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Hi, Susan.
Welcome! It sounds like you are doing a GREAT job taking care of yourself and you little girl! I know, it really is frustrating that there aren't any specific studies on bed rest. I would love to see a retrospective study, to see how bed rest helped or not. Though I imagine it may be tough to get women to be honest about how strict they were (or not) if it was home bed rest. Personally, I really believe it works. During my months of bed rest, there were a few occasions where I just could not stay home. Within 24 hours of my best friend's wedding and again on my mom's b-day, I was at the hospital in preterm labor. If I come across any studies, I'll post something and let you know.

You may want to check out this link to see what is "normal" for cervical length. I did lots of research on the relationship between cervical length and preterm delivery:

But, don't let this information discourage you. I managed to get to 39 weeks although my cervix was measuring 1.5 cm at 24 weeks, and I was already dilating and effaced. Let this information empower you and remind you that the most important thing you can do for your daughter is to take care of yourself and stay off your feet. Gravity is the enemy!

And I agree with you that your cervix was probably short last time too. With my first pregnancy, I had my first signs of PTL at 29 weeks (really painful cramping) and then full-on PTL at 33 weeks, followed by mag and strict bed rest. With my second pregnancy, I had my first episode of PTL at 24 weeks (with contractions starting around 17 weeks). My doctor and I had expected it, and I had been preparing myself for the possibility.

Two questions for you: Are you on the 17P shots? And how is your son handling your bed rest?

I could go on forever. I'll shut up now. :+) Feel free to write anytime!


I've come across a  number of women dealing with preeclampsia, or who had preeclampsia that went undiagnosed. If anyone has any questions, I went through it and I'm happy to share everything  I experienced if it means even one woman can avoid what I went through. My preeclampsia led to kidney failure, and I missed the first two weeks of my son's life while I was sick and in the hospital. The recovery was long and frustrating.

The Preeclampsia Foundation ( is an excellent source of information.

Of course, everyone is welcome to vent, chat, or ask questions here.


Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Re: Paging plmommy
« on: January 16, 2009 at 01:32 PM »
Too funny! I was going to ask you about your cervical length, but I didn't know if it was too rude. :+) With all my hospital visits, home-nurse visits and nurse phone calls, I got so used to talking about cervixes, and mucus plugs, and cramping that I sometimes forget those aren't necessarily everyday topic for most people! So good luck! I actually have some info on the site about cervical length at:

That is SO great that your mom is there this month! My mom wasn't able to take much time off during my bed rest, but every Saturday she'd bring over three or four night's worth of dinners! And don't hesitate to ask your mom for help! For weeks (okay, months) I kept looking at how the coffee table was not at all centered on the throw rug.. I was at floor level (on the famous futon), so it drove me crazy. I didn't want to trouble anyone, but I know my mom would have fixed it if I had asked. Moms are the best! We had to hire a few sitters to help out with my daughter. I pretty much needed someone here 10 hours a day while my hubby was at work. If I tried to do much of anything  (put away dishes, bend over, anything) the contrax would kick in. Wouldn't it be great if somehow insurance would cover childcare costs for bed rest moms?

After getting about three hours sleep total over the last two nights, my sitter is here for a few hours today! Yay! Not sure if I should sleep or catch up on e-mails. Hmmm. How about e-mails? My big chance to chat with grown-ups. Good luck today at your appointment! Let me know how it goes!

Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Paging plmommy
« on: January 15, 2009 at 10:48 PM »
Just wanted to see how you’re doing. How are you holding up in that SoCal heat? And how's your DD? Do you have help at home during the day? Do they go out and run around with DD? I was so worried about my DD getting as bored as I was!

Aren't you getting close to 20 weeks? Have you had the "big" ultrasound yet?

Take care!

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Re: Mommy Is on Bed Rest
« on: January 12, 2009 at 03:57 PM »
I understand completely with so much of what you said! My daughter, who was also about 2 and a half while I was on bed rest was the same way. She started saying "I hate____ (insert name of caregiver here)!" And it didn't matter who it was. Same thing with the acting out; she liked to pull things off shelves, tables, etc. But, maybe that's just being  2, right? And she went through the mommy stage, too. Even now, she still wants mommy to do things, rather than daddy. So I try to look at it as a way for my husband and son to spend more time together.

One idea I have for you is to have other people spend time with her outside of the house. My DD and DH went to a train museum, the duck pond, and different things like that to take her mind off of what mommy could and couldn't do. And I made sure that mommy got dibs on doing any of the bed-friendly activities you mentioned: reading,, coloring,, Sesame Street games online, kid videos on YouTube, and even play-doh.

