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sterlingrose

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Shortening cervix 23 +3
« on: January 07, 2017 at 09:17 PM »
Hi everyone- I'm so glad to have found this group. I'm hoping it will help me be more relaxed and save my sanity.

I went to my Doc on the 27th and was surprised with the news that my cervix was measuring short. I was immediately put on modified bed rest and progesterone. I was to return to the specialist after 1 week to remeasure my cervix and see if it has made a difference.

Despite having a family history of women who have all had short cervix, I was reassured that it was not genetic and I should be ok. I had no prior issues in my pregnancy, and was active and working. Needless to say, I was very surprised by this news.

Unfortunately, my awful prescription insurance company took a week to get me my mess, so when I returned for my appt, there was little change.

I went to my regular Doc yesterday to get his opinion on things. He measured cervix again, in addition to doing and ffn test. My cervix measured smaller at 1.8cm, and my test came back positive. Because of this, he has given me restricted bed rest and I will have to go to hospital on Tuesday to get a steroid shot for baby's lungs.

I am stressed for numerous reasons. One is work. I just started my job in September and have been at this place for a very short amount of time. I qualify for almost nothing in regards to a leave. I am filing for maternal disability, but am not sure if it will be approved. It also takes about one month to hear a decision. In the meantime I am afraid I will lose my health insurance. This is a huge concern. I can try signing up for NY healthcare, but don't know how much it will cost and if they will cover my doctors and meds.

I also miss everyone from work. I am a people pleaser, and I am getting nowhere fast by laying here at home. I am older, being 36, and I was starting completely new. Now, I am no longer building myself and am stalled because I need to take a leave.

Lastly, I was very much frightened when my doc called to tell me my ffn was positive and I'd have to remain on bed rest, plus get the steroid shot. Our goal is for me to get to 28 weeks. I have trouble sleeping because of the worry. I know I need to take it one step at a time, but it's easier said than done.

Thanks for listening/reading. Greetings and best wishes to you all.

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Re: Shortening cervix 23 +3
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2017 at 09:36 AM »
Dear Sterlingrose,I can completely understand your situation because I am going through it as well.
I had a previous loss of my little boy st 24 weeks in 2014 and it was all blamed on infection or IC. With my second pregnancy this time, my cervix was keeping ok until 24+6 weeks when I was told it had shortened considerably and I was asked to be on bed rest with progesterone pessaries - I am in the UK and here they prescribe pessaries instead of injections.
Fast forward, I am 28+3 today and each day is a blessing!
You will get there, keep positive and have faith.
I understand the work angle but I think that is not as important as the little one cooking inside you. Get yourself some books and activities books, Netflix is a good companion too.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, this forum is a great support.
Look after yourself and stay strong.

ceecee31

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« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2017 at 10:18 AM »
Hi Sterlingrose!! I am so sorry that you're going through this.

I'll start off my letting you know that my cervix measured 1.5-1.8 cms at 24 weeks and I went on to deliver my son at 40w+. He'll be 10 months old tomorrow. The ended up on pretty strict bed rest, vaginal progesterone tablets, and also had steroid shots st 24 weeks. I was too late for a cerlage, which was super stressful at the time.

I know it must be pretty nerve wracking given that you've just started your job but you may be surprised at how how supportive people can be. Is it possible for you to do any part of your job while on bed rest? Things might be stalled or paused but they aren't stopped. You'll be back at it sooner than you think. Honestly, my colleagues were so much more amazing and understanding then I could have ever expected.

I can't imagine how overwhelming it must be to have to be worried about healthcare. I'm a Canadian so I'm not sure I can offer any advice on that front but perhaps someone else can offer advice. Surely there must be something available?!

What is your support network like? Family, friends, neighbours, coworkers?

Thinking of you. xo
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sterlingrose

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« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2017 at 02:39 PM »
Hi. Thank you for your kind words. I am extremely fortunate to have support. My mother has come to help me. As someone who is used to doing everything for themselves, it is weird to rely on someone else. However, she is kind and patient and I know that is priceless. I just hate not being able to help or do things.

ceecee31

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« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2017 at 03:51 PM »
Having to rely on other people for everything is so tough. I was so active until I was placed on bed rest and it was such a huge shock and adjustment. While it's never easy, it does, eventually become easier to cope.

I found that it was helpful to exercise my brain and I wasn't able to exercise my body. Lots of reading, language videos, documentaries, puzzles, word searches, etc.

