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Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Released from bedrest?
« on: January 06, 2012 at 11:17 AM »
I tried getting off after my first negative FFN at 31 and was told no :), I tried for modified and was again told no.  Even though your feeling better you don't want to give things a chance to get going again.  It literally took weeks to get my body to this point and I know one day up would most likely wipe out everthing we worked for.  DH has been home with a tummy bug the last two I have an extra kid and no help.  I am really really paying for it today, contractions are trying to get going and hurt.  Hang in there, its only a few more weeks and you'll be free.  My OB said didn't think the bedrest would do much good for us after 35 and may be let up then.  Only a week and a half away.  But I"m not getting my hopes up, if she doesn't like what she sees she'll keep us down til 36.  No matter what your getting close, hang in there.

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: 20w5d and contractions
« on: January 06, 2012 at 11:11 AM »
Hang in there, I know how scary this is.  I started contracting at 20 weeks with my second and 8 weeks with this one.  I've been on bedrest since 25 and nephidpine every 4/5 hours to keep contractions under control.  With this pregnancy we have been to L&D 12 times.  So NEVER feel silly about going in.  You know your body and if something isn't right.  If it makes you feel better with all my contractions I have yet to make signigicant cervical change, only now starting to dialiate at 33 weeks.  As for length, when this all started I was 3.76 and when they checked the other day it was 5!  So the bedrest is working on that front.  I lost my plug earlier this week but Dr. is  confident we'll get to 35.  Is a cerglage on the table for you?  Can you see a high risk specialist?

We didn't know what was causing mine for a long time.  But it turns out I have enough fluid for 3 pregnant women in there and at 26 weeks was measuring as big as a 34 weeker.  My uterus doesn't like having baby in it anyway so all the fluid is just aggrivating things more.  The extra fluid also give little man a lot more room to move, kick, and punch, which in turn causes more contractions. 

Try to relax, thoughts and prayers are with you.

33 weeks and hoping little man can stay in there another week, he's being a little stinker today and my body isn't liking it too much, want to hit 34 when our OB said he's mostly likely be able to come home with us.  Very happy to have made it to 2012, especially after being told 30 would be a miracle.  Hang in there everyone!

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 4th times a charm...
« on: January 01, 2012 at 07:30 PM »
Ah me and morning sickness know each other well.  With DD it was true morning sickness and would go away about noon and stopped as soon as I started my second boy pregnancies on the other hand.  So I get pregge pops (We got them at Motherhood and Maternity), to suck on, ginger ale, sprite, flat coke (don't ask me why that works but it does), saltine crackers, and keeping food in my stomach in general (lots of little meals).  My sweet customers would bring me home remedies they used when they were pregnant, I never took it as I wasn't sure where they'd gotten it or how old it was (some of these ladies had scrapbooking stuff that was 10+ years old).  But candied ginger kept coming in.  Hope that helps and feel better!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Bored!!!!
« on: January 01, 2012 at 04:32 PM »
Laptop, DH got me a laptop as an early Christmas present as I was going nuts and driving him nuts as well.  I got a city building game I played way back in high school/college Zues: Master of Olympus, it and its expansion pack have killed a TON of time for me (on  I am a Disney vacation specialist and have been working on my training, attempting to get clients (hard from the couch), contacting wedding shows, designing promotional materials, and writing a blog for it.  We have Netflix but I mostly use it for the kids, there is only so much Dora I can take in a day.  I did my registry and a lot of Christmas shopping, next project is what we need for the baby.   I was a couponer before I went down and now that I'm getting towards the end, I've started clipping again to rebuild my stash, DH takes what I have to the store, but our stockpile is pretty much gone.  I have 2 hospital bags going (one for us and one for the kids with stuff to do), I try and put something in it on my multiple potty trips.  I've gone thru the baby clothes and stain treated, de tagged, organized, and had DH put away.  I do a big kids consignment sale here locally that's a few months away but takes a ton of prep, right now I"m calling around to get hangers for it before the rush.  Finally we do our taxes on Turbo Tax so I have my basket of tax stuff.  I've started tabulating the problem hitting that one this year...donations, making calls to make sure I have the right medical figures.

