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Mommaof3

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Just frustrated today...
« on: April 28, 2012 at 03:42 PM »
Today hasn't turned out to be as bad as I might have thought it was going to.... I woke up and of course while I'm sitting here in the hospital the only thing I have to look forward to is if I might have ordered something new for lunch (because they finally let me start ordering from the cafe), which is usually at let down being hospital food and all, or if visitors are coming, especially my babies!!! So I'm on the phone with my husband and his Mom is beeping in which annoys me even before I know what she's going to say or whatever! See, my mother-in-law is like... I can't even describe it without sounds like a horrible person but if you guys knew her, you'd know what I'm talking about! She had my husband when she was 15 and hasn't stopped having babies, she just had her last one in January! That boy was born an uncle =) She has had 6 total pregnancies and has been an avid smoker throughout every single one of them and even smokes while holding her newborns (second baby she's had since I've known my husband). I totally don't agree with smoking while you're pregnant and really think anyone should be able to quit for the health of their children, but to each their own and I don't like to judge! Anyway, I could really go on alllllll day about her but if you're still reading this, I will spare you! So she beeps in and asks my husband if he can take HER son because her FIVE kids are driving HER nuts because her husband (or lack there of) who sits on his a** all day and YELLS at all of those kids is in the hospital FOR THE WEEKEND. She insists my husband take him INSTEAD of coming here to let me see my kids. I don't mean to sound selfish but I am now working on my 5th week in this hospital and I'm sorry for not feeling bad for someone who really deserves to be in the hospital because he's a rotten person and doesn't take care of himself whatsoever! She KNEW he was coming here today and that's what makes me angry... The last thing I want to look forward to seeing my kids and having it all changed by some selfish mother-in-law who can't control her own army of children.

I really sound like a horrible rotten person but we're talking about a women who encourages her daughter to drop out of high school when she turns 16 and doesn't encourage her to do well and doesn't help her. She has a great heart and there's no denying that but this is a woman who... It's not even worth it... I am just so hurt and frustrated by this woman today more than ever before, and she has done some unmentionable things to me and my family. Luckily I haven't let it completely ruined my day and enjoyed my own Mother's company for a while, so that was nice =) I'm sorry, I just had to vent... Maybe I should start my own blog like a lot of you guys so that I'm not always complaining on here =P

Oh and by the way it is almost 4pm and if her son was driving her so up the wall at 9AM this morning when she called and suggested my husband neglect his wife and take her child she would have dropped him off to him by now, which she has not... What an idiot.... UGH!
Child #1: Born at 35 weeks, heatlhy
Child #2: Born at 34 weeks, healthy
Child #3: Short Cervix at 21 weeks, strict bedrest for 3 months, 7 weeks of which were hospitalized, dilated to 5 at 28 weeks, baby born at 37 weeks and perfect =)

Mommaof3

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #1 on: April 28, 2012 at 04:01 PM »
Yeah... just talked to my husband who talked to the mother-in-law...... She was just pawning her kids off on people so she can go to the casino tonight... I am speechless.
Child #1: Born at 35 weeks, heatlhy
Child #2: Born at 34 weeks, healthy
Child #3: Short Cervix at 21 weeks, strict bedrest for 3 months, 7 weeks of which were hospitalized, dilated to 5 at 28 weeks, baby born at 37 weeks and perfect =)

Matician

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #2 on: April 28, 2012 at 04:18 PM »
Wow, what a piece of work!!!! I cried any time my husband didn't visit me in the hospital, even if it wasn't because of someone just being selfish. Yuck, and sorry you have to deal with this and her. :(

Mcentire

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #3 on: April 28, 2012 at 04:27 PM »
Some days are just terrible. I'm sorry your MIL frustrates you. I hope you get to see your children soon, you will feel so much Bette once you do. My heart goes out to you. This won't go on forever, something I have to remind myself regularly. I think when you have been on bed rest a while and everything  is stable that some of the folks around you forget that it's a day by day thing, everyone has to push that out of thier minds some what or they'd be eating themselves up daily. Best wishes to you that your time passes more quickly for you.
Mother of 4
#1 2004 full term
#2 2006 born at 37 weeks 1 day after 14 weeks of bed rest due to IC
#3 2009 born at 31 weeks 1 day PROM at 30 weeks with cerclage
#4 2012 born at 36 weeks  2 days IC, cerclage, p17

