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1846
(I've posted this on behalf of Leola. --Angela)

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Hello fellow bed resters.
This is Leola from Detroit. I am almost 32 weeks and I am experiencing so many feelings right now that I am struggling to sort them out. So each week I settle on a different aspect of my life and this pregnancy and for an hour or so I talk with my therapist for the past seven weeks.
So far therapy has been a positive uplifting experience. I am a single mother of six including this baby and the survivor of many challenges. I am 39 years old and all I have ever done with most of my life is search for love in all places right and wrong. I have raised my children alone with no fathers support and chaos and confusion from abusive relationships. I carry so much guilt for what I have put my children through. I wish and pray and hope to someday never need the help of the state or welfare for any reason.
I have many talents. I am a self published author as well as a local comedian. Telling stories is all I am good at. I need help establishing my career. If any body knows a agent or promoter with legitimate credentials please let me know. I have so many dreams, I am determined to see them through. I want my children to proud of me and my accomplishments. I just want to do good things make good choices, share my story my triumphs as well as my failures. I was always told that I wasn't good enough for anything these words have stayed with me for so long I'm fighting for self esteem.
I just want other women who may feel what I feel to know that they are not alone. As well as I need to know that I am not alone because alone is a sad place to be when you are hurting. Prayer really does help me with this struggle. I just wish and pray to have good friends and acquaintances in my life because I have had my share of trash as well as my fill of fake friends and negative family members. That's all for now. Thanks for your time,
Leola
My message is keep your head up and believe that God has got things all under control.

1847
A few weeks ago, I joked with a friend on hospital bed rest:
You know what they say... "Incompetent Cervix, Incomparable Husband."

And today, thinking of my hubby and my own bed rest days, I thought,
You know what they say... "Irritable Uterus, Amiable Husband."

Tell us what's great about your guy!

1848
I did my most recent bed rest on a futon on the floor of the living room/family room. It was good to do it there so I could still be in the middle of the action, and my daughter could just walk on to the futon and join me for coloring, playdough, tea parties, etc.

What I saw most was how dusty and smudged the mirrors were, and I couldn't bring myself to ask anyone to wipe them down. The coffee table not being centered on the throw rug kind of made me batty, since they were right at eye level.

1849
In bed? On a couch? Upstairs? Downstairs? Main level? How close to the bathroom are you? What do you see right now?

Do you think where you are doing your bed rest affects how you feel? Do you "bed rest" in more than one place?

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 (CNN) -- Twins? Triplets? Octuplets? Sounds like a lot of stress to handle more than one baby at once. It turns out that, according to new research, multiple births are a risk factor for postpartum depressive symptoms in mothers. The study was published April 1 in the journal Pediatrics.

Researchers analyzed data from more than 8,000 mothers who participated in the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study-Birth Cohort, which looked at children born in 2001.

Nine months after delivery, mothers of multiple births had 43 percent greater odds of having moderate or severe postpartum depressive symptoms compared with mothers of single babies, the study said.

Mothers with multiple births in the study had twins or triplets, and no significant difference was found in postpartum depression rates between those groups.

"Any mother needs to know that this is a serious problem," said study co-author Yoonjoung Choi of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. "From the health care provider's side, any mothers with postpartum depression need to be referred to appropriate services."

The stress of multiple babies is one reason that some mothers may experience postpartum depression, experts say. The study did not specifically examine the causes behind the depression.

Mothers feel especially stressed when their children don't sleep through the night, said Catherine Monk, psychiatrist at Columbia University Medical Center in New York, who was not involved in the study.

Monk recently got a call from a mother with newborn twins who said she felt more depressed after their birth than she did when she had her three other children, who were born separately.

Multiple births can also be associated with in vitro fertilization, a process that often brings stress of its own, Monk said.

"The process of any kind of assisted reproduction is very stressful for women and couples, and can put a vulnerable woman on the edge," she said.

Postpartum depression is often diagnosed within the first four to six months but can emerge later, Monk said.

