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I can not express how sorry I am for your loss. There is nothing more devastating than losing a child. Would you like to tell us her name?

The frustration of not knowing why is unbearable, too. Many of us have been there. Please know that you did nothing wrong, which how many women feel.  Nothing anyone can say will change how you feel, but I can offer you a few suggestions, if that is okay.

There is a group called Compassionate Friends, which is a support network for infant loss. It is going to be so important to connect with people who have been there and who can guide you and support you.

Do you have a therapist you can talk to? Your OB can recommend one, and the hospital might offer free counseling services with a social worker on staff. Don't try to handle this on your own. Perhaps your husband can go with you too.

My heart goes out to you... Prayers of healing to you and your family. (((hugs)))

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 32 weeks- Dad checking in
« on: January 29, 2018 at 11:09 AM »
Wow! I am so happy to hear that things are moving in the right direction. Definitely let us know how the next appointment went.

I really hope that being back around other people at work has helped her mood. Does she have any old friends she could call? I know, it almost seems strange to call people these days, but I think it will really be a pick-me-up. Or a family member? And as far as venting, we are definitely here for her.  ;)

Also, if there are times she needs a pity party, she should go for it. Sometimes when you hold back your feelings it makes it worse. So if she needs to complain or cry, that's okay. And please know that if she needs a pity party, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or not doing enough. It seems for many dads they can feel helpless during this time. It sounds like you are a wonderful husband and dad.

Let us know how this past week has been. Positive thoughts to all of you...

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 33 weeks and counting
« on: January 29, 2018 at 10:59 AM »
That is fantastic! It must feel so good to be able to be up and about again, even with restrictions. Plus, being up a bit more might give Baby Boy a chance to flip. It's still possible. Keep us updated!  :D

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Monday Roll Call for January 29, 2018
« on: January 29, 2018 at 10:02 AM »
Hi, ladies.

I was thinking about a time when I was playing with Batman and Robin figures with my son. He said that he wished that he had a Wonder Woman figure so that I could be her.  :-*

Of course, that made me think of all of you! You are Wonder Women, doing everything you can for your babies. And you're also so wonderful for the support you provide each other! Whenever someone's having an especially tough day or week, you all are there. So thank you!

Anybody have any appointments this week?

Keep 'em cookin', mamas!

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Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Can I ignore Braxton Hicks?
« on: January 22, 2018 at 01:09 PM »
Hi! I'm glad you found our group. I can't provide medical advice, but because of your history of preterm birth, I'd say give your OB a call. This early on, it's unusual to have Braxton Hicks. Take a look at this list of symptoms and see if you have any other symptoms of preterm labor:

Better safe than sorry. Let me know when you call. It'll make me feel better.  ;)


Making the Best of Bed Rest / Monday Roll Call for January 22, 2018
« on: January 22, 2018 at 11:44 AM »
"I learned that we can do anything, but we can't do everything... at least not at the same time. So think of your priorities not in terms of what activities you do, but when you do them. Timing is everything."
--Dan Millman

And this is your time to cook! Let everything else fall aside ... for now.

So tell me what is new, ladies! What are you looking forward to this week? As always, let us know how many weeks along you are.

Keep 'em cookin',

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I am so very very sorry about the loss of your son. It must be painfully frustrating to not know the cause after all of those tests. In any case, there was nothing you could have done differently. 

With having a healthy pregnancy in the past, it seems like your chances of going to full term would be likely. One thought I had is that there is a blood test that can predict your risk of preterm birth with great accuracy. You have to take the test during your pregnancy, so you wouldn't be able to find out before getting pregnant. That could help you to know if preterm delivery in your recent pregnancy was an unusual occurrence.

Again, I am terribly sorry for your loss. I'm saying a prayer for strength and healing. (((hugs)))

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: My baby girl has arrived!
« on: January 15, 2018 at 02:01 PM »
Congratulation, Kmuss! It is wonderful you were able to get as far as you did! It sounds like she is a real trooper, with already breathing on her on and nursing sometimes. That's fantastic! Get as much skin-to-skin time as you can (and your husband, too) and she'll be home before you know it.

If you'd feel comfortable with it, perhaps you could post a picture on Facebook or Twitter for us. or

And what wonderful news about Caleb. Amazing! I have tears.

I know you've been down the preemie road before, but don't hesitate to reach out to the preemie support groups for extra support.

Lots of love!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Monday Roll Call for January 15, 2018
« on: January 15, 2018 at 01:49 PM »
I can't believe we are already two weeks into the new year! How has this past week been for all of you?

