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Kihran

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Hey mamas.... I need some help I think.. I'm not sure what I need.

I went into preterm labour at 28 weeks. We were able to stop it and the doctor put me on modified bed rest. I quit my job, then hubby got laid off, so now we are both unemployed (selfishly, this helps me out a lot since we have a 2 year old toddler, but not financially). Anyways, I'm now 34 weeks and very happy we've made it this far. Medical issues include polyhydramnios and measuring 42 weeks(as of two weeks ago, so maybe more). Baby boy has UPJ with hydronephrosis in the kidneys. He's also frank breech and measuring 40 weeks and big, my body hurts so much from the added fluid and weight. Which is getting worst and worst, I'm started to notice how depressed the bed rest, complications, pain I really am. The fact that all the doctors are saying I'll probably end up with either a cord prolapse and/or section is depressing me even more.

My questions are: Has anyone been through this as well? How did you handle the pain? We're you able to deliver naturally between the prolapse, poly, breech, etc? Did you go to term or full term? Did you suffer from depression? I really need a life line... Especially if this may go on for another 6 weeks.
« Last Edit: May 02, 2015 at 09:52 PM by Kihran »

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I am so glad you found our group!

First off, have you seen this page about urine obstructions in newborns? http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/KUDiseases/pubs/newborns/. Having that information may give you a greater sense of control as you're talking with your son's doctors.

With all of the financial, emotional and physical challenges you are facing, it's no wonder you're feeling depressed -- and probably overwhelmed and even hopeless. How soon can you talk to your OB or general practitioner about this? Each hospital has social workers who are there exactly for this reason, and they are generally covered by insurance. There are often social workers who specifically work with high-risk moms and NICU parents. PLEASE take advantage of this service.

If I can offer another suggestion, try to have more interaction with other people. Invite them over, even if the house is a mess, or you feel lousy or you haven't brushed your hair in three days. :) It is SO important to make those connections. I also hope you'll join our Tuesday Live Chat (2 pm Eastern, at blog.keepemcookin.com).

There is a health and wellness counselor named Parijat Deshpande who has joined us for our Tuesday Live Chats many times, and she is wonderful. She is so full of ideas and methods for getting through a high-risk pregnancy. She offers free 30-minute consultations to KeepEmCookin members. I know your funds are very limited, but I hope you'll at least reach out to her for the free call. Whatever you decide, please check visit her website and click on her "Free Resources" page. http://www.parijatdeshpande.com/#!perinatal/cw56

Also, check out this post: http://forum.keepemcookin.com/index.php?topic=595.msg2131#msg2131

Please keep us posted!
(((huhs)))
Angela
« Last Edit: May 03, 2015 at 10:25 AM by Angela »

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Hi Kihran,

I'm so glad that you reached out. KEC is a fantastic support group and I'm sure you will here many stories from mamas who have experienced what you and your little guy are going through specifically.

With so many physical difficulties plus the worry about your son and the financial stressors it makes complete sense that you would feel depressed and hopeless.

I'd love to encourage you to check out the Beating Bedrest Blues Teleseminar that I hosted with Angela and Darline from Mamas on Bedrest a while back on how to keep going when you feel low. We go over simple strategies on things you can do no matter how restricted your movement is so you can get your mood back up and start enjoying your pregnancy despite the complications. You can check it out here completely free: http://bit.ly/1dGagsh

I would also like to encourage you to please consider signing up for my Spark Hope Power Session. I know how depressing it can be when you feel awful in your body and when you keep hearing bad news. You're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop and it can weigh so heavy on you. I will work with you for 1 hour and we will come up with really doable and helpful strategies you can use to get through the next 6 weeks. You can learn more here. http://bit.ly/1KFcnHM  Please don't hesitate to contact me if you have any questions.

Wishing you the absolute best. It's so hard - so, so hard - but you are not at all alone. Hang in there!
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Hey Kihran! Just checking in on you. How are you doing?
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Just wanted to say hi. I thought my pregnancy was going perfectly until a little over a week ago when I found out my cervix was funneling. All I can say is yes, I absolutely feel depressed too. I have only been on bedrest for 1 week todat and omg I had noooo idea it would be this hard! I feel like a ticking time bomb. When I first got pregnant I had these grand ideas of how I was going to deliver naturally and home. Well now my goal is just to deliver a living healthy baby, weather that me c section, vaginally, at this point all I care about is having that living breathing baby in my arms. So each day I just thank God for another day my baby is inside me growing and focus on goal weeks. my first goal is 36 weeks, then from there 28, then 30 and so on and so on. I  do need to find a hobby to pass the time in bed however. Anyway, just wanted to say hang in there and that your not alone.

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Hi HardinFam,

How are you holding up? The first couple of weeks of bedrest are definitely the worst but I completley understand the ticking time bomb feeling! How are you coping with things? Have you found a hobby to do on bedrest yet?

Let us know how we can support you! Wishing you a long pregnancy from here on out!
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Helping moms with a high-risk pregnancy & on bed rest feel calmer and more confident so they can have healthier pregnancies and healthier babies.

Comprehensive, personalized support specifically for high-risk moms: http://bit.ly/laborofloveHRP