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Thirdtimesacharm

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« on: November 04, 2015 at 09:25 PM »
Hello! 

I'm new here so I'll tell you a little about myself. 

This is my third pregnancy and I'm currently 27 weeks 2 days.  My history is a twin pregnancy in 2007 that ended with a PROM at 18 weeks and delivery at 20 weeks.  I spent two weeks in the hospital at that time.  I got pregnant with my son in July of 2008 and was monitored very closely due to my prior loss.  My cervix measured short beginning at 23 weeks so no cerclage but ended up on hospital bed rest for 10 weeks before getting to go home at 34 weeks and finally delivery (after induction!) at 38 weeks.  I have a very healthy and energetic 6 year old.  I have also been monitored closely during this pregnancy and my cervix has never measured over 3cm.  I've been seeing a perinatologist since 12 weeks and he said no cerclage this time either because I've never actually been diagnosed with an incompetent cervix or been in pre-term labor.  He didn't think that the benefits of a cerclage outweighed the risks to the pregnancy. 

Now, my cervix is measuring about 1cm although the physicians will no longer measure it.  Both the perinatologist and my regular OB feel as though pre-term labor is not an if but a when.  I've had one negative FFN last Monday and will continue to have those until I have a positive.  I finally asked my OB to put me on bed rest at home.  Neither she or my perinatologist see the benefit of bed rest.  Again, they feel as though if delivery is going to happen, there's not much we can do about it.  I have had the steroid injections for baby's lungs at 25 weeks.  I've insisted on weekly monitoring and the FFN testing.  Both doctors really didn't even want to do that. 

I know that the result is so worth all of the pain and anxiety but it's hard, especially with a little guy at home who doesn't really understand why I can't do the things for him that he is so used to me doing.  I'm a worrier so that's what I spend most of my time doing. :(  I'm hanging in there. 

I think that I joined this forum to remind me that my new little guy is safer inside than out.  Sometimes it feels as though the specialists can take better care of him than I can. 

Looking forward to hearing from others!

Kmuss

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« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2015 at 01:21 PM »
Hey there, welcome!! So sorry to hear of your previous loss, but so glad that your second pregnancy landed you with a healthy little dude!

The good news is you are so close to the 28 week milestone which is such a HUGE jump in baby's development. Hitting that mark will hopefully bring you a lot of peace of mind, and from there on out, every day and every week that baby stays in is a huge blessing and less NICU time! Have you decided to put yourself on a modified bed rest even though your docs aren't convinced? I think to some extent they are right-- your water can break while you are laying down, and you can contract and dilate while laying down... but it is hard to deny that laying down takes pressure off the cervix and for most people also decreases contractions. Anyone who isn't sure if bed rest works needs to read some of these stories on this site, because WOW does it work. Have you been placed on progesterone suppositories or anything else?

A little about me, I am 28 weeks 4 days with a little boy. I have had a short cervix since 22 weeks and it is dynamic, but currently holding at around 1.4 cm. I have been on bed rest and progesterone suppositories for 6 weeks. My bed rest is semi-strict, but I am at home. I can get up for the bathroom and every-other-day showers, but otherwise have to be laying down. I do sit up to eat but I stay reclined somewhat. Currently I get cervix measurements every 2 weeks and probably will continue to until I deliver. I had a negative FFN at 25 weeks but haven't had one since, but I will at my next appointment.

Good luck and keep us updated on your progress as you go along! Wishing you a long and healthy pregnancy!

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« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2015 at 06:10 PM »
Hi!  Thanks for reaching out!  I have put myself on bed rest.  It took me a couple of conversations with my OB before she agreed to write for it for my employer.  I have also been on progesterone suppositories since 17 weeks.  My next FFN is on Monday so I'm hoping for a negative!  My OB refuses to even monitor the cervix any more.  She said that at this point, there is absolutely nothing they can do to stop the shortening.  I have another appointment next week with my perinatologist for a growth scan.  Neither of these physicians is great about communicating with the other so I generally spend most of my time bringing them up to date on what the other says.  Frustrating at times! 