I hope to see you all at the Live Chat tomorrow! We've been having a lot of fun lately. If you can, plan some of your "up" time during the chat so you can access it on your laptop or desktop. It will be easier to follow along than using your phone. You CAN use your phone though, so no worries.

And keep 'em cookin'!

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Making the Best of Bed Rest / Monday Roll Call for January 8, 2018
« on: January 08, 2018 at 01:10 PM »
Welcome to another week! Tell us how many weeks along you are, what you have planned for this week, and what your favorite bed rest food is.

I ate a lot of string cheese and nuts when I was on bed rest, and also yogurt that I kept in a small fridge next to my futon on the floor in the living room. I wanted to be where all the action was with my 2-year-old Miss Sunshine. Every day was a party on the floor! Kids are very adaptable, thank goodness!

Looking forward to your updates...

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It's not just another week behind you, but an entire year! Anyone surprised that they'll be having a 2018 baby?!?

There's passage from a book called Start with Why that has stuck with me for a few years now. One example from the book is about an expedition to Antarctica, and it made me think immediately of all the bedrest moms I’ve known.

On December 5, 1914, Ernest Shackleton and a crew of twenty-seven men set out for the Weddell Sea on the Endurance, a 350-ton ship that had been constructed with funds from private donors, the British government, and the Royal Geographical Society. … But the crew of the Endurance would never reach the continent of Antarctica. Just a few days out of South Georgia Island in the Southern Atlantic, the ship encountered mile after mile of pack ice, and was soon trapped as winter moved in and with furry. Ice closed around the ship “like an almond in a piece of toffee,” a crew member wrote.

Shackleton and his crew were stranded in the Antarctic for ten months as the Endurance drifted slowly north until the pressure of the ice floes crushed the ship. On November 21, 1915, the crew watched as she sank in the frigid waters of the Weddell Sea. …

Stranded on the ice, the crew boarded their three lifeboats and landed on tiny Elephant Island. There Shackleton left behind all but five of his men and embarked on a hazardous journey across 800 miles of rough sea to find help. Which, eventually, they did.

The book's author, Simon Sinek, goes on to talk about how none of the crew died and how there was no mutiny. Then he shares the ad that Shackleton ran to find and hire his crew, and that is what reminded me of women on bedrest facing a high-risk pregnancy:

“Men wanted for hazardous journey. Small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return doubtful. Honour and recognition in case of success.”

I think an ad for pregnancy bedrest would look something like this:

“Women wanted for anxiety-filled journey. Lost wages, bitter emotions, long months of complete boredom, constant worry. Happiness and healthy baby in case of success.”

I know you didn’t answer a want ad, but there is no one I would rather have on the KeepEmCookin ship than you. You are strong in spirit and mind. You believe in beating the odds. And for months on end, you don’t give up.

Now let's hear some weekly updates, and your thoughts on the year ahead.

Keep 'em cookin',

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What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Back for round 3
« on: December 28, 2017 at 08:30 PM »
English Rose! I can't believe you're back! How exciting! I'm sorry though that you're certainly off to a rough start. Must have been a happy surprise to know your little one is safe. I will certainly be thinking of you and praying for an easier road ahead for you. Keep me posted, okay?  :-*

This is devastating. I am so sorry. You did all you could for Declan.

There is a group called Compassionate Friends, which is a support network for infant loss. It is going to be so important to connect with people who have been there and who can guide you and support you.

Prayers of healing to you and your family. (((hugs)))

I am so very very sorry,

What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: 24 weeks, cerclage, +FFN
« on: December 20, 2017 at 05:44 PM »
Wow! That is all kinds of fantastic news! The contractions were scary, of course, but everything is looking good now!

That's reassuring that you've been able to hold off on the Procardia for now. For me, we had to increase the dose and/or frequency every few weeks. Now you can keep that in your "tool box" if you need it later on. Positive thoughts coming your way!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Monday Roll Call for Dec. 18, 2017
« on: December 18, 2017 at 10:10 AM »
Five Ways Prison Is Better than Bed Rest

1) Daily showers
2) One hour of exercise each day
3) Time spent outdoors on chain gang or "in the yard"
4) Spending time with others in similar circumstances
5) Conjugal visits  ;)

I haven’t shared that in a while, so I thought our new members might get a kick out of it!

As always, let us know how many weeks along you are, and what you've been doing to stay busy. Also, take a moment today to connect with another member by responding to her post. Stay connected…

And keep 'em cookin'!

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