The study points to a greater need to screen mothers for postpartum depression and direct them to the appropriate resources, Choi said. When a mother goes for a well visit with her baby or babies, the pediatrician could help in detecting depression symptoms and educating the mother about treatment.

Besides risks to the mother, multiple babies have a higher infant mortality rate. Multiple births also carry the risks of preterm labor, low birthweight and prematurity, research shows.

Symptoms of postpartum depression, which affects an estimated 10 percent of new mothers, include mood swings, loss of appetite, insomnia and withdrawal from family and friends, according to the Mayo Clinic.

One underlying cause of postpartum depression may be that the baby or babies trigger the mother's memories of her own family and make her worry about giving her children a better childhood, Monk said. The mother may be unaware that she is having these associations.

"On a less-conscious level is our hopes and dreams about what kind of parent we're going to be and our anxiety about it, our fears," she said. "The mammoth responsibility about having a baby -- it is like obviously nothing else in life."

The transition of becoming a mother can have this effect even if the woman has had children previously, because different babies trigger different memories, Monk said.

Therapies available for postpartum depression include psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy and medication, and some women find that a combination works best, Monk said.

Full article:
http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/03/31/depression.multiple.births/index.html

1851
I'm compiling a list of businesses and individuals who can provide help to women on bed rest (light housekeeping, running errands, shopping, etc.)

Mamas on Bedrest and Beyond
6705 Hwy 290 West Suite 502, #283
Austin, TX 78735
Phone/fax: 512-288-0827
E-mail: info@mamasonbedrest.com
www.mamasonbedrest.com


Pampered Momma
Heidi Cogdill
Portland, OR area
503.989.3654
heidi@pamperedmomma.net
www.pamperedmomma.net

My Womb to Grow
www.mywombtogrow.com
http://mywombtogrow.com/antepartum-doula-care
Serving the greater Denver area as antepartum, birth, postpartum doula.
303-241-5170

Emily Schaffer
Services offered in: San Francisco Bay Area, Marin County, Santa Barbara County and available to travel internationally.
Certified Postpartum Doula
Certified Lactation Educator
Certified Baby Planner
Telephone 415.302.6450
emilymschaffer@gmail.com
http://emilyschaffer.com

I also know of an antepartum doula in the Tampa, FL area. E-mail me for her contact info: angela@keepemcookin.com

Please add others to this topic thread, and I will then compile a master list to post here on the forum and on the "Making the Best of Bed Rest" page. Thank you!!!

1852
What is the most important thing a man can do for his partner if she is on pregnancy bed rest?
How are you handling the housework?
What help do you have? Family? Nanny?

1853
Hi, Taryn.
I always feel strange saying welcome to the board, when it is often such difficult circumstances that bring people here. But you are welcomed, and I hope you'll reach out to us as much as you'd like. I wanted to direct you to some info on the steroid shots. Here's an overview: http://www.keepemcookin.com/prevention.aspx (about three-fourths the way down the page).

And here's an article, from 2/2/09, on the most current study about doing a second round of steroids if/when labor appears to be imminent:
http://www.keepemcookin.com/news.aspx

Hope those help! This is such a stressful time, so I hope our group can provide you with reassurance whenever we can!

1854
Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Paging Rheam1984
« on: March 27, 2009 at 10:18 PM »
How are you doing? I know the losses you've faced have been so hard. Do you feel you are coping OK? Do you have good support? Have you seen your OB recently, and have you thought about when you might try again?

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Flowerpot,
How did your scan go? Any change?

1856
Laura,
Thanks for taking the time to be her advocate. I think you are right to be concerned. Here's a short answer to your question:
"The length of the cervix is expected to shorten as a pregnancy progresses, but a length of 3.0 cm to 3.5 cm isn't expected until 32 to 36 weeks." You can find more info from two major studies on cervical length and preterm labor here: http://www.keepemcookin.com/prevention.aspx

Statistically, your DD may be just fine, but I'd like to recommend two things, based on my personal experiences with an early-shortening/softening cervix. First, please print out this list of preterm labor symptoms (http://www.keepemcookin.com/symptoms.aspx) for her to keep at home on the fridge and also somewhere at work.  Please have her call her doctor if she has any of the symptoms, OR she can go straight to L&D to have her cervix checked.

