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Mrshannahg

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PROM @ 13 weeks.
« on: October 29, 2011 at 01:49 PM »
Hello,
...I've never done this kind of thing before. So, I tell my story and hopefully someone will respond, right?

My name is Hannah, I'm 24. I got married in March 2011. And I got pregnant in July. This is my very first pregnancy.
At 13 weeks I had to go to the ER cause my water broke. After examination they said I had PROM. (premature rupture of membranes). The level that the amniotic fluid that was left was 2.5. The hospital told me that if I was 20+ weeks (where the baby could survive outside the womb) they would send me to a hospital that would put me on bed rest and they would basically put the water back in by catheter. But....since I was only 13 weeks they sent me home with antibiotics.
That happened on a Saturday, the following monday I saw my doctor and he basically said that bed rest and drinking lots of fluid ...and prayer is the only thing I can do. I see him once a week for an ultrasound, he says its basically so that he's sees if the baby still has a heartbeat.....on the plus he is quite surprised that the baby has survived the 2weeks since this happened. I'm now 15 weeks.
I am trying to stay positive, but 2weeks on bed rest I'm going crazy. My husband is great and is taking care of me. But he also has a full time job as being the pastor of our church and has plenty of things to do. He makes time to spend with me, but i wish he could take a good break for himself. The only person to come see me is my mother who lives 3 hours away. And I'm very greatful when she gets a couple days off to see me. ......I think I'm just really lonely. In the last 2 weeks not one person has come to see me other than her. Everyone knows I can't leave the house and they all say "oh we're praying for you and the baby"....I just wish someone would spend time with me I guess.
I'm probably coming across as a downer, I think a lot of it has to do with this not being something we expected especially with our first baby. Then all the "what if's" that go through your mind"....I know it's done, it happened. I'm dealing with it. We have faith that everything will be fine. It's just an emotional roller coaster.
I have plenty of things I could do to occupy myself, I scrapbook, paint, make hair clips, read, watch Netflix (the munsters have passed a lot of time), and my mom plans to teach me how to crochet the next chance she gets to visit (next week).....but I think deep down I just want someone around (and to give my wonderful husband a break (lol))

Writing this made me feel a bit better, thanks.

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Re: PROM @ 13 weeks.
« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2011 at 07:20 PM »
Bedrest is a lonely task. I have been bedresting now for 10 or so weeks. And in the beginning I had lots of visitors but it has slowed down now!  hang in there, you are doing a great job. :)

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« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2011 at 08:42 PM »
Thanks for the encouragement. I really appreciate it.
10 weeks? Wow! .....how do you not go crazy? Or lonely?

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Re: PROM @ 13 weeks.
« Reply #3 on: October 29, 2011 at 08:47 PM »
Hi Hannah, Im brand new to this forum too.. and I feel the same as you with loneliness.. First off, congrats on making it 2 weeks!! Everyday is a big accomplishment and you should be really proud of yourself! Just for more encouragement, I knew I woman from another forum I was on who had PROM at 17 weeks and finally delivered her son at 27 weeks! So there is hope!!!

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« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2011 at 09:54 PM »
Hi Hannah! I had my baby this past summer after completing 12 weeks of bedrest and so far bedrest has been the hardest thing I've ever done. But I don't regret one single day of it & I would do it all over again if I had to. Several things were hard about it, worrying about your baby, being tired of laying on the couch/bed and having to ask everyone for help are just a few...but loneliness was by far the worst. I don't know what kind or size of church you go to, but most churches have an announcement time, maybe you could have your husband or someone announce that you would really like some visitors? We had people from our church ask how they could help us and they seemed surprised when I said that company would be nice, that just to come visit would be as helpful as anything else they could be doing. I really think that they didn't consider that I might be lonely laying on the couch all day.

Also...if you get a chance join the weekly chats here, it was really nice to have other women to talk to that were going through the same things.

Michelle
due 8/1 - a girl
Mom to Blue, born 10/7/09 @ 37 weeks
Bedrest @ 22 weeks due to short cervix

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« Reply #5 on: October 29, 2011 at 10:22 PM »
I really do appreciate the feed back, I'm sure you can imagine (especially the ladies who have been through bed rest).
I am trying my best to stay positive. My husband and I just had a chat actually and we came to the conclusion that this might be long term so I better get use to it. (some days, like today, are  very emotional though.
It is very encouraging to hear that with PROM they delivered a healthy baby.
Michelle, I have reached out to friends....but they just seem too busy. (I've honestly had issues with not having very good friends, like being there for me.....I think that's why I was called to be a pastors wife, so I can be a friend to everyone...lol) I will mention that about asking church members to visit to my husband. I don't want to come across desperate..but I guess I am.

Thank you ladies for encouraging me.
It's nice to have someone to talk to.