The potty-training thing bummed me out too. I had her down to diapers only at nap time, bedtime and for poopies, but all that went out the door. We did get back on track though, and now she uses a diaper at night and for Poopies (still!).

Looking back, I don't think she remembers bed rest at all. She didn't even notice when we took the futon that I had lived on for months out of the living  room! And the moment Maddie walks into the hospital to see you and the baby, all these weeks will melt away, and you will fall in love with Maddie all over again.

Feel free to post any time! Hugs,

Welcome to the forum! Thanks for posting that article on the link between education level and preterm birth. Interesting stuff!

This was just sent to me by our member mvp57. Thanks!

Source: Wall Street Journal, by Melinda Beck

Link to full article (requires online subscription):

New Research Shows Why Every Week of Pregnancy Counts

This time of year, some hospitals see a small uptick in baby deliveries thanks to families eager to fit the blessed event in around holiday plans or in time to claim a tax deduction. Conventional wisdom has long held that inducing labor or having a Caesarean section a bit early posed little risk, since after 34 weeks gestation, all the baby has to do was grow.

But new research shows that those last weeks of pregnancy are more important than once thought for brain, lung and liver development. And there may be lasting consequences for babies born at 34 to 36 weeks, now called "late preterm."

New research shows that the last weeks of pregnancy are more important than once thought for brain, lung and liver development.

A study in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in October calculated that for each week a baby stayed in the womb between 32 and 39 weeks, there is a 23% decrease in problems such as respiratory distress, jaundice, seizures, temperature instability and brain hemorrhages.

A study of nearly 15,000 children in the Journal of Pediatrics in July found that those born between 32 and 36 weeks had lower reading and math scores in first grade than babies who went to full term. New research also suggests that late preterm infants are at higher risk for mild cognitive and behavioral problems and may have lower I.Q.s than those who go full term.

What's more, experts warn that a fetus's estimated age may be off by as much as two weeks either way, meaning that a baby thought to be 36 weeks along might be only 34.

The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, the American Academy of Pediatrics and the March of Dimes are now urging obstetricians not to deliver babies before 39 weeks unless there is a medical reason to do so.

"It's very important for people to realize that every week counts," says Lucky E. Jain, a professor of pediatrics at Emory University School of Medicine.

(This is only an article excerpt.)

If anyone comes across any new information, studies, or treatments related to preterm birth, please reply to this topic. Please provide us with a link, and maybe tell us a little bit about why you found the information helpful.

Thanks everyone!

P.S. You can view additional articles about preterm labor and articles about bed rest at

Making the Best of Bed Rest / Mommy Is on Bed Rest
« on: December 20, 2008 at 10:10 PM »
How are your children handling your bed rest?

This was one of the toughest things for me: How am I going to take care of my two-and-a-half year old? Is she going to "get mad" at Mommy for not being able to play the same games, to dance, or to take her to the park? And who is going to do the every-day things, like puttting her on the potty and making her meals?

Ultimately, it meant organizing a patchwork of a few sitters and several family members for 10 hours a day while my husband was at work. It was SO hard to feel like other people were raising my child while I just laid there. It did help that we moved a futon mattress into the family room so I could still be part of the action and there was room for my daughter too. And you know what, my daughter almost always chose spending time with me over anyone else. We played educational games on my laptop, we colored, we talked in Spanish, and we read A LOT. And I could still give her hugs, even though I wasn't able to pick her up during my pregnancy.

What activities are you doing with your child or children while on bed rest?

Welcome to the club!  I'm Angela. I am 35 years old and the mother of two (and the founder of this forum). I hope other women will share their stories so that we all can learn from their experiences! My story is posted at, and I hope you will post your story here on the Forum (even if your story is still in the works)! You will want to register first in order to post and reply to messages. It takes about 30 seconds, and it is free.

Once you've registered, click on the "Home" button above, then click on "What's Your Story?" and then click on "New Topic" on the right-hand side.

Write as much as you like. And tell us about you! Your name, interests, career, child’s name or initial (for example, I refer to my daughter as Miss L. and son as Mr. G.), at which week you were put on bed rest (if applicable), cause or suspected cause of preterm labor, any warning signs you had, and any information you would like to share that you believe may help others.

Be sure to check out the other forum categories, too!

    * Making the Best of Bed Rest
    * Other Pregnancy Complications
    * Mommy Is On Bedrest. Now What?
    * Is There a Genetic Link?
Keep 'Em Cookin', mamas!

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