My bed rest consists of just staying off of my feet and lying down most of the time.  I'm a full-time student pursuing my Masters degree so I do have to sit up to write papers and complete other assignments.  Thankfully I can complete my work online and don't have to actually attend any classes.  I also take my son to school daily. 

Congrats on 28 weeks!  That's my next milestone and I'm looking forward to it.  I can feel the baby getting bigger and stronger which gives me tremendous amounts of hope.  Do you have a name for your little guy yet? 

Nice to hear from you!

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« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2015 at 06:03 AM »
Hi, welcome to the group!

I think it's the right decision to put yourself on bed rest as reading the success stories it definetly  helps. And congrats on nearly getting to the 28 week milestone. When's your next appointment? Like Kmuss I would push to get progesterone to help keep baby on longer. It's frustrating that they will not carry on measuring your cervix as even though they say they cannot do anything at least you will have reassurance, which is a huge factor for us mommies...and can help with anxiety.

This is my 2nd pregnancy, i delivered my baby boy at 22weeks last year due to short  and an incompetent cervix. He sadly died a few minutes after I delivered him last December. I have been on modified bed rest since 14 weeks where they measured my cervix at 24mm funnelling, at 15 weeks it was 21mm and 16 weeks it went to 30mm, no funnelling. I have a cerclage in and also take progesterone every night. I am now currently 19 weeks and counting down the days until I reach my first goal of 24 weeks. This baby will be born 1 day after the due date of my 1st born so the gestation dates are the same which is very nerve racking. Next appointment is on Monday which I am anxious about as it has been 3 weeks since my last one.

Lee us updated??

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« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2015 at 04:55 PM »
Thirdtimesacharm-- that is awesome to feel the baby get stronger and the kicks get bigger and know you are on your way to your next milestone! I feel like you will get there and beyond since you are fighting for what you need with the bed rest and everything. My little guy's name is Caleb Matthew, have your named your little one yet??

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« Reply #5 on: November 07, 2015 at 06:34 PM »
Hi Natlg--

Your story sounds so similar to mine.  My first pregnancy ended at 20 weeks with a loss of both girls.  One was born on 11/05 and the other on 11/07 in 2007.  My original due date with that pregnancy was 03/28/2008.  With my son, my due date was 03/28/2009.  Those kinds of reminders during a subsequent pregnancy after loss are so hard to get through.  Those dates will stick with me forever. 

Thankfully, the OB that I had for both my first and second pregnancy was a saint.  She recognized those hard dates and helped me get through them.  She also promised me that she would do everything in her power to make sure I didn't deliver my son on 03/28.  She just knew what I needed to hear to keep me sane during that year.  It took a lot! 

Unfortunately, she no longer practices OB and only does GYN.  I'm working with different doctors with differing view points.  Admittedly, I'm not very assertive so it's really hard for me to stand up for myself and communicate my needs to remain sane during this pregnancy. 

Good luck to you during this pregnancy!  It really is a very short amount of time but to those of us who are living on bed rest and with all of these restrictions, the days just drag on.  I wish you the best of luck and hope to keep in touch. 

Thanks!

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« Reply #6 on: November 09, 2015 at 06:58 PM »
Went back to the doctor today and my FFN was negative!  Hopefully, this means two more weeks of growing and getting stronger for my little guy.  Still on bed rest and dealing with the usual aches and pains of being horizontal all day. Yeah!

I have a growth scan with the perinatologist on Friday and start weekly biophysical profiles for baby next Monday.  One hour glucose was abnormal so I get to do the three-hour test next week. 

Good luck to all this week!

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« Reply #7 on: November 10, 2015 at 09:02 AM »
What good news! Doesn't the negative FFN just let you breathe a little sigh of relief!? My 2hr was 7 points high last week so I did the 3hr and passed it. Good luck, I hope you do too!