Totally okay to be feeling like that. I've had the sorry for myself thing...over silly things like DH taking the kids to the store or picking up dinner.  That's wonderful your IL can help with DD so much and she most likely won't remember this at all. And even though she misses you, Grandma and Grandpa are probobly spoiling her rotten.  Even so I"ve been planning a quick trip to Dinseyland this summer as a treat for all of us and some much needed family time...and to do research, yes research for my travel job, its been awhile since I've been there and can sell it better if I've been ;).

You are still in the best possible place right now for all of this.  I still contract every day and over the last few days that have been picking up in frequency and intensity, I think my body is getting done and wants to make this happen.  I don't know how much they will do at this point either.  I'm maxed out on neph, so treb...but I can't be alone on that.  Makes me soooooo loopy and sleepy.  Trying for at least 2 more weeks. 

Will they let DH take you for a walk in a wheelchair around the hospital, just to get a change of scenery?  Call him and tell him to stop at your fav resturant and get your favorite ultimate craving dish, pint of Ben and Jerry's (the other men in my life who are helping me get thru this), a mani pedi kit, and a movie or some board games.  Have a date night in your room.

Hang in there you are doing a wonderful job and an amazing women, keep taking it a day or hour at a time.  We are giving weeks for our little ones to have a lifetime.

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: When do you worry and go in?
« on: December 31, 2011 at 01:23 AM »
Really am hoping for the shower we need one (our third and we need still need stuff), at first it looked like we would have a combined one with our next door neighbor who is due exactly one month before us.  The other joke is we'll go the same day :), our boys are just a few weeks apart.  I know few people know what to do with me, and kind of feel like an exhibit some days when people bring  dinner.  Some of them I honestly don't remember from church and think they are just curious.  I think your right if we don't get one before I"ll have one after, I want to do a thank you party for everyone that's helped us out over the last few months and can maybe make it a combined event.

Hang in there, any word on when/if you get to go home?

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: When do you worry and go in?
« on: December 30, 2011 at 06:49 PM »
Happy to hear things are getting under control, hang in there!  There are tons of women on here, me included, that have gone past when the Dr's said we stubborn an prove them wrong.  I'm stubborn as heck and get what I set my mind too I want 36 weeks and will get it.  I also talk with Bryce everyday and tell him that we can't wait to meet him but he's better off in there for now.  So glad your Dr was upset with her counterpart!  Hope she gave him a good talking too!

I don't think I"m getting a shower either, mostly because no one really knows how to do it or what to do with me. DH is going to fish around at Church on Sunday with the ladies that do everyone's.   But your right others are going to do your shopping and get you gifts.  I also do it because you get a discount on what you don't get.

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: New here-28 weeks
« on: December 30, 2011 at 06:39 PM »
The way is was explained to me, and it could be different for some of the other ladies, its that the cervix softening is the body preparing to dialate and for labor itself.  How soft I am is one of the reasons we're on bedrest, between the excess fluid putting pressure, how low he is adding more pressure, and the contractions they thought I would have started to dialate by now. 

Don't let it worry you too much I"ve been and I quote the L&D Dr. "insanely soft and ready to go" since they started checking at 25.  What they are watching for is funneling where the cervix starts to open on the baby's end, think of a tornado type shape on the vag ultrasound.  Have they mentioned if you are 'thick' when they do they checks?  Also even though you are contracting a lot its possible they aren't "doing anything" yet, which has been our case for 7 weeks.

Its  frustratingly confusing, and everyone's body is different and reacts differently to all this.  This is my third pregnancy and the other two were nothing like this one.  DD was fine,  DS gave us a little trouble with PTL at the end, and thsi one...lets just say he owes me an easy labor.  keep us posted and hang in there!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: When do you worry and go in?
« on: December 30, 2011 at 01:59 PM »
Remember your in the best possible place right now to keep her in there longer.  I know 'relaxing' is hard, my OB had to give me a shot of morphine the night I was in because I just could'n't relax and neither was my uterus...think one giant contraction that wasn't stopping.  Basically knocked me out and when I woke up the contractions had stopped and they sent me home.  Can you get another round of steroids.  I had the initial 'rescue' dose which was the 2 shots at 25 and a booster at 29.  Have they done a FFN recently?  Now that I have a negative after 2 positives that's what makes my Dr. relax a little even if things get going, there is only a 1% chance...but she said I broke all the rules and a chance was a chance.  Try to take your mind off it, have someone get you a new book or some games to play.  If you haven't already work on your baby registry online.  I did my Baby's R Us one and it took over 3 hours.  Thoughts and prayers are with you and your princess.