So happy to hear you have your Mom with you.

sterlingrose

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« Reply #5 on: January 10, 2017 at 06:29 PM »
Update- Every time I go to the doctor, which is once a week, I keep expecting to hear good news. I'm not sure why I continue to be surprised. So far, every visit has shown my cervix to be getting shorter, despite progesterone. Today, my visit showed the cervix funneling. My doctor immediately ordered a pessary to be inserted. Boy did that hurt! The things we do for our babies. I was also then given a steroid shot for baby. They told me to return tomorrow for shot #2.

Is it always like this? I hate bad news every time. And while I was at the hospital a pregnant/expecting group came in. All those women...so lucky. I can't help but be a little envious.

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« Reply #6 on: January 10, 2017 at 08:10 PM »
Hi Sterling Rose,

I'm so sorry to hear that you got some bad news.  Glad they are watching you closely though. How many weeks are you?

ceecee31

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« Reply #7 on: January 10, 2017 at 11:23 PM »
Hi Sterling,

Ugh, for what it's worth it all sounds like most stories on here - not sure if that's a comfort or not though. I had my steroid shots at 24 weeks, when they first saw the trouble and I was so nervous. No pessary for me, though I've seen other women post about having them.

Honestly, for me the news was never super good...it just plateaued with a "you're hanging on". And after a while you just sort of get used to it (maybe that's not the right way to put it....but after awhile you sort of get used to not hearing great news). Gosh, I've made it sound super depressing, but I promise it's not. It's tough as hell, but I think where you are right now is the worst of it. The very start is terrible. It remains all around crappy, but it gets easier to cope as the days pass by.

You can do this!!


I totally get the envy of those with easy pregnancies. When I was getting my second steroid shot, I was riding in the elevator with a fellow bringing up his new car seat so they could bring a baby home. All I could think was "good grief,  can us high risk ladies not have a separate bloody entrance or space". I almost started sobbing right there and then.
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sterlingrose

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« Reply #8 on: January 10, 2017 at 11:48 PM »
Thank you for the good advice. I will be 24 weeks tomorrow. I will be 4 weeks from my goal of 28 weeks. And if...once...I make it there, they will move it to 30 weeks, etc. I'm sure you're all aware. Anyway, it is hard seeing people who have no problem. I couldn't even get the pessary in without there being a problem...can't anything ever be easy? And I still worry about work and all the people I'm letting down. I'm a first year teacher, so the job is new. I miss my students and I'll pretty much have to start new again next year...if they keep me.

I love reading all your success stories of reaching your goals!! It makes me feel like I can do it.

Thanks!

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« Reply #9 on: January 12, 2017 at 12:34 PM »
Hey Sterling, how did it go yesterday??

With regards to work, have you told them how you are feeling? I'd honestly share with them your concerns - that you feel like you're letting them down, that you love your job and worry about not bring able to return to them, etc. People are surprisingly understanding with these things in my experience. Even more so than I expected because it's pretty easy to empathize with concern for the wellbeing of a baby or child.

I know this seems like a huge setback, but I promise you, in the grand scheme of things, it really isn't.

Hope you are holding up okay!

sterlingrose

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« Reply #10 on: January 13, 2017 at 12:08 AM »
Hi Ceecee- It was ok. I was a little concerned because after I had the pessary inserted, I was leaking some fluid and the baby moved less than ever. I think it must have just been a rest day for him because he was moving today, and my leakage stopped.

I have told my staff how I feel- guilty that I can't be there with them and feel I am letting them and my students down. They understand, but are stressed trying to get the work done. My students have special needs, and I had the perfectly under control with a solid routine. No, I hear they are acting up with the sub because she does nothing...just sits there and let's the assistants do the work. Not good! So I hate to hear my kids are taking steps back. We are all trying our best, I know. I also don't want my staff to start to resent me and get burned out. It is what it is though, and we take things day by day.

I have 4 weeks to get to 28 weeks and that is my current focus...one day at a time. I got my second steroid shot. Oh, and I'm trying something new...the polar bear position. I put my head face down on my bed, butt up in air. It's supposed to encourage the baby to move away from the cervix and towards the lungs. I do this 4x a day for 15 minutes each occasion. I hear it works well. I certainly feel less pressure down there.

How are you?

Best wishes to you!

-Sterlingrose

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« Reply #11 on: February 23, 2017 at 12:14 AM »
Hi sterling - I just noticed I never replied to your last message! I'm so sorry for that. How are you holding up?