I'm also concerned about her symptoms being overlooked, because the symptoms of preterm labor can be so similar to the normal discomforts of pregnancy. You can also print out this guide for how to describe her symptoms to her doctor: http://www.keepemcookin.com/talk.aspx  You mentioned that she's been having pains. Can you describe them?

I do hope her doc will do another u/s on the 9th, even if just to give her peace of mind. Please let us know how the appointment goes. And don't hesitate to get in touch!
Keep 'em cookin'!

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CDC Reports Slight Decline in Perterm Birth Rate

The annual percentage of preterm births in the United States dropped to 12.66 percent in 2007, compared to 12.8 percent in 2006, according to preliminary data released by the CDC last week.

"It is a small victory, but still significant," says Angela Davids, founder of
KeepEmCookin.com, an organization that educates women about the risk of preterm birth and
the warning signs of preterm labor. "If the percentage of preterm births in 2006 had been the
same as it was in 2007, there would have been 6,528 fewer babies born prematurely in 2006," Davids
says.

Read more at http://www.keepemcookin.com/news.aspx

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Thanks for sharing your story! You've given other women a lot to learn from -- especially knowing to listen to their bodies and to be aware of preterm labor symptoms (http://www.keepemcookin.com/symptoms.aspx). You went through SO much, it is just unreal. I hope you'll check back and offer support to some of our hospital bed-resters. We've just started an outreach campaign to about 10 MD/VA/DC hospitals, so we will likely see more of the hospital "prisoners" on the forum (in addition to those on "house arrest").

My little guy turned 8 months old this week. I did 3+ months of bed rest before he was born, and then almost 2 months of very limited activity afterward due to pre-e and kidney failure. I wish someone had warned me how HARD the recovery/rehabilitation would be! Every day I figured it had to get better soon, but I probably should have done physical therapy. I'm sorry you still aren't feeling 100 percent, but you've got a great attitude and that will really help. Some days I just felt so beat down, but I found if I pushed myself a bit more a few times each day, my strength seemed to grow.

Thank you for being an advocate for yourself, your daughter, and other moms everywhere!!!

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What do you all think about this article? Too negative? Or realistic?

(Reuters Health) – Being born too early can do lasting damage. A team reports that many 12-year-olds who were born prematurely with a very low birth weight have lower IQs and more developmental problems than similarly aged children who were born at term.

Dr. Betty R. Vohr of Brown University in Providence, Rhode Island, and colleagues compared outcomes of 375 children with birth weights between 600 and 1250 grams born between 1989 and 1992 with 111 age-matched full-term "control" children.

MORE: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20090316/hl_nm/us_preterm_birth_can_have_persistent_effect_1

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I've talked to quite a few women lately who have said that their doctors won't stop labor once they have reached 34 weeks. One of the doctors at my OB/GYN's office said the same thing  (because their "NICU outcomes were so favorable," he said), but my usual doctor said to continue with bed rest and nifeipine until 37 weeks. Developmentally speaking, there is a world of difference between 34 weeks and 36 weeks, and even a big jump between 36 and 37.

Had anyone's doctor said that they won't stop labor after 34 weeks? And why would this be the standard protocol?

We have a right to medical intervention when it is in the best interest of our babies, and if it is not a risk to ourselves (as with preeclampsia, gestational diabetes, etc.). Shouldn't our goal be 40 weeks? With my first pregnancy I didn't know what the treatment options were. With my second pregnancy, I did, and I was able to ask the right questions and keep my little guy cookin'. I want that for EVERY pregnant women. If you haven't had a chance already, please take a look at the most current treatment options here: www.keepemcookin.com/prevention.aspx

I look forward to hearing what you ladies think...

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