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« Reply #6 on: October 31, 2011 at 10:31 AM »
I did 13 weeks of bed rest and understand what you are going through. It is lonely, isolating and very scary.  For me it was the psychological part that was the hardest - everyday waking up with the fear that today may be the day the babies are born.  Try to stay positive and hang in there - it will be over before you know it.  And once it is over it will seem like a distant memory. 
Natural boy/girl twins!!
EDD November 1, 2011 (based on 38 weeks)
Bed rest at 20 weeks for cervical shortening
Cerclage placed at 21 weeks after further shortening
13 weeks and 1 day of strict bed rest and Mario and Amelia made their appearance at 33 weeks and 4 days on October 1, 2011!

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« Reply #7 on: November 16, 2011 at 03:31 AM »
I have made it to almost 18 weeks since the membranes ruptured. Doctors are believing with my husband and I that if I stay healthy (no infection) thi pregnancy will last.....but first sign of infection, were done. Since it could turn into me not ever getting pregnant again or fatal.
Anyways, since I haven't been on here in a few weeks......
Th Lord and I had a good chat and I haven't been as lonely as I was starting out. So that is a major positive in my attitude! Also, I was swing my normal OB since this happened. The babies fluid is still very very low but we have seen a small increase! Mg last doc appointment, he said there was a bunch more fluid so we were very hopeful.
I had gotten a call from them the following day and they told me that since my pregnancy has lasted this long since the membranes ruptured and still no infection that they are goingcti refer me to a high risk pregnancy doctor.
I met with him today. He was very dry and to the point! lol but he was very thorough. He took about an hour to meet with us. (after our 2nd wait, ugh. That's neither here nor there though lol)
Soooo bad news: baby's fluid is still very low. The extra fluid the other doctor thought he saw...wasn't fluid. Some was but most was apparently the babies umbilical cord. Common mistake I guess.
Good news!!!!!: we saw the babies face. The doc says that he sees open nasal passages which I guess means that baby doesn't show signs of downsyndrom, which is always nice to know. Also, he saw basically the brain and says that it looks normal. Heart beat is still very good. He also saw his bladder which tell him that he is making fluid for himself, he's just probably swallowing it as quick as it comes out since there is such a lack. (poor lil guy) and last thing, he can't measure the lung development at tuis point but did say they look normal and developing.
He sounded hopeful for us, he says that he knows were not getting rid of the pregnancy so he will continue with us and basically see what happens. So all in all, I am very grateful to have him as my new doctor. He doesn't have many patients so he spends more time with the ones he does have. He also said "I am your new doctor, you call me if anything happens or need to ask questions" and gave us his personal cell. Very comforting! ;) sooo all in all, today was a fantastic day.
I will start getting blood drawn twice a week now an see him once a week.....soooo lots of outings! No more just laying on the couch and waiting! ;)

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« Reply #8 on: November 16, 2011 at 01:17 PM »
Wow-congratulations on making it to 18 weeks--I'm glad bedrest is getting a little easier to deal with and you have some outings to look forward to!  I have been on bedrest for 5 weeks and in some ways when I look back I think, "well, it hasnt felt like 5 weeks" but then in other ways some days have felt like an eternity.  Anyway-congratualations on your milestone! 
J

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« Reply #9 on: November 16, 2011 at 03:12 PM »
Congratulations on making it to week 18!  The uncertainty of things are always so difficult to deal with.

I don't know a whole lot about amniotic fluid and how it is made... but is there a specific reason why your body has not replenished it? Are you still leaking fluid?   
Also, in your first post
The hospital told me that if I was 20+ weeks (where the baby could survive outside the womb) they would send me to a hospital that would put me on bed rest and they would basically put the water back in by catheter.
Now that you are further along and baby is growing and developing well, is this something they plan on doing to help the fluid level?
I was just wondering.
EDD: Feb 28, 2012
B/R at 18 weeks for placenta previa
9-13-08 Healthy boy born @ 34 weeks PTL and PROM
8/07, 8/10, 2/11  Miscarriages

Mrshannahg

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« Reply #10 on: November 16, 2011 at 03:34 PM »
Thank you! The baby actually makes the fluid, I try and drink a lot of fluid...but in the long run it doesn't help much, it's up to the baby. Good news is that babies produce amniotic fluid up to 32-37 weeks....soooo hopefully the baby will keep continuing to make enough for itself.
The doctor told us that the baby doesn't need a huge amount...just enough to develop its lungs. And so far it seems to be making enough at the moment. Also, no...I haven't leaked any fluid since that awful day. So either I am but just not enough to notice, or the rupture closed. (the doctor is basically too afraid to check cause of the whole contamination/infection that could happen)

Yes, bed rest stinks soooooo bad! I do look at it now as "wow, it has been 5wks already!"