Rosa

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2012 at 09:40 PM »
thanks for putting things into perspective! I thought my MIL was annoying, but she's really harmless!... I hope that everyone, including your husband, relise what she's like and just laugh it off, coz she's really not worth stressing about. As long as your husband always puts you first, you really needn't worry about her.
first pregnancy, IC - due to Lletz in 2010?
progesterone pessaries since wk 22 - cervix 1.6cm
bedarrest since wk 24 - cervix measure 1.4cm
hospital strict bedarrest at wk 26 - cervix 8mm
back at home, strick bedarrest since week 28 - cervix 1cm
cervix dilated 2cm at week 35

Mommaof3

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2012 at 09:52 PM »
That's one of my issues Rosa! It seems like anytime this mad woman has a crisis it's when I need MY HUSBAND... Last year, my cousin who was an absolute amazing person died and the morning of the day of his funeral she calls because she was in an accident because she was TEXTING and getting off a ramp of the highway! She was on her way to pick her "boyfriend/ex-husband" up from prison an hour away to come and live with her legal current husband and 4 (at the time) kids! So what does she do... asks MY HUSBAND the day I have to go to a horrible funeral to come get her and drive her an hour away and drive her and her prison guy around all day... of course it's his mom and SO HE DOES! When she overspent at the casino and asked us to borrow over $500 to cover an overdraft fee and got pissed when my husband said NO and said she wasn't going to watch our daughter anymore (she was then watching our daughter a couple hours a day before my mom went and got her). Now this... I wasn't even that mad until I found out that she just wanted to go to the friggin CASINO because she's addicted to gambling and will LOSE all of her money there and worry until she SOMEHOW gets more... Ugh...
Child #1: Born at 35 weeks, heatlhy
Child #2: Born at 34 weeks, healthy
Child #3: Short Cervix at 21 weeks, strict bedrest for 3 months, 7 weeks of which were hospitalized, dilated to 5 at 28 weeks, baby born at 37 weeks and perfect =)

iza_bel_2000

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2012 at 09:25 AM »
No worries it's sometimes good to let it all out... I have a pregnant friend of mine we are one week apart. She is lucky and not stuck in bed but we do meet sometimes to vent about people and family members...

Hope you will feel better soon
Boy no1: 38+6 natural birth uneventful pregnancy
Boy no2: 37+4 c-section after 14 weeks of bedrest due to bleeding previa

claire1228

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #7 on: May 02, 2012 at 10:45 AM »
PLEASE know that you are not the only one with SHI**Y (for lack of a better word) inlaws!! My inlaws are the two most selfish ppl i have ever met. They have done sooo many rotten things to us, it is unbelievable. you wouldn't even believe some of it. i could go on for dayssss. Anyways, just let your hubby know how stressful this all is for you and that you really need him to be here for YOU right now and that YOUR problems are whats important right now. sounds to me like he may need to cut ties with his mom for a little while to teach her a lesson. (just a suggestion) my hubby did that for a while and his parents got  a LITTLE better. this will all blow over, just keep they baby first!! you are NOT a horrible person for feeling this way! She is the horrible one for acting like that! one day she will reaize it and if not, oh well, her loss. It will get better, i promise. we all have bad days !! Prayers to you for a healthy baby!  :)
Child #1: Born at 35 weeks, healthy
Child #2: Born at 30 weeks, healthy
Child #3: Cerclage at 18 weeks (cervix 2.2cm), on bedrest since, 27w3d as of 5/7/12

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Re: Just frustrated today...
« Reply #8 on: May 07, 2012 at 03:57 AM »
Hang in there hun! Don't let her stress you out too much! Need to keep cooking that baby!!!! No extra stress needed!