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You can do it! My success story.
« on: June 05, 2019 at 05:09 PM »
To the strongest group of ladies I know,

For the last 14 weeks or so, I have been reading through the various posts on this page looking for answers, and comparable stories. What I found was so much more: suggestions, stories of encouragement, support, motivation, advice. Now at 37 weeks, I have finally found the courage to share my story in the hopes that it will give other women out there the same courage I got from reading through other women’s stories.

 To all you strong women who helped me get through this, thank you! To all those strong women who are going through this, you CAN do this. Try to be positive, imagine holding your healthy baby in your arms at the end of this, and try as much as you can to minimize your stress.

Here is my story: At around 23 weeks, I was told that my cervix measured less than it should at 2.6 cm and was put on bedrest. I don’t remember the doctor saying too much, but his sad expression spoke volumes to me. I immediately looked online and researched what this meant. I then freaked out and spent the rest of the week crying myself to sleep and trying to figure out how I was going to deal with the consequences. I have a 2.5 year old, to whom we had already announced the pregnancy and I was worried at how she would handle the news if the baby wouldn’t make it. On the other hand, i was also worried that If the baby would make it, but just past viability, it would have such huge developmental issues, and would have to lead a terrible life once I was no longer around to take care of it. For me, in my head, these were the two options: either baby wouldn’t make it or baby would make it but just let viability with a long NICU stay and with numerous developmental issues.

At my next appointment, I asked my doctor if I could get the cerclage (which I had read about online). Unfortunately, by that time, doctor had said that it was too late for me to have an emergency cerclage. Instead, Doctor gave me progesterone suppositories, some magnesium supplements, scheduled another appointment 10 days later and then sent me on my way. Although my cervix still measured 2.6cm at this last appointment, I left the office crying, worried that the baby would come out any day now without a cerclage in place.

Things however got a little better when my cervix measurements remained consistent for the following 2 appointments. I thought “ok this bedrest and these progesterone suppositories are doing the trick, just need to keep at it”. Unfortunately, my optimism was short lived: at my next appointment (29 weeks), my cervix had shrunk to 1.9cm and my doctor immediately sent me to the hospital to get the steroid shots to help the babies lungs develop. I stayed in the hospital for about 4 days. I think those were the worst 4 days of my life. Despite trying to be strong for the baby and for the cervix (I imagine blowing my stuffy nose could not do any good for my cervix) I would spend my days and nights in the hospital crying. In my head, this was it, the baby was coming, otherwise why would they administer the shots?!

At the end of my 4 day stay, the doctor checked my cervix again and noticed that it hadn’t moved, so he sent me home. But I was not optimistic. I was convinced the doctor thought the baby would arrive soon. He wouldn’t have given me the shots otherwise. At home, I remained on bedrest, but limited my movements even more than I had when I first found out I had a short cervix. Basically, I never left my bedroom unless I had to use the toilet, and would only shower once a week (gross I know, but I thought those 15 minutes a day standing in the shower could make a difference).

Well, since then, my cervix measurements did not move. At my 35 week appointment, my cervix still measured 1.9 cm. Today, I’m happy to announce that I am at 37 weeks and from the ultrasound, the baby looks good. Doctor has finally said I can start moving again and my 2.5year old couldn’t be happier to see her mommy being active again.I don’t know when I will be giving birth, but I do know that I am finally looking forward to it.

It was a long, sometimes lonely, road to get to this point. I cried a lot, I tried to relax my mind by taking up knitting, I prayed a little, and I consulted this group A LOT!

Although I believe the cerclage and pessary are great tools at our disposal, for all of those who, like me, aren’t viable candidates for these tools , know that I managed to make it to 37 weeks without either. I believe that the progesterone, magnesium, strict bedrest and support from this group were the 4 factors that really got me to where I am today.

Be strong ladies! You can do this! My thoughts are with you all!

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« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2019 at 04:23 PM »
That is FANTASTIC! I'm so happy for you that you made it so far. I'm wishing you a safe and speedy delivery!

Thanks for sharing your story. It will continue to inspire other high-risk moms for a long, long time.

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« Reply #2 on: June 11, 2019 at 06:17 PM »
Thanks for sharing!!! Congrats mama. Your story is very similar to mine. I was diagnosed at 19 weeks with a short cervix of 2.1cm via ultrasound and sent to emerg where the doctor told me more about this and gave me a prescription for progesterone. I had finally become optimistic about this pregnancy as I had a sub chorionic hemorrhage in the first trimester and this being only my second pregnancy with our 🌈 baby as I had a miscarriage 3yrs previous and told by specialists that is never get pregnant again. At 43 yo this pregnancy was an unexpected blessing and with this news of my cervix I feared that this was it for our dreams of building a family.

Fast forward to 24 weeks, my cervix has shortened to 0.9cm and was funneling. I was sent to Labour and Delivery where I was given the steroid shots and told about the option of a cerclage and placed on modified bed rest. Upon looking at research I decided to not go with a cerclage as I wasn’t a good candidate. I felt so defeated and my husband and I were both so scared. I decided I needed to stay positive by focusing letting go of my very active lifestyle and embracing this new norm as I was the only one capable of doing this job. At 28 weeks, I had another assessment which showed that my cervix had further shortened and was told it was “non-existent”. I was then placed on full bed rest and limited to only essential movement and was no longer able to be on my feet. I did take showers but this consisted mostly of me sitting on the side of the tub. I continued to use this time to strengthen my mindset by being grateful for all the good in my life and took comfort in knowing that every appointment showed my baby healthy along with me well, other than a short cervix. I kept telling myself it was short and mighty just like me. 🤣

Fast forward and I’m now 34 weeks, I’m slowly able to lift some restrictions and next week all will be lifted at 35 weeks. I feel so blessed to have made it to 34. Last month I told our baby that I didn’t want to share my birthday month (May) with them nor my husband’s (June). I’ve had July 1st in my head as when he/she can arrive as it’s Canada Day here and baby will be at term st 37 weeks.

Every day this baby keeps cooking further strengthens me. I think back to my OB telling me at 20 weeks about 3 other clients who were diagnosed with a short cervix and how one had their baby at 30 weeks and the other two she had to break their waters at 39. I feel so grateful to have surpassed the one client as I was so fearful that I wouldn’t make it to the 3rd trimester and now I’m close to the end of my 8th month.
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« Reply #3 on: June 12, 2019 at 01:53 PM »
@Angela, thank you for providing us with this platform to share our stories. I can’t tell you how much this forum helped strengthen my hope and helped me push through the worst of times. I’ll be 38 weeks tomorrow and everyone is now saying the baby will prob come out later than expected 🤣.

@Daizy_Gurl, congratulations on making it this far! It’s such a relief isn’t it. Our stories are indeed similar. I’m happy you’ve gotten this far and hope he/she will arrive on july 1st as you wish.

It’s a tough and scary road, many times I felt lonely and guilty for loosing out on time with my toddler. But we made it, and the finish line is very close. Us women are much stronger than people give us credit for. We can do it and you ladies can too!

@Daizy_Gurl, keep us posted on the birth. Would love to hear when he/she arrives!

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