......actually, my new doctor told us that putting the fluid back in is more dangerous at this point. Mostly because I have gone 5 wks w no infection and I could get one if they put a catheter in. It's already dangerous for me to be on antibiotic for so long that they are just making me rest and take it easy and see what happens.
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« Reply #11 on: December 02, 2011 at 05:04 PM »
Sooooo I am now 20 weeks!!!
It's been 7 weeks since my water "broke"!
The doctor informed us to what exactly the birthing plan will be.
He is going to get me to 24+ weeks and then I will be sent to Vegas to continue my pregnancy on hospital bed rest. And the reason for this is because we do not have a NICU in the city where I live and if I was to deliver here the baby would be flown to Vegas anyway. Once Vegas sees the pregnancy as "viable" (24+weeks) they will admitt me to the hospital and basically monitor me everyday. I won't be hooked up to anything. Just basically bed rest with a very close watch on me.
I'm a little disappointed about things. For instance, my husband and I wanted to move but doesn't look like that will now happen till after the baby is home. Also, being on bed rest....and in a mother city I wont be able to make the nursery....or even shop for the baby. Unless its online, but thats taking the fun out of "nesting". We have no idea if I will even have a baby shower. Because when would I even have one? Lol I'll leave the beginning of next month till who knows when. :/
I guess well figure it out.
Anyways, everything with the baby is being sustained! Still has strong heartbeat. Even still with a lack of fluid, everything seems to be developing! He/she is a little fighter! .....also, we obviously haven't found out what were having yet.....legs are always crossed!!! Lol
I am and have been in good spirits about the whole thing. We have an amazing God that provides!
All my blood work has been coming back as pretty much perfect. No where close to signs of infection! .....he did order more blood work for me though that I got done yesterday......I had to fast, and I'll just throw it out there that pregnancy and gastric bypass mixed for lab work is not a walk in the park!!!! They took 11 vials of blood!! I had never felt so weak in my life! Lol
But all in all, everything is getting better it seems. Baby even has a little bit more fluid around him/her. And measurements are right on track!

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« Reply #12 on: December 03, 2011 at 06:23 PM »
It's great that things are going so well for you and baby!  The hospital bed rest is going to be hard, but you'll make it through.  At least you won't be hooked up to the monitors and things.  That would make it more uncomfortable. 
 
So how far away is Vegas compared to where you live?  I ask, because perhaps your friends/family could do a small baby shower in your hospital room...  (not the greatest I know, but it might work)  I know what you mean about getting the nursery ready with nesting.  It has been driving me nuts not being able to get things ready.  I did eventually talk some of my family into coming over and moving/hanging/getting things in place for me while I sat in the rocking chair and watched.

Continue the good growing  :)
EDD: Feb 28, 2012
B/R at 18 weeks for placenta previa
9-13-08 Healthy boy born @ 34 weeks PTL and PROM
8/07, 8/10, 2/11  Miscarriages

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« Reply #13 on: December 17, 2011 at 01:42 PM »
It feels like its been a while!
Vegas is only an hour & 1/2 away. Not too bad. That was a good idea, possibly it could work out if people came to me there.

Update: everything is still going good with the baby. Still check on him or her once a week. We did have a scare last week cause baby hadn't moved in about 3 days so we checked but everything was fine. Put our minds at ease to hear that heartbeat!
Then the next day we ment with the specialist. He is so very amazed that this pregnancy is continuing. And he is still very hopeful for us. Everything from my blood work is coming back perfect. No signs of infection and even with my gastric bypass I had a couple years ago all of my levels are good such as protein, iron, sugars.....all those. And I FINALLY seemed to gain a few pounds since the beginning of November. So that made me feel a bit better!
Doc says that he is calling the high risk doctor in Vegas this week and let them know all about me. We will have a consult with them sometime after Christmas. He warned us again about us needing to be the boss and not them. He says they will try and terminate, deliver early, or push something on us that we won't want and to just be strong and tell them that basically the baby is making the rules right now. Lol which is so true! Apparently baby is doing fine with the amount of fluid it has, seems to be enough right now. We dont want to jinx anything!
He/she is such a little fighter! .....it is almost bothering me though that baby won't uncross it's legs for us to see what it is!!! Lol I don't understand how we go EVERY week and legs are still crossed....especially when I feel movement! Lol apparently baby knows its special and wants everything to be a surprise! ;)

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« Reply #14 on: December 17, 2011 at 09:14 PM »
I'm thrilled to hear that you and the baby have made it sooo far.  That is awesome.  A fellow teacher where I worked had a similar situation-a very early breaking of waters followed by a long bedrest.  She calls him her little miracle baby-Not only did he beat the odds but she went on to have another baby afterwards as well.  Good luck in Vegas.  Stand up to the doctors who are not trying to follow the plan and think they know whats best.