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Preterm Labor: Anything and Everything / Soft Cervix
« on: July 28, 2010 at 01:39 PM »
Hi everyone,

I'm not a regular on this board, but visited it quite a bit before making the decision to have a second baby. DD was born at 28 weeks 2 days a little over five years ago for unknown reasons (labor seemed to start out of no where one day, and she was born 6 hours later), and I'm now 27 weeks 2 days pregnant.

At my prenatal appointment a month ago I was told my cervix was completely posterior (facing back) and nice and high. At my most recent appointment (Monday), I was hoping for no change, but was told my cervix has come forward a bit, it's "soft", and the external os is open enough for about a finger tip. Anyone have any idea what this kind of "softness" could mean at 27 weeks? I'm so scared I'll pitch into labor at any minute, but was only told to "continue my normal activities", just "take it easy" and "be aware" of contractions and such. I'd really appreciate any input/experiences you could share :)


What's Your Story? Tell us. / Re: Scared to try again
« on: December 08, 2009 at 03:34 PM »
Andrea and Karen, thank you so much for your responses and sharing your stories. It will probably be vital for me to have the support of other mothers through a second pregnancy, particularly from moms who share my fears and experiences.

The day after I posted this, I had a discussion with my husband - asking if it would be worth canceling the insurance we'd applied for (basically as high deductible 'preemie' insurance), because I just didn't think I could risk it. He was so supportive and reassuring... even though he's been the one doubting our readiness for another baby most seriously. Actually hearing him say "I WON'T BLAME YOU", if we have another preemie, was so helpful... even though I should have known it already. So, after all our uncertainty, this will be the first cycle we try for our second child.

Andrea - It's so wonderful you made it to 36 weeks! Did you wind up with a cervical cerclage, or just the progesterone shots/bed rest? The idea of bed rest does worry me, as I'm the stay-at-home mom of a busy four year old. However, I know we have many friends and family members who would do what was necessary to help out.

Karen - I'm so sorry to hear about your losses, but your hope and dedication is inspiring. I would love to hear how your pregnancy progresses. I enjoyed every minute of pregnancy with my first child, although I obviously never felt the typical third trimester discomforts. I think preemie mamas do get the gift of truly cherishing their pregnancies, however long they are. It's kind of hard to believe some moms actually complain about being overdue...

I'll probably be visiting this forum more often in the coming months!


What's Your Story? Tell us. / Scared to try again
« on: December 03, 2009 at 08:44 PM »
Hello everyone,

My name is Emilia, and I'm totally new to this forum. This looks like a wonderful place to give and receive support from other mothers, so here is my story, and my question for any of you mamas kind enough to reply:

With my first pregnancy, I went into labor at 28 weeks, and after only six hours since my pain began, my daughter was born at 2 lbs 13 oz. She was in the hospital for seven weeks. We never found out why she came so early. She's now a very healthy, bright, wonderful four year old. And to our surprise, she's also very tall! :)

Since her birth, I have passionately wanted a second child. I always pictured having my children pretty close together, but for various reasons, only now am I to the point where I can realistically plan for another baby. My husband and I have been trying to get insurance and other financial details worked out for months, and it seems like every time things start to come together... something else slows the process. Today, I actually had an appointment with a midwife for a pre-pregnancy consult, as we think this might finally be our month to start trying. I was SO EXCITED. The appointment went great, the midwife was wonderful, the fees are reasonable... and somehow I came home feeling SO SAD. Now that I feel like I can finally have the family I've dreamed of, I'm absolutely petrified of having another preemie. For years now I've told myself "it'll be different next time" (and I definitely do have MUCH less stress in my life now), but I worry maybe it's just wishful thinking, and that I could be risking the life of a child by attempting to have another baby.  Am I crazy to consider getting pregnant again? Have any of you had a preemie this early, and then gone on to have a full-term baby?

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