Welcome to the forum! Good to hear that you're doing well and have a great support system. I think I'll move to Canada:) I hear their maternity leave is 12 mos w/c can be split with the father? That's fabulous! Anyway, I thought I'd reply to your message b/c my situation was very similar to yours -- on bedrest at 23 weeks due to shortening cervix (yes, it was incompetent) and a bicornuate uterus. I wasn't aware that I had a BCU until my first ultrasound either and it was too late for me to get a cerclage. After 6 weeks on bedrest, my beautiful baby girl was born and she's now happy, healthy 2 year old. Hopefully, some of the details of my story will be helpful to you(http://forum.keepemcookin.com/index.php?topic=11.msg13#msg13
Having a laptop w/ Internet access and noting down my daily progress, along with everything the doctors said in a calendar were extremely helpful for me. One thing I learned is that every DAY counts, so celebrate each day as a milestone! Do try to take it easy. I’m a workaholic and had I not been forced to stay put, I probably would not have made it as far as 29 weeks. Knowing what I know now about how to prevent preterm labor, I would not have gotten up to use the commode as frequently as I had during those last few days. Continue to stay positive, but allow yourself the freedom to relax (as best as you can). Even if you're not in the office, working still inevitably puts stress on your mind and body. Plus, setting a barrier helps people understand that a high-risk pregnancy is just that - it's not like you're on vacation just b/c you're on bedrest.
I understand your need to research complications caused by prematurity. I have to say though that it helped that I didn’t know about every possible thing that could go wrong. Frankly, I don’t know if I could have stayed positive if I had. My husband and I researched things as they came up (because doctors never give you the complete answers). Two things I would research in your area are: 1) The nearest hospital with a Level 3 NICU (http://preemies.about.com/od/allaboutthenicu/a/NICUPart1.htm
) and talk to your doctor about the possibility of delivering there so that your baby doesn’t have to be transported, 2) Check w/ your insurance about getting a private room in case you have to stay in the hospital toward the last few weeks of your pregnancy.
One last thing...you DO have the right to complain. It’s going to (hopefully) be a long ride, so you’ll experience the ups and downs like the rest of us. That’s what forums are for, right? I wish you and your baby all the best!