P.S.  Have you resisted the temptation to call that other OB and say I told you so.  I would totaly talk to your OB about what he said when you see him/her.

Yay, glad you had a good appt.  I love my weekly appts and agree wish I could have more just for the peace of mind I get from going in.  I do have a home doppler that I just adore, allows me to at least check on little man.

Hang in there!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: New here-28 weeks
« on: December 29, 2011 at 11:17 PM »
My OB will alternate between an internal exam and a vag ultrasound.  We see her weekly at this point.  If we're in L&D usually get both.  I"ve been very soft since 25 weeks even having one Dr. tell us it would be a miracle to make it to 30 and hospital bedrest was coming.  We're almost 33 and I'm still at home.  For us since I"ve been soft for so long they look for funneling and thinning on the ultrasound while with the internal thickness and dialation.  They can't give you a number when an internal, just by feel and that's subjective to whoever is in there.  I got FFN every 2 weeks until my last one at 31, I guess they aren't accurate after that.

I attribute the bedrest to still being pregnant, if I"m up even just a little bit contractions get going, I don't want to give them a chance to start causing more cervical change.  There are also many women on here that have their cervix 'thicken' after being on bedrest for a bit.  Hope that helps and don't hesitate to ask if you have questions.

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: When do you worry and go in?
« on: December 29, 2011 at 06:41 PM »
Glad to year your heading in, either way you'll feel better.  I have been going thru the same thing for weeks now and totally understand how you feel, but trust me you'll feel better.  Don't let the Dr. bother you, perhaps talk with your Dr. about your concerns with his/her partner.  Mine has her own office and I honestly trust her nurse more than some Dr's I've come across in this little journey.  Like I said before some of them just seem jaded, they know everything, mom's always over reacting type of thing.  I don't think they realize what they are doing to us and how dangerous that can really be.  They need to know its attitudes like that that prevent patients from going in when they need too.  I almost told one of the Dr's I told you so.  We went in and the contractons stopped when we got there, I got the are you sure they were contractions conversation (seriously this woman gave me one of my positive FFN's too), we wound up back just a few days later and it was the same Dr.  It took everything I had not to leave when I saw her.  We got hooked up and had 5 contractions in 10 minutes, she was like wow your really going lets get a shot of thry... 
I know it sounds silly but take a bag expecting to stay the one time we didn't have ours was the one time they kept me so we never leave without it now.  I started on neph every 12 hours and am now every 4/5 depending on how active little man is being.  That being said still get going every now and again.  Please keep us posted!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: When do you worry and go in?
« on: December 29, 2011 at 03:05 PM »
My rule from my OB is 6 or more in an hour, we go in, don't call, just go in.  Sometimes they stop when we get there and sometimes they don't.  For me its not worth something happening so we go in, and have been in 11 times since 25 weeks.  Other things I have to watch for...low back pain, pressure (little man is really low so I"ve felt that for ages), bleeding, water breaking, leaking, cramping, and 'something not feeling right'.

 I would go in, just to be safe.  They may stop when you get there but hey it gets them to stop.  I was told the adreniline is sometimes enough to do it.  The other factor with me and if I remember right you, is the positive FFN, because of that we've had to have a hair trigger for going in.  You know your body and you know when somethings wrong.  I had a dissmissive Dr. when we went in at 25 weeks and only did the FFN because my OB ordered it while we were on our way in...boy she changed her tune after it came back positive.  So Dr's aren't always right, they get jaded by all the false alarms.

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 4th times a charm...
« on: December 29, 2011 at 02:55 PM »
I am so sorry for your losses and that you've had such a difficult road.  I am no help with the cervix issues but can tell you to take it a day, even hour at a time.  The others are right, if something feels off go in, we've been in to L&D 11 times since 25 weeks for contractions.  Don't ever let them make you feel like your over reacting and hold your ground.  We've been on bedrest since 25 as well and know its hard and scary.  The women on this board are just amazing, and I don't know what I would have done without them.  Let us know if there is anything we can do to help and stay down.

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