after a sporting event and wound up with a DVT. All indicating a clotting disorder and yes, I tested positive. So on Lovonox I went. It took me until week 12 to feel good about this pregnancy. And we were feeling so good! I started getting back into a routine, exercising, feeling positive, thinking about baby and then we got word of my shortening cervix. I was devastated. Back to worring, back to pelvic rest and feeling anxious.

Now after the cerclage I am terrified about the baby falling out, infections and how I will cope with weeks (hopefully 18) of basically bes rest?! I am allowed to walk " purposefully" to the bathroom and to kitchen to eat etc. but no lifting over 5 lbs. and no exercise at all. No housework either. Under any other circumstance I would be thrilled to have people doing my chores for me but seeing as it's going to be weeks on end I already feel like a burden. I also worry how it's going to impact my relationship with my daughter and also my husband. Right now he's being super supportive but I will be wondering every day if he's going to resent me or lose feelings for me. Its such a worry.

Anyways. Its nice to find a group who can relate. I look forward to learning some fun things I can do while not